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2023.03.22 06:53 celestialem Hypomanic or just happy?

Hello! Posting here before my doctors appointments because I'm just feeling a bit worried about it and would love to hear other people's experiences and perspectives.
I started 150 wellbutrin XL towards the end of August 2022. I was going through an extremely traumatic and stressful time in my life, and it helped tremendously for a few weeks. Then one day, I forgot to take it, and after that it became a habit to not take it at the right time or at all. I began to feel restless, and started drinking so much that I was afraid I was becoming an alcoholic. I ended up becoming a regular at some local bar in a shitty town and got involved with people I usually wouldn't, while engaging in toxic behaviors and constantly fighting with an ex of mine. It got so bad one day that my best friend had to take me to the hospital because I was experiencing the worst depression of my life. I was inpatient for around a week, and they prescribed me 10mg of lexapro along with my wellbutrin.
A little while after I got out, my psychiatrist increased my dosage to 300. I've been taking that since the end of December. Since the increase, I have felt so happy. So hopeful. So good. I stopped drinking, I stopped associating with toxic people I felt addicted to, etc. I haven't missed a dose or felt depressed or restless at all and have been more motivated and hopeful overall.
I've always been a spiritual person, and believed in things such as the law of attraction/manifestation, astrology etc. Recently, I've been trying to use manifestation as a tool to help me achieve my goals and writing down the things I'm grateful for every day. I listen to music that has affirmations in them, and have integrated them into my art as well. I genuinely feel like things are going to well for me in my personal, spiritual, creative, and business life.
Although I've been feeling so wonderful, I am starting to become afraid that I am slipping into or have been in a hypomanic episode. I've only experienced depression before, whether subtle or prominent, so I'm not really used to feeling this way for so long. Recently I haven't been able to sleep at night or stay asleep. I've been sleeping maybe 4-6 hours a night, while waking up in between. I feel a little tired throughout the day, but still have some energy (not enough to clean my entire house or anything usually). I have been feeling very confident lately, as I've started to dress the way I always wanted to, and I've been creating art that is well loved and doing in person markets while making new connections. I feel magnetic. I feel beautiful. I feel like I can tell when someone finds me attractive. I feel like I have amazing energy that causes people to gravitate towards me.
While I'm concerned about the lack of sleep and confidence, I am mostly concerned about the fact that I shoplifted an entire cart of groceries/clothes/home decor today. I had been reading up on it a lot recently, and I decided that I just wanted to do it. I didn't do it because I needed to or to sell the items, I think I just did it because I wanted some new things or for the thrill or because I'm tired of large corporations being so greedy. I just put everything in my cart, and walked out the door confidently. No one (that I noticed) looked at me any way or followed me or seemed suspicious. I assume because the entire time I acted like I wasn't doing anything wrong.
I don't necessarily feel morally guilty about it (although I'm prepared for the comments about why I probably should), it was nice to finally be able to get some new things for myself after working so hard, going through so much trauma, and having to put all of my money towards bills/back into my business. I'm not really afraid of getting caught because I know the laws, I know how their security works, I know the process of convicting someone for theft from that specific store (I used to work there years ago). I know the whole deal with the building a case until you hit a felony amount of money etc. So it's not like I did this impulsively without any prior knowledge or anything.
Anyways, sorry for such a long post, I just wanted to include everything so that you guys can get a better perspective. I'm just wanting to know if the lack of sleep could just be caused by the increased energy from the wellbutrin, if my confidence really is just the result of using positive affirmations and utilizing the law of attraction, and if me shoplifting really was just a one time thing and result of me wanting to 'treat' myself after working so hard and essentially being fed up with capitalism.
...or if all of these things really do indicate hypomania, and if I should be worried. I really want things to continue going well for me, I want to continue feeling good and better about myself and creating meaningful art and being in tune with myself spiritually. I'm trying to be as self aware as possible so I can hopefully prevent myself from slipping into any destructive behaviours again.
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2023.03.22 06:51 PenAffectionate2627 What do I do with an unbalanced relationship? Idk a better title

