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Hey peeps!
I'm after some advice on wether to get my navel pierced or not. I know, I know, it's not something someone else can tell you to do or not do, but still.
So I'm pretty sure that I have the right anatomy for it, but I'm a little on the chubbier side so I'm scared that it just won't look good :/ I do plan on losing weight, but we all know how easy that is /s
I also tend to wear a fair amount of high waisted stuff to help shape my waist and have read that that's not the best idea when you have your belly button pierced.
Also, I'm 30, so... Am I a bit old for this sort of thing? Is that something silly to worry about?
I know most of the answers will probably just say "Well lose weight then!" (yes, very helpful, thank you -_-) but I guess I'm just asking for y'all thoughts?
Thanks folks xx

Happy Friday! We're beginning our next project this weekend and clearing out a janky old plywood/OSB deck the previous homeowner's son left in our yard in preparation for laying a paver patio. The spot itself is really nice with 3 mature trees, but the ground underneath the rotted wood platform is super muddy and a good couple of inches lower than the rest of the yard. There are also some chunky tree roots around the edges just due to how low the ground is in the area.
We understand the importance of laying a good base and how far we have to dig but we are a little confused about whether or not we need to backfill and compact the area with soil before digging down to the appropriate depth, laying gravel and sand, and then our pavers. Does anyone have experience with something similar or just know what the right approach is here? Thanks in advance :)

I went into some old fort to steal part of Mehrune's Razor from an orc bandit chief.
In the fort I found an iron pot with two big potatoes in it. One of the potatoes was rolling around and around and around in the pot like it was either boiling or haunted. I took a short video of it, but I can't figure out how to post videos here. Anyway, is this a one-time glitch, or have you guys seen it as well?

I have a son who is 5 years old and I am worried he may have a learning disability or potentially be on the spectrum. He was/is speech delayed and he was enrolled in speech therapy when he was about 2 for a year or so and it seemed to help. When my wife gave birth to our second child they took us off the roster and placed us back on the waiting list(BS, I know). However, his vocabulary has exploded since then. He knows all kinds of words for objects and things. When we are out, he points stuff out by name and genuinely surprises me how much he knows. He seems very in touch with emotions and knowing when others are sad, mad, happy as well as does a great job on how he is feeling.
Where the issue comes is when we ask him to recollect his day. Everything seems just like he has a pre-calculated response that gets us to talking to him. Which is often repeating the words we say to him
We ask him "how was school, what did you do today?" We usually get "School!" or he will say his teachers name. We ask him what they ate for snack and he usually says "Milk and Cereal". We ask him "who did played with today" and we get the same three names. We ask him "how was grandmas house" he just says "Nana!". If we push hard and kind of jog his memory he will start to kind of fill in the story a bit. Other than that, he seems to have trouble sitting still at school and paying attention during story time, but I feel that is somewhat normal in kids.
I am not asking for medical advice, I realize the only way to know is to have him tested, but I want to get other parents perspectives, insight, experience? Is this normal behavior? Am I expecting too much? Is there a better way I could phrase my questions? Is there some type of exercise to help him?
I am not expecting the story telling ability of Hemingway, but I want to hear more from him if possible. I am afraid he may fall behind in school.

Isn't the purpose of GO Transit, outside of simply moving bodies around, to be a better alternative to driving?
Pricing things out, the Go Transit is NOT cheaper than my driving a 23 year old SUV to Toronto and back.
I religiously track my fuel mileage, and can tell you exactly how much it costs me per km to drive my vehicle. I just drove to Toronto yesterday. The entire trip used up 15L of fuel. At a cost of fuel of $1.366, that's $20.49 in fuel.
Using the GoTranset planner, the rount trip cost is $20.10 PLUS the TTC ride would be required. I don't have the TTC cost but I'm quite sure it'llbe more than the $0.39 centres difference so far.
It is utterly NOT more economical, cheaper or even more convenient to use the Go Transit. Hell, even if I did have to pay for parking, that cost is negligle compared to the convenience of coming/going when you need and not wait for specific times, assuming you don't leave the city late after the trains have shut down for the day.
The greed that runs the company has ruined the whole purpose of it. Having lived in other countries, visisted even a bunch more, this implementation of 'public transportation' has been completely attrocious.
*waits patently for the inevitable "but if you factor inthe cost of a new car...." to use "not everyone is buying new cars....."
20 Years ago I made a statement that older cars are much more economical than buying a new one. I see that still stands. I'll take a $5000 car (hell, even a pickup truck) and I'll never, ever put in the $60K worth of fuel that a new one will use in it's lifetime).

