How to take better notes 📝 ⬇️

1. Format your notes: prep your notes ahead of time, like using the Cornell method or the three-column note system. This way you’ll have an outline made and you can jot down info as it comes (which is much faster).
   
2. Focus on vocab: you want to make sure you get definitions and vocab written down because they will be the most important ideas to come out of your notes. When reading a textbook or listening to a lecture, pick out the vocabulary.
   
3. Active listening is more important than writing everything. Try to pause for a moment from writing and really absorb what the professor is saying. If you just write everything down but don’t process it or listen to the explanation, it won’t make sense.
   
4. Review notes after class: even just skimming over your notes after class helps to refresh and clarify concepts. It also helps with retrieval- so don’t skip this step!!
   
5. Lastly, summarize. When taking notes from a textbook or a lot of writing on a slide, skim the passage and then jot down a one to two sentence summary of the main idea.
   

How to take better notes 📝 ⬇️

1. Format your notes: prep your notes ahead of time, like using the Cornell method or the three-column note system. This way you’ll have an outline made and you can jot down info as it comes (which is much faster).
   
2. Focus on vocab: you want to make sure you get definitions and vocab written down because they will be the most important ideas to come out of your notes. When reading a textbook or listening to a lecture, pick out the vocabulary.
   
3. Active listening is more important than writing everything. Try to pause for a moment from writing and really absorb what the professor is saying. If you just write everything down but don’t process it or listen to the explanation, it won’t make sense.
   
4. Review notes after class: even just skimming over your notes after class helps to refresh and clarify concepts. It also helps with retrieval- so don’t skip this step!!
   
5. Lastly, summarize. When taking notes from a textbook or a lot of writing on a slide, skim the passage and then jot down a one to two sentence summary of the main idea.
   

How to take better notes 📝 ⬇️

1. Format your notes: prep your notes ahead of time, like using the Cornell method or the three-column note system. This way you’ll have an outline made and you can jot down info as it comes (which is much faster).
   
2. Focus on vocab: you want to make sure you get definitions and vocab written down because they will be the most important ideas to come out of your notes. When reading a textbook or listening to a lecture, pick out the vocabulary.
   
3. Active listening is more important than writing everything. Try to pause for a moment from writing and really absorb what the professor is saying. If you just write everything down but don’t process it or listen to the explanation, it won’t make sense.
   
4. Review notes after class: even just skimming over your notes after class helps to refresh and clarify concepts. It also helps with retrieval- so don’t skip this step!!
   
5. Lastly, summarize. When taking notes from a textbook or a lot of writing on a slide, skim the passage and then jot down a one to two sentence summary of the main idea.
   

How to take better notes 📝 ⬇️

1. Format your notes: prep your notes ahead of time, like using the Cornell method or the three-column note system. This way you’ll have an outline made and you can jot down info as it comes (which is much faster).
   
2. Focus on vocab: you want to make sure you get definitions and vocab written down because they will be the most important ideas to come out of your notes. When reading a textbook or listening to a lecture, pick out the vocabulary.
   
3. Active listening is more important than writing everything. Try to pause for a moment from writing and really absorb what the professor is saying. If you just write everything down but don’t process it or listen to the explanation, it won’t make sense.
   
4. Review notes after class: even just skimming over your notes after class helps to refresh and clarify concepts. It also helps with retrieval- so don’t skip this step!!
   
5. Lastly, summarize. When taking notes from a textbook or a lot of writing on a slide, skim the passage and then jot down a one to two sentence summary of the main idea.
   