I'm new to Proxmox and servers in general but I recently got an old workstation desktop to play around with and learn. My main goal is to share a ZFS pool as a NAS that is used by Windows machines on the local network and have those files also visible to Plex in an LXC container on the server.
I began by passing through the ZFS pool to a VM running OMV and then was going to create a shared file that would be accessible to windows over SMB and the Plex container over NFS. This seems like more overhead than necessary and I would like to have space on the ZFS pool for some other VMs so I do not want to pass it through to OMV anymore.
I'm now looking to create an SMB share on the host and passing through that shared directory to the Plex VM. Is this the better solution? I'm still in the process of figuring out how to actually get it done but want to make sure I am on the right track at least.
Thanks!

I got epididymitis (right testicle) 2 weeks after my 2nd covid vaccine shot of AstraZeneca in June 2021 - my right testicle started hurting and got swollen. Ongoing for neatly 2 years now. Zero prior health issues. Testicle is swollen compared to the left and hurts upon touching. It also itches a lot. No constant or dull pain, however - it's limited only to the touch. After getting COVID 2 months ago, left testicle inflamed out of nowhere as well.
Did everything - ultrasounds (only show inflammation), urine/semen culture tests (negative for bacteria), blood tests for cancer (negative), urologists visits (seen 4 so far, different countries too), antibiotic courses (did 1-month course of Ofloxacin and another month of Bactrim - didn't do anything). Supplements too - Turmeric, Quercetin, Saw Palmetto, Nattokinase - you name it. Nothing helped, no one could figure out how to fix it.
As it wasn't stopping for so many months, I decided to test myself for an autoimmune disease as none of the urologists thought about that, neither did my GP. Did ANA test privately, which came back positive - 1:320 homogeneous. Had COVID at the time (December 2022), so decided to ask to contact my GP and managed to convince them for another one month later. Second ANA test came back positive again.
Further dsDNA + ENA tests came back negative for any of the 4-5 major auto-immune diseases (lupus or any of the other major syndromes. ANA Immunoblot also came back negative.
C-reactive protein (for inflammation) came abnormal, with 14 mg/L [< 5.0]. Followed by that, I decided to have 2 additional tests out of concerns for either vasculitis or hepatitis: ANCA + Anti-smooth muscle antibody. Former came back negative, but the latter... came strong positive. This specific test is done for auto-immune hepatitis, so turns out I may have got that. Further liver tests (AST/ALT) show ALT is high (87 IU/L [10.0 - 60.0]), but AST is normal (29 IU/L [< 50.0]). IGG tests are negative (G,A,M) and Anti-liver kidney autoantibodies are also negative. All other liver enzymes are within normal ranges.
I have no idea how the vaccine caused it or the correlation between that and my testiciular pain. I've had fatty liver for several years now, but never any symptoms. Could be that the vaccine triggered a dormant hepatitis which I've had for years, or just caused it by itself. There is a small chance my fatty liver causes a false positive, but I doubt it. But one thing is for sure - the vaccine ruined my life.
My GP texted me immediately with a request to contact him, so further tests are about to follow with a gastro-enterologist (liver ultrasound + potential biopsy). I am likely to be on steroids or suppressants for the rest of my life and just pray it doesn't get any worse.
I finally have answer on my testicular pain, although I am now very anxious and scared about the future. I am almost 30 years old and I feel like I just lost all prospects for my life and future. It was sad to see doctors sending me away on meds for so many months or stretches being recommended as the ultimate solution online whenever I posted or asked for help.
Turns out no one decided to bark the autoimmune disease tree but myself and I am glad I did the research for the tests I requested - otherwise I still would've been wandering around with no diagnosis.

"Healthy families provide its members with an emotional and spiritual bond through the sharing of similar values, beliefs, traditions, shared experiences, and activities. Healthy families offer its members unconditional and nonjudgmental love and support. Family members feel surrounded by people who care about who they are and how they feel, and they each take an invested interest in helping each other grow into human beings who feel hopeful and positive toward self, others, and life as a whole. The dream common to all children is to have two parents who love them, who will be there to witness their most amazing accomplishments, to celebrate with them, and support them when they are down or when they have failed in one way or another. Healthy families provide all this and more. On the other hand, for those of us who were raised in toxic family systems, the concept of home is quite different. Home equates to the creation of fear, anxiety, a lack of acceptance, and a lack of unconditional love and support. Home was the place we least wanted to be. Growing up in a toxic family is a hollow, confusing, maddening, and lonely experience. When we are raised by toxic parents, we live in a unique kind of crazy where we feel more like things to manage and keep on a schedule rather than as human beings to love, nurture, and care for. We leave childhood feeling emotionally homeless. Having a healthy home and family life is the dream we never got to experience growing up. We may have even glanced into the windows of other homes and felt envy for what we never had."
"Toxic family abuse is always two-fold. The first layer of abuse is the original poor treatment by our toxic family members, namely our parents. The second layer is their denial of the ways in which they treat and harm us, irrespective of the evidence as it manifests in our behavior and in our tragically low levels of self-worth. The sinister and obscure nature of their emotional abuse leaves us alone to pick up the crushed pieces of our self-worth and all aspects of how we function in life, love, and relationships. When we try and explain our fears of love, life, and people to others, we tend to come off sounding needy, desperate, and paranoid. This is because psychological abuse is not equipped with a clear set of descriptive indicators that our toxic family members find undeniably true. Consequently, to them at least, we can rarely if ever prove what has happened to us. All of the descriptors are subjective and therefore debatable, just as our toxic family members need for them to be. Because emotional abuse is impossible to prove, we often have an incredibly difficult time describing or putting into words what exactly has happened to us that is so bad. We know things were not or are not normal, but we don’t know why. Emotional abuse moves quickly. Just as we’re about to put our finger on it, it seems to slip away. Without a clear set of concrete, provable terms, many of us question if our abuse or neglect was real. Did it really happen? Or are we just making it up? We reason that if we were truly abused, our abuse should be easy to explain."
"With healthy persons, we are dealing with individuals who operate with a sense of balance and composure. They are self-reflective, logical, collected, and able to listen to others with an openness to learn. But with a pathological person, we are dealing with the emotional immaturity of a two-to five-year-old in the body of an adult. The very reason toxic people are so frustrating to deal with is because we’re looking at an adult but dealing with a toddler. The majority of us grew out of our two-year-old narcissism as a function of normal development. When an adult still responds from this regressed level of self-centeredness, it is very difficult for the visual and auditory parts of our brain to put a toddler’s emotional response system inside of what looks and sounds like an adult, let alone when this adult is our parent. Like toddlers, toxic people base all their decisions on what they feel rather than on what is right. The thought of any consequences of their actions pale in comparison to getting what they want in the moment. Contrast this with healthy people: they think before they act and are mindful of how what they do may negatively impact themselves or others."
"Toxic people cannot tolerate consideration of others. When trying to have a conversation with them, they are self-referential rather than self-reflective. When you share something about yourself with such people, they immediately turn the account into a story about them. The self-referential side of toxicity turns toxic people into the greatest one-uppers, name-droppers, and liars you’ll ever come across. You cannot have a mutually beneficial conversation, where there is a natural back-and-forth flow. Sharing does not exist when communicating with toxic people."
"Enmeshed Parents, on the other hand, view themselves as symbiotic with their children. They see their children as extensions of who they are, and therefore try to dictate their children’s lives—their choices—providing them no freedom to separate and individuate into healthy, unique, self-sufficient, confident people."
"Here is what I have learned and what I teach daily in my office. Being genetically related to our toxic family members doesn’t make us family. The real definition of family refers to constructs much deeper than bloodline or DNA. Family is about love, sacrifice, honesty, protection, support, unconditional love, reciprocity, acceptance, security, respect, protection, loyalty, and safety. It is not about cruelty, gang-up warfare, triangulation, manipulation, abandonment, lying, criticism, selfishness, betrayal, or gossip. When a family is full of these negative qualities, it is a family in name only. It is really merely a group of toxic people to whom we happen to be biologically related. No family is perfect, but not all families are plagued with deep patterns of superficial connections, destructive games, and psychological abuse. The psychological aspects of family should create a safe space for everyone to be wholly who they are. Family should create security, not break it down."
"There is a large misperception that females cannot be abusers. The fact is, many women, especially many mothers, are the source of intense relationship harm. Nevertheless, mothers manipulate a bit differently than fathers. Psychologically abusive mothers are sneakier, more covert and passive in their manipulations because they strive to hold up the billboard of a good mother to the public. This is not to say that no mothers are overtly abusive or violent. Certainly some are, especially if an addiction is involved. But most mothers thrive in the arena of emotional violence. Like all toxic people, a toxic mother’s greatest flaw lies in her belief that everything revolves around her."
"A child should never feel as if they need to earn a mother’s love. This will leave a void in their heart all of their life. A mother’s love needs to be given unconditionally to establish trust and a firm foundation of emotional intimacy in a child’s life. If love is withheld, a child will look for it in a million other ways, sometimes throughout their lifetime unless they come to some sort of peace with their past. The emotional foundation we give our children at home is foundational to their life. We cannot underestimate the value of home and the power of a mother’s love."
"When our mother is toxic, we quickly learn that the only way to attach to her is to be below her or strive to be the near perfect image of the child she is looking for. It becomes our task to take on all of her unfulfillable demands and neediness and to do exactly as she says. A toxic mother talks but never listens, and she gives advice but never takes any. And we have to deal with all of this because she’s our mother."
"Why Do They Have Children?
In an article written by Cindi Lopez, we learn that toxic mothers do not have children for the same reasons healthy mothers do. Toxic mothers choose to have children for only one reason: to have more mirrors. Lopez contends these women have children so their children will love them unconditionally, not the other way around. They have children to use, manipulate, and control. They have children to have someone to do things for them. They have children who can go out and reflect the false image of what a good mother they are to the world. Toxic mothers may claim that motherhood is the greatest gift, but this is not true for them. They end up experiencing children as burdens. Lopez makes it clear that these women didn’t expect that their cute, little, dependent babies would turn into unpleasant, ungrateful two-year-olds who have their own needs, minds, wants, and personalities. Toxic mothers want puppies who will love them no matter what, not real-life babies who grow up and can one day challenge them, expose them, and leave them. For healthy mothers, the most gratifying part of mothering is watching their children unfold in their own unique and independent ways. For a toxic mother, the natural passage of their children into their independence is experienced as an act of betrayal against her. If toxic mothers are not getting the attention they crave from their children, they experience their children as inconveniences who stand in their way of doing what they want to do for themselves."