I love my girlfriend. I like her cat. If things keep up the way they’re going, I’ll die younger and have a much worse life. These are all facts.
I’m writing this at 5am because I can see the sun coming up and I understand that I’ve already lost another nights sleep. I’m an anxious person by nature so the fact that I’ve been awoken by things falling 3 separate times tonight means my system is already screwed; there’s no turning back down, especially with the cat clearly still roaming. It’s Monday. My week is sabotaged before it’s even begun. I cannot keep doing this.
I’ve suggested everything imaginable but my girlfriend parries everything with what I kind of feel are either non-answers, pseudoscience or just kinda lies. She won’t keep him out of the bedroom, she won’t move his climbing post, she won’t even consider doing any kind of research on this stuff. She just insist that this is how things are. I’m getting 3 hours of sleep a night and being made to feel unreasonable for being upset. I honestly feel like I’m going crazy.
I don’tunderstand the science behind cats. I don’t know why he’s doing this or how to stop him. All I know is that my friends with cats don’t have this problem. The most common “solution” I’m seeing online is to get another cat, which honestly sounds like a laughably bad idea to me but isn’t happening either way. She’s been talking about it for a year but I know my girlfriend and I can tell she’s not realizing that plan anytime soon.
Without getting into it, my girlfriend really doesn’t come and stay with me. If I want to see her, I have to come to her. She lives an hour from me so I tend to stay a few nights in a row, but that’s a few nights in a row of things crashing all night, being jumped on at 3am, and endless scratching/random running around.
My girlfriend talk as a lot about us moving in together. I don’t have the heart o tell her that as of now, there’s an actual zero percent chance of that, which is heartbreaking but what am I supposed to do?? I don’t even have a question, just please give me advice.

https://pcpartpicker.com/list/yMnmnt (Italy) - screenshot at the end
Apologies for the length of the post and if there's anything incorrect or unclear, complete noob here:
This would be my build, aimed mainly at 1440p smooth gaming, can someone help me choose a different MB? I can't find one that doesn't need an update to the BIOS and has a reasonable price as this is my first build and I don't know how to do it or how to see if an MB has a BIOS flash drive thingy (lmao).
I do have a laptop to do the flash boot and saw a couple of vids on how to do it, but the less I tinker with the specs, the better. If anyone has any suggestions on other MBs I would greatly appreciate it, as well as any other advice on other components. It will be assembled by someone that usually works on building servers and large offices workstations so he will know his stuff but since he's doing me a favour I really don't want to ask for too much tech support.
I believe I will need one fan to mount on the back as it is not included in the case, can I just pick any 120mm fan or are there specific ones?
I'd really appreciate some advice on how to improve the build as most of the components were simply chosen by me just by watching some youtube videos. I will also use a second tv (through HDMI) as a secondary monitor to use while playing to use chrome etc as I despise alt-tabbing with all my being. The primary monitor (asus TUF) I just picked one to remember myself to look for better offers as they keep changing.
I'd also appreciate some advice for RGBs and colour-matching the build or if I should just abandon the colouring idea. Initially, I was going for an NZXT AIO cooler with the display but paying 200+ when the Arctic is much better in performance (according to the internet) with half the price didn't really make sense to me, I was thinking of just using an old android and turn it into a third small display but I'm not sure.
I chose an AMD 6800XT as apparently is perfect for 1440p and has a ton of VRAM. Not really interested in Nvidia as I feel like paying a premium just to have ray-tracing (that I won't be using), as for the CPU it was simply suggested by a friend that has it.
I can stretch out a bit the budget but not by too much, here's a screenshot if you prefer:
https://preview.redd.it/8pjlppu6364b1.png?width=1442&format=png&auto=webp&s=5b422871d28ab48ba1f540ac9403b03bd037c42d

hi i’m new here. i’m feeling really guilty for joining because i know i won’t actually do anything to get away from him. i just can’t do it idk why. but i know it’s wrong what he does. i guess i’m just looking for reassurance that i’m not alone right now. i have a new black eye, among other bruises on my face but how is he sleeping so peacefully next to me while i’m crying my eyes out? i feel so alone and so trapped. i have no where to go if i leave. i don’t have a car (he sold it), much money, and i don’t have any family here and no friends of course. i feel lost. i’ve been fighting back urges to finally do something to myself tonight but reading everyone’s progress stories is really giving me hope and helping me restrain myself. i hope to be where you are in life someday. i love you guys

I port forwarded a few ports I needed for a game, and they will not open on the provided equipment, and I do not have the mental stamina to get my own router and set it all up on all Wi-Fi devices in my home due to circumstances I won’t get into. I miss the good ol’ days of when you could go to 10.0.0.1 or 192.168.0.1 and just port forward right on the router. Any clues on what could be done to get it to open the ports. I tried restarting it after forwarding and it just won’t budge. Thank you.