I got epididymitis (right testicle) 2 weeks after my 2nd covid vaccine shot of AstraZeneca in June 2021 - my right testicle started hurting and got swollen. Ongoing for neatly 2 years now. Zero prior health issues. Testicle is swollen compared to the left and hurts upon touching. It also itches a lot. No constant or dull pain, however - it's limited only to the touch. After getting COVID 2 months ago, left testicle inflamed out of nowhere as well.
Did everything - ultrasounds (only show inflammation), urine/semen culture tests (negative for bacteria), blood tests for cancer (negative), urologists visits (seen 4 so far, different countries too), antibiotic courses (did 1-month course of Ofloxacin and another month of Bactrim - didn't do anything). Supplements too - Turmeric, Quercetin, Saw Palmetto, Nattokinase - you name it. Nothing helped, no one could figure out how to fix it.
As it wasn't stopping for so many months, I decided to test myself for an autoimmune disease as none of the urologists thought about that, neither did my GP. Did ANA test privately, which came back positive - 1:320 homogeneous. Had COVID at the time (December 2022), so decided to ask to contact my GP and managed to convince them for another one month later. Second ANA test came back positive again.
Further dsDNA + ENA tests came back negative for any of the 4-5 major auto-immune diseases (lupus or any of the other major syndromes. ANA Immunoblot also came back negative.
C-reactive protein (for inflammation) came abnormal, with 14 mg/L [< 5.0]. Followed by that, I decided to have 2 additional tests out of concerns for either vasculitis or hepatitis: ANCA + Anti-smooth muscle antibody. Former came back negative, but the latter... came strong positive. This specific test is done for auto-immune hepatitis, so turns out I may have got that. Further liver tests (AST/ALT) show ALT is high (87 IU/L [10.0 - 60.0]), but AST is normal (29 IU/L [< 50.0]). IGG tests are negative (G,A,M) and Anti-liver kidney autoantibodies are also negative. All other liver enzymes are within normal ranges.
I have no idea how the vaccine caused it or the correlation between that and my testiciular pain. I've had fatty liver for several years now, but never any symptoms. Could be that the vaccine triggered a dormant hepatitis which I've had for years, or just caused it by itself. There is a small chance my fatty liver causes a false positive, but I doubt it. But one thing is for sure - the vaccine ruined my life.
My GP texted me immediately with a request to contact him, so further tests are about to follow with a gastro-enterologist (liver ultrasound + potential biopsy). I am likely to be on steroids or suppressants for the rest of my life and just pray it doesn't get any worse.
I finally have answer on my testicular pain, although I am now very anxious and scared about the future. I am almost 30 years old and I feel like I just lost all prospects for my life and future. It was sad to see doctors sending me away on meds for so many months or stretches being recommended as the ultimate solution online whenever I posted or asked for help.
Turns out no one decided to bark the autoimmune disease tree but myself and I am glad I did the research for the tests I requested - otherwise I still would've been wandering around with no diagnosis.

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Newspaper headline, 2037: 15 year old - perfectly good legs and still starfishing her way through life.
My LO will literally starfish to get out of tummy time, simply roll back to her back, OR (my personal fav), scream cry until I roll her back even though she knows how to roll herself. If I’m super lucky, she’ll do the inchworm in her crib because that’s more fun then sleeping at night.
Zero progress toward crawling and it just is what it is. 🤷🏼‍♀️

Hello everyone, I sold some company stocks back in April of 2022. After a few days I had to wire those funds to a small local bank in order to fund a wealth management portfolio. With these old stocks, I was finally able the fund the portfolio minimum that was required to start one.
The rest of the leftover money from the sale was invested into crypto.
Since this is reported as income on the 1099-B, how can I prove that I reinvest all those funds back into the market and did not take them in as personal income.
I don’t to pay on taxes on money that I didn’t truly take in as personal income since I returned it to the markets.
On a side note, I can not take the lose on the crypto until next year since the bankruptcy of the exchange has not been finalized yet.

I know that many of us here have really spotty memories of our childhoods. I'm curious if anyone has ever successfully recovered any of those memories, and if so, how did you do it? And what was the outcome? Were you glad that you did because it helped to fill in some gaps, or did you regret it because it brought up old, buried, wounds?
Lately I've been wanting to remember more about the day my mother left. I was 5 years old, and the only thing I remember about that day is arriving home on the school bus and being surprised and confused that there was a moving van in the driveway. Given this memory of surprise and confusion, I assume that nobody explained to me beforehand that my parents were splitting up and my mom was leaving (I often wonder if the plan was for her to be out before I got home, and for whatever reason that didn't work out). So I'm really curious as to how that was handled when I walked in the door in the middle of it all, and what my response was. I guess I feel like this could be a pivotal moment in my CEN, and maybe I'm seeking some sort of validation or understanding that it did indeed go back that far. Ultimately I'm not entirely sure of my reasons for wanting to remember this day, but I feel like it could be important.
I can't ask my parents about this because a) I'm not in contact with them, and b) even if I was I don't think I'd get an honest answer out of them - they've had 40 years to craft their own narrative of events.