Lately it’s just been incredibly hard for me to have motivation, I feel like the world is getting worse by the day and acceptance of people who don’t conform is declining and I’m genuinely considering just stop using the internet, I’m so tired of seeing transphobic ignorant threads on every social media website (Reddit too, if you go anywhere outside lgbtq subs) I’m so tired of centrists denying that there’s a real threat to lgbtq people’s lives, I’m so tired of all the big right wing influencers getting payed millions to spread violent and hateful narrative. I’m sick of looking at the far right gaining popularity on my country and running with American culture war bullshit, I’m sick of pretending to be someone I’m not. I feel like I’ve been living someone else’s life since I can remember, I feel like my real self was bullyed out of me by every one around me, it feels like I’m not in control of my life, I’ve been feeling an overwhelming sense of despair and dread, like I wasted my youth, I can’t recall ever being happy with myself, and I don’t think I’ve ever met anyone who’s ever respected me and I see that now, I see that getting told to kill myself by my supposed friends while they knew I struggled with those thoughts I’d not acceptable, that getting called slurs my whole life by the people closest to me is not a friendship is. For the longest time I didn’t know why, I thought I just craved a relationship with a girl, turns out, I most likely just craved being a girl, and now I’m scared, there’s barely anyone I can count on and society hates me, I’m losing motivation to carry on, not just because of this, but because I hate this capitalist hellhole of a society, anyway, sorry for my incoherent rambling

I’m not sure if she misunderstood our argument before but the only thing I can say I noticed her personality is very perfectionist and controlling. I’m very considerate housemate and always clean up after I used the kitchen etc. She’s unemployed and always home.The apartment is always clean and look like a showroom. The argument started when she asked me if I vacuumed and mopped, which I said Yes( because it was my turn to do the cleaning). It Turns out I missed a spot and she showed me where to vacuum and mopped for next time. I’m kinda annoyed because the way she said things is very controlling and later on i told her she got ocd and she said she don’t have ocd. And now she’s always in her room ignoring me. I’m not sure she got offended. I lived with a lot of people before and I noticed the way she cope with her anxiety depression is to make everything perfect like the apartment. Its kinda. Annoying they way she behaved I wanted to tell her to go therapy and have mental check up but unfortunate she is a older generation that believes that mental health is not important or its a failure. I don’t know what to do?? Should i moved out??

After taking lessons my wife and I put together a group to play once a week. Right now it is 8 women and 2 men (me plus 1). We are all pretty much the same level after the classes. We are there to learn and get better but we agreed having fun and being nice were the priority
To be nice I invited a guy I have played with for a while. He is older and a hard core right winger. I had to ask him to stop with the constant political talk. I was there to have fun. I also have noticed that he often says derogatory things about women. He comes off as very aggressive and doesn’t like losing. But I felt bad leaving him out and invited him. I warned him the group was for fun.
Quickly I hear complaints that he was over spinning the ball. I am not talking about a nice spin on a nice shot. I am talking trick like shots we used to do in ping pong. He can make the ball hit and almost make a 90 degree turn. I asked him to stop it until others catch up. He did stop with the men. But he still does it to the women. Especially if he is losing. I fear he will ruin the fun and friendly vibe we have going. Am I right to stop inviting him?