I’m trying to fill out the D1 form to change my name on my driving license (so I can vote), but I’m mega confused about what I’m supposed to be sending them.
I’ve got the D1 form, my old license in my deadname, and my deedpoll in my new name. Is there by other ID they require?
Also, how do I get them to change my gender? If anyone could like type out exactly what I need to write and how that’d be the most helpful.

A thought I keep seeing in healing-related media is that eventually, the victim has to stop thinking of themselves as the victim, and that identifying oneself as the victim is detrimental to healing.
I'd like to ask: how does one do that? At least, how does one do that safely?
I feel like if I stop reminding myself that I've been the victim of BPD abuse, then all the old gaslighting will come back into my brain and make me compliant with my pwBPD's whims and putdowns again. If I stop identifying as a victim, then I'll forget all the abuse I've been through (details seem hazier by the day, probably cPTSD-induced memory gaps), and her accusations of me being the abusive one will start to ring true again, which will bring me back under her control. (I've engaged in reactive abuse towards the end of the relationship. Mea culpa and I regret it.)
What are your thoughts? Is it unhealthy to think of oneself as the victim? What is the healthier alternative one should aim for?

I'm using google translate to work through some Finnish, and its gotten very confused with this passage from Jussi Aro's "Tie ja veräjä":

Jotkut niistä todella vanhoista heränneistä olivat myös todella syvältä maailmasta heränneitä, niin kuin Lammin vanhan emännän isäkin, Kaappo Kaaponpoika Porolan mäeltä. Hänestä tuli kerran puhe vanhan Iisakki Porolan luona, joka oli nuorena poikana kuullut tämän vanhan naapurinsa muistelevan. Kaappo oli ollut vuosikausia vankilassa, alun perin hänet oli tuomittu Siperiaan. Syynä oli ollut tappo eräissä häissä. Kaappo oli myöntänyt »heiluneensa mukana», mutta oli aina kieltänyt, että juuri hänen puukkonsa teki sen kuolettavan haavan. Ainakin hän Porolan isännän kertoman mukaan oli vanhoilla päivillään sanonut: — Mukana minä heiluin, mutta toinen oli se, joka tappoi.

This is what Google came up with:

Some of those really old awakened ones were also really awakened from the deep world, like the father of Lammi's old mistress, Kaappo Kaaponpoika from Porola hill. He once became the talk of old Iisakki Porola, who as a young boy had heard this old neighbor reminiscing. Kaappo had been in prison for years, originally he had been sentenced to Siberia. The reason had been a murder at a wedding. Kaappo had admitted that he had "swayed along", but had always denied that it was his knife that caused the fatal wound. At least, according to Porola's host, he had said in his old days: — I swayed along, but the other one was the one who killed.

1. The first sentence-- what the heck is going on here?
   
2. My attempt to make the second sentence more idomatic in English: "Old Iisakki Porola used to tell stories about him, who as a young boy had heard this old neighbor reminiscing." Is this the correct meaning of the sentence?
   
3. "Swayed along" -- does this mean "went along"? Is Kaappo saying that the other guy swung his knife first, and Kaappo was defending himself? Or does Kaappo mean that they were sort of "playing" with knives, not intending to fight or hurt each other, but the other guy did end up getting slashed and killed by Kaappo, presumably accidentally?
   
4. Bonus: How would you translate the book's title, "Tie ja veräjä"?
   

My baby is 3.5 months old and I keep the TV off while he is awake. I’ve been noticing moms that I know personally let their babies watch TV, including one that has her crib facing a flat screen tv on the wall. Curious if I’m being overly cautious by keeping TV off altogether. My mom also seems to feel that I’m being very strict in doing so. Wondering how others approach this.

This is probably obvious to a lot of people, but after a recent watch through I noticed how the writing has made Peggy so hate-able, that episodes where things really fall apart for her are super satisfying to watch, almost with an addiction-like dopamine rush
Example episodes are… -the one where she accidentally kidnaps a Mexican girl -mule for a convict -Sold a PhD -when the actor who plays monsignor says she’s old

Hi, first time here and hopefully I can get advice. I met this guy , L, in November 2019 at a bar and we hung out a couple of times and we become friends which turned to friends with benefits. Nothing serious. Then we hooked up for the last time in March 2020 a week before the Worldwide lockdown thanks to Covid. A couple of months later, I found out I was pregnant with L's son. I was scared and nervous but I told him. During the pregnancy he would ask every now and then about my health but nothing else, it was like our friendship was gone. I thought he wasn't interested in our baby so I just didn't bother with telling him how seriously bad my healthwas duringmy pregnancy. Unfortunately our son came early, I told him I was in labor and when I gave birth by sending him pictures( In South Africa, I couldn't have anyone in the room with me when I gave birth)
In my son's first year, L only saw him twice( when the baby was 4 months old and his first birthday) because we lived an hour away and both of us didn't have cars. But after our son turned 1 L made more of an effort, he would do video call, check up on him every couple of days, we talked more and visiting him more. I started getting feelings for him, like he is the complete opposite of someone who I get feelings for. He's very quiet and intelligent which is not the qualities my former acquaintances had. He's a very handsome guy and has a dad bod and just has a cool demeanor but my problem is I don't think his family knows about our son. I don't ask because 1. I'm not his partner and 2. His family lives in a different province to us. We don't really talk about our personal lives unless it involves our son
I NEED ADVICE: 1. Do I tell him about the feelings I have for him. 2. Do I ask if he wants our son to meet his family.
Thank you everyone To clarify, my family has met him.

Hello, 24F here, I'm very worried and lowkey angry that my dad (55M) might be falling for a health scam.
For context, my dad has some health chronic issue regarding his stomach. My mom and I realized he always experiences severe stomach problems when he's facing a stressful situation, even if he might not be aware of the actual stress levels. He's also aware of that problem.
He's facing this kind of stressful situation right now. He even had to stay in hospital for a night recently because of this problem. So he was prescribed a blood analysis and some other health tests regarding his stomach. This was done by actual doctors, so far so good.
The problem is, he kinda believes in natural medicine and that kind of stuff. He believes that homeophatic medicine is a scam, but even so, he takes natural pills and vitamines and supplements every day. Trust me, if you could only see how one of the kitchen cabinets at home looks like, you would think he's crazy. It's FULL of this kind of supplements, all of them different. (While writing this, I actually realized that taking so many of these doubtful pills might be messing with stomach but obviously I'm no doctor to conclude it.)
Anyway, he ended up contacting a center in which a person who claims to be an "applied kinesiologist, naturopath, osteopath, acupuncturist, homotoxicologist and acoustic educator" has "diagnosed" him. Basically this naturopath told him that he had Epstein-Barr virus and recommended him to fully quit lots of food for two months, including all kinds of sugar, all kinds of mushrooms, bananas, yoghurt, milk, wheat... I don't even remember all the foods he told me but it was insane.
Moreover, he told this naturopath that he wants to take me to see him because I have lots of medical conditions too. He mentioned dermatitis, food allergies, and even ADHD. My dad also has ADHD and this naturopath told him that people with ADHD can be cured with some weird eye treatment?????? And that ADHD may come from this Epstein-Barr virus and also another virus called Zoster. When he told me this I was feeling really angry, I felt like this naturopath was mocking me and everyone with ADHD.
So I've been like 3 hours non-stop searching the internet for scientific articles and opinions regarding "applied kinesiology" and basically most of them were claiming its a scam (maybe not intentional, some of them suggested there are true believers doing this practice but it is not scientifically proven), and it shouldnt be trusted. After everything I have read, I've come to the (maybe biased) conclusion that this might cause some kind of placebo effect and it's no real medicine.
I really want to convice him to stop doing this. The saddest part for me is that I am feeling disappointed in him and this whole situation, because he's one of the people I admire the most and consider him to very intelligent; intelligent enough not to fall for this kind of scam who will probably end up manipulating his mind and harming him. I will talk to him later and I hope I can change his mind.