I’d like to message one of you guys who wishes me ill but I believe it’s hard to point out what is without sounding cray-cray, so I will direct them here.
I am having difficulties because of these emotions that I don’t know how to cater openly. It’s hard and I’m in a rough spot. When you put those prejudice and ill wishes into the ether, you’re simply providing reasons to quit you and submit to the trials.
My situation isn’t getting better. I get that you’re tremendously burdened out as well. It’s not my intention that the most recent event panned out that way and I’ve navigated it poorly and communicated the parts that should have been expressed calmly. I was in a bad place and couldn’t talk to anyone.
A lot of these happened because of a big misunderstanding. I believe I was able to grow some balls and tell them the real score but I was struggling a lot because of the fact that I couldn’t control what happened after. The person who I was hoping to hear the most gave up on me. I thought my efforts would be appreciated or they’d be patient enough with me. But at end of the day they were the ones who shut their blinds and painted the walls with their judgment.
It was hard to process altogether and I felt deeply inadequate. My words, my means, my train of thought, my ability to stay positive.
They chose to cut themselves out of the picture because they believe it was leading into hopelessness. I also know there was exaggeration on my part. This, with my limited ability to cope and heal, affected the way I treated the other and in an attempt to exist harmoniously, I ended up affecting them in the same magnitude of hurt I was dealing with. It’s not an excuse either and I know I wasn’t ushering kindness to them even on the smallest things like doing chores and missing appointments. I’ve learned that I tend to micromanage the other and when the expectations weren’t met, I turned around and said things like I give up or this is not working for me which was partly true, the latter parts are discouraging and frustrating and there are no double rainbows and festive banquets to look forward to.
The worst part was that, every time my actions caused our endless fights, we’d sit down and try to talk through them all properly, address every little detail about the said shallow moments and try to come up with resolutions except that I couldn’t keep up. Eventually, it broke them and exhausted their ability to understand.
The cycle would repeat manically and the next thing they knew, it was me who’s pull the trigger on them. That’s why when they’ve declared their repulsion it felt like I am the world’s most stupid person. I was insensitive and mean towards them.
I admit that my efforts to change aren’t enough and I am at fault regardless. When They would accommodate my sleeplessness and demands for space, they would offer some help and things that might help. But theycouldn’t let me go, they’d rather stay and they’ve expressed their sadness even more. Although I was forcing them to leave me alone and I cried numerous times because I was losing myself and couldn’t be let go.
I thought by being honest some things would stride smoothly. However, this was not the case. I was impatient and mad that I cannot even have my own space to do the things I love. This was easier to express but impossible to pull off.
I talked to my sibling about it. It clarified a bunch of things and they offered some clarity on my struggles and overbearing misery. I was able to calm down for a moment but it was mostly too late as I muddied the pavement already where I could have made the situation better.
It is definitely my fault why I’m crumbling like this and as much as I’f like to say the same thing and give up, I can’t. It would only signal the weakest parts of me to obliterate further. I hope you’ll understand and I hope you will make room for a chance to talk.
It’s too much to ask I know, I’d give it a day to rest and take my mind away, be kinder to myself. I’d also prefer to leave you alone and respect your boundaries right now or maybe forever.
I don’t know why I am still curious about what you think of me. I don’t know why I still look for you. I don’t know why I’m waiting and I don’t know why I still care. The questions have been answered actually, but here I am hiding myself and avoiding responsibilities for the fucked up mess I caused.
I’m sorry for this, I really am. I was only hoping to try my best and right my wrongs. Anyway, I hope you’re alright and smiling.

I left my relationship with my ex partner (we’ll call him “J”) of 8 months in Feb 2022. I got the guts to leave after confiding in my current boyfriend (i’ll call him “N”, 23m) about the unhappiness i was feeling in the relationship, who told me I deserved better. I jumped right into a relationship with N (not smart, i know) despite still living with and communicating with J. I tried to cut off ties completely, but it was complicated due to us living in the same apartment (separate rooms; right next to each other). I was going to see N on my days off to stay away from the apartment, hoping that would help me get over the breakup. It didn’t, and I ended up breaking it off with N for a week or so and went back to J. I felt so terrible about hurting N that I had to go back and we’ve been together ever since. We’ve lived together since Sep 2022 and have resigned our lease for another year. I love him, but I find myself regretting it sometimes. I wish I would have let myself heal before jumping into something else, but I didn’t. Now nearly a year and a half later, I still miss J and wishing things turned out differently. N treats me amazingly, better than any partner I’ve ever had, but it just isn’t the same and it’s taking a toll on me and our relationship as a whole. I don’t want to have sex, we aren’t really affectionate anymore, and I’m aware I’m 100% of the problem. I just wish I could get over this to be able to live happily 😅

I in my life have gotten very drunk I have drank a 1.75 of 50% vodka in a night. On rare occasions I have blacked out. But no matter what in the morning I feel fine. Everyone talks about hangovers and how horrible they are but I cannot relate. I have acid reflux disease so if I drink too sugary drinks I have an effect, but other than that I feel no negative effects from alcohol. I’m worried that this will inevitably lead to a drinking problem. My father has been a recovering alcoholic for about 12 years now. So I’m now cautious about how much I drink. I make sure I don’t get too drunk now. Due to my fears of losing control of myself. I still remember my father beating my mother in a drunken rage. And because of those memories I’ve Learned to become more careful with alcohol. But I have never done anything I regret while drunk nor have I experienced what people call a hangover. I could drink so much that one ml would kill me but in the morning once I’m sober I won’t feel the effects. Does anyone else have this condition?

TW: death, suicide
My best friend died of cancer last year and it really messed me up. I struggled for awhile, and a few months after went to a psychiatrist to try to get back on Adderall (diagnosed with ADHD and medicated as a kid/young adult) because my focus was so off and impacting my work. I took her surveys and she diagnosed me with ADHD and depression. I tried to explain that my “depression” marks are higher because of the loss I was dealing with and I didn’t feel it was an actual chemical imbalance, because I’m typically a very happy person, but she basically ignored me and prescribed me bupropion.
I tried it out for a month and it really fucked me up. So much so that I attempted suicide. The thing is, is that I didn’t remember the attempt until recently. I started therapy again about a month ago and started re-reading my journal entries and conversations from that time period, and the memory of that day suddenly came back.
Im having a hard time believing it’s real, because everything tells me that I should remember such a significant event. I thought my brain was playing tricks on me, but physical evidence (pills I know I haven’t touched are gone and booze from the memory was under my bed) makes me believe it actually happened.
I’ve seen this sort of thing on TV and heard this is what a lot of veterans experience, but having a hard time wrapping my head around it because I didn’t realize how bad things were personally, and everyone experiences death of loved ones so having a hard time accepting that I had a PTSD response and that my brain just completely suppressed that memory until now.
Am I crazy? Or is this actually plausible?

I really want to confess to this guy how I really felt all along.
Him and I met when we were freshmen in high school and I knew immediately that I like him. We were friends but weren’t close as we were in a different group of friends. Sophomore year, he came up to me and asked me out, but us being too young during that time I turned him down, despite knowing that I like him too. The rest of our high school year he dated few girls.
Fast forward, we graduated high school and went to different university, and couple of years after I moved to different country.
10 years past, we haven’t seen each other since. However, through social media we started talking again, 2-3 years ago but on and off. And since then, all my feelings came back. The problem is I’m the one who always messaging him first. I feel like he wants to talk to me too cause every time we message each other we always fall into deep conversations. We even talked about our feelings in high school and even started talking about “what could have happened” “what ifs” and “maybe it’s not meant to happen”. Although we discussed how we felt when we were young, I withheld on telling him that I still like him all these years.
So, should I tell him how I felt? I am not sure if he likes me because of how he don’t message me first at all but on the other note once we started talking we really fall into comfortable and long conversations. I really want to let go of this feeling but I can’t just in case there’s any small chance he likes me too.

I don't like the kind of relationship which formed between her and the audience. It's the same toxic, unhealthy dynamic, making everyone (her included) sick.
We are too invested in the drama which does not belong to us. I don't know about the rest, but I feel like this parasocial relationship just makes me worried for a person who I have never seen. Who I can't help. Who won't ever probably listen or value my input anyway.
I don't like the feeling it might hurt her (and probably us) even more. By many means.
One of us supports Cindy no matter what and just positively tells "It's ok it's fine don't worry you alright", enabling the unhealthy stuff she does and making it even harder for her to make the change to avoid it in the future. I don't know for which reasons - more drama? More entertainment? Trying to be overly positive whatever it takes despite harming it produces? Trying to be "that loyal, good sub who does not tell shit"?
One of us just cheers up - FINALLY UPDATES - and spreads news, and gossips around, collectively judging whatever happened. This I believe is a kind of Zachary Michael move, I would say (it's not like I am his hater, but I feel like he kind of encourages this "let's talk about the tea" thing). I even noticed a bunch of comments here saying "Oh I am so thrilled for the tea to spill, to hear the news". Like wtf, this is a real person whose life is getting destroyed on camera, that's not a fucking Santa Barbara, it's not a fictional character. I know she publishes it for money, but it does not mean it's good or healthy. This should not be cheered, this should not be supported.
One of us criticizes her, thinking it's for the better, actively talking to her about what to do, how to behave, and screaming I-TOLD-YOU-SO kind of thing. I know, guys, I know that many of us have foreseen the last part, but it's so easy to behold it from the side when you are not the one participating when you are not the one being under emotions and trying to glue up broken marriage of 15 years which you used to be heavily dependant on. Besides, I know you might want the best, but in reality, we may be horribly wrong ourselves.
One of us hates whatever she does, and is going to haunt even things which are crazy to call out for - looks, singing, for instance. There are some valid reasons to criticize her, and she needs to be called out for that to at least give her the ability to acknowledge something was not right and to be educated for the future, but I don't think people mocking her for weird phrasing or singing or looks is what valid criticism is.
One of us feels entitled to know all the dirty laundry, "Andrew's point of view", "the whole picture with comments of everybody involved", and her regularly reporting that she is alive and well. Again, it's not Santa Barbara, and it's not like we paid on Kickstarter for her to shoot three seasons of soap TV drama and she posted only the first two before running away with money. And no, to me donations, super chats, and coffees are not these kinds of payments. She didn't promise anything. In fact, I supported her for many years before shutting down payments when I stopped liking what she was up to, and I don't think I was scammed or I need to be refunded - I just supported the person whose already produced content I liked and stopped supporting when I stopped liking it, simple as is. I can agree though that donations to YouTubers and streamers can be problematic since it's not a traditional way of buying the service, their nature is giving away mostly, and I think it's not clear what we do expect when we give content creators our money.
I just wish she would go offline and focus on her personal connections, to the people who could really reach out to her and help. We can't. It's not going to work, it makes things worse for everybody.
Do I hate you guys? Absolutely not, I am not better at all - well, except maybe total haters and "yoo new tea" guys. I am also bound by this unhealthy stuff I wish I could cut off weeks ago, for her and for my own sake.
I wish we could help her, but we cannot. She is a scared, lost person who wants connection and support, and she tries to get it from us, but it's not going to work. There are so many voices among us it's not possible in that state of mind to go through all of them and properly sort out the ones who are genuine and those ones who just want her to hurt. Even genuine ones can hurt - remember that comment about "it's fiiine I am going through 22nd breakup with my husband, 23rd is a charm"? It may be a joke, but it also may not. And believe, there is much more potentially hurtful advice that is better disguised under the support, even if the person is genuine - we are also going through hurtful stuff and may be biased by our experience and may be not the best to ask for advice from.
She does not need a bunch of strangers commenting on her for whatever purpose on YouTube and many other social media. She needs a couple of close friends and therapy. She needs to figure it out herself, without many voices buzzing around. And it's so sad seeing her and us getting back to the starting point of oversharing and showing hurtful things on camera. She is posting again being hurt and enraged and telling and making stuff she will probably regret later. She even rageposted videos times before - she mentioned she does not look at the stuff she edited, and it feels like she was already scared and afraid of the outcome even before publishing the video. And it does not make good for anybody. The internet remembers. Even taking it out won't help
At this point, I wish she would be just offline. Or would post on her blog with text or even video with very limited personal information, maybe with weekly on monthly updates on the most important stuff, with maybe someone besides her to check out what she edited and advise her to take out parts that could make it harmful for her to post. To have someone to physically force her to breathe in, breathe out before making the move, and reconsider the choice to talk or not to talk, to save her reputation, and herself from destruction. The idea of showing BPD day-to-day life without editing sounds good on paper, but in reality, it's just raging out and doing all the unhinged, uncontrolled stuff, which I bet does not help anybody with BPD - as we came up to people talking about her blaming everything on BPD, criticizing what BPD exactly does to people and us being here more for the rollercoaster rather than awareness. There are many channels about mental disorders where people talk out about the stuff happening to them, but in a much more calm and more collected manner, which still gives awareness, but does not hurt anybody.
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Well, I probably vented off too much again, sorry for that. I just wanted to rant a little bit about my thoughts on this, as I woke up and was blown away by this sub screaming about her posting again