Hi, some quick disclaimers before I start saying shit. I dunno anything about proper reddit rhetoric, so if some stuff is said weird or differently, that's why, please bare with me. Secondly, this is a throwaway, not because I think my partners will actually find this account and shit, but more for comfort sake. Thirdly, I don't even know if this is the right place to talk about this, so if I'm fucking up, please tell me and redirect me to the proper subreddit or whatever. Anyways, onto actually talking about this stuff.
For context: I started dating Gray about a year and a few months ago, and we added Ben around 8 months ago, math is hard(also I'm adding this in cuz I figured context is necessary again)
So, I'm in a polyamorous relationship with 2 other people, idk anything about different types of poly relationships, but for context, we're all supposed to love each other equally and all, just one big circle of love and shit blah blah. We don't see each other very often, but we make it work when we do. I've been having troubles in the relationship however, and I really just don't know what to do anymore. I don't know much about relationships, but from what I do, I know affection can be a major part of a relationship. While my one partner, for security I'll call them Ben, is affectionate with both me and my other partner, Gray(also for security), Gray is not affectionate at all. I know the whole deal. I should've thought of this when we started dating, I should've known how they are as a person, I guess I just had hopes they'd be more affectionate. It's not even for lack that they just don't want affection, they do, not as much as me and Ben do, but they do, but they NEVER go out of their way to try and get it. I try to hug them? They just sit there. Kiss them? They just sit there. They're like that with Ben too, but Ben doesn't care as much as I do about this whole shpeal. It's just very strained it feels. They are never affectionate, they were never affectionate when we first started dating either. I thought I could handle it, but after a while it got really upsetting. I'm a very affectionate person, ofc I know my boundaries and not to cross them so I never force affection or am too touchy, but it's really upsetting to be a super affectionate person, and to just be dating someone who never seems to want affection from me. It's not only that they're not affectionate, it seems like they're much more affectionate with Ben than they are with me. Not like that's saying much, as I said they never go out of their way to get affection, but I've noticed that they are more affectionate with Ben than they are me. It's always when all 3 of us are together too, and they say it's because they don't see Ben often so they do it to compensate, but at the same time I never get such treatment when they're around me so it feels bs? But that might just be biased cuz of my feelings on the matter. They never are affectionate, it feels like I annoy them more than anything but they've said before that's just how they are. I try to touch them, talk to them, be around them it feels like I'm just a problem, and it's tiring. I'm sick of feeling like that. One thing I know about being poly is that jealousy is kinda common, but I don't think jealousy should be this disproportionate to this point. They're just never there, emotionally, physically, nothing. I can't even name a time where they've kissed me or hugged me on their own without me prompting it. The last compliment I got was back at a picnic last summer. It's so draining, idk if draining is even the right word for it. I wanna be loved by them. And I know they do love me, but ig it's not a way I'm alright with. It feels like they love the title of dating me, not the work that's put into it. Hell it's gotten so bad that I've gotten delusional when they are affectionate, and when I say affectionate, I mean they hold my damn hand unprompted, I act like that's the greatest thing that's ever happened to me because I just never receive anything from them. To me it's just a lot. Also, I've brought this up to Ben, it doesn't really go well. All he usually says is to try and be more affectionate with them, and for the various reasons I said above, that just doesn't work.

And with this, I know I shouldn't sit through this relationship feeling like this. And I know it's best to call things off, but with this a lot of problems arise. I still love Ben, he's affectionate, he shows he loves me and is there for me when I need him, if I were to break things off, how the hell does that work? Just dating him and not dating Gray anymore? Then the morality comes in, if Ben even agreed to that conclusion, it's not fair to Gray to lose both partners, I don't think I'm comfortable with Ben just dating both of us and Gray and I just not dating each other. Then goes the fact that I'm losing a big support system, Gray may not show they care much for me, but their family certainly does, their friends certainly do, and idk what goes from there. I seriously am just, so stuck. And really just don't know what to do.
So, I'd like some advice from people who know way more than me. What to do, what the steps are into doing it, etc etc. Any help or advice is very appreciated. I know I fucked up bad with this relationship, but I wanna figure out what to do with it now. (Also do tell me if there are better subreddits or smth or if I came to the wrong place, I don't wanna bother a peaceful or friendly subreddit with my nonsense).
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2023.03.22 06:41 maadaapples my issue with leaving him is our finances

i’m getting desperate to leave my husband. any counselor and psychiatrist and friend ive spoken to have said i can’t stay with him and i agree.
my issue lies with our finances. he’s indebted up to his ears and we can’t afford to pay them off even now when we’re two. i’m a SAHM but will start working in a few months, i have a small income now that helps us stay afloat. am i abandoning him with these loans?
the loans are in his name but i’ve benefited from most of them in one way or the other. i feel like an asshole leaving him with that economy. he’s an emotional abuser and i am definitely trauma bonded to him.
the circle of abuse is clear. he does something (like spitting, calling me names, gets caught drinking and blames me and so on) and it turns to a huge fight and when i threaten to leave the tables turn and he buys me a flower and is kind for a couple of days. this repeats every few months.
we also have two kids and the oldest is almost three and starting to understand things. we move closer to his parents in 1,5 months and i’m not sure how to go about this separation.
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2023.03.22 06:40 Creative-Employee359 Help Understanding Experience

I feel like this is the best place to share this since I don't want to tell anyone I know about it. I am currently in my mid 20s, but this experience happened to me many years ago when I was in the 6th grade and I've always thought back to it every now and then. Back then I was always interested in the supernatural and spirituality. I dealt with a lot of bullying and depression that made me feel miserable throughout my teen years. One time in particular I witnessed a friend of mine get bullied and his bus fare stolen from him right in front of me. I felt absolutely terrible about it because he was one of the nicest people I knew but I was too scared to do anything. At the time I had an interest in Native American culture and spirituality and was desperate to get help however I could. That's when I began looking into Spirit Animals. I'm not sure what kind of help I expected, I think I just would've liked to know a higher power was with me. That night I began meditating and asking my Spirit Animal to reveal themselves to me again and again. I must've been at it for about an hour with tears in my eyes before I finally laid down to sleep. That night I had a dream I was flying over an open field of tall grass in a first person pov. I began gliding closer and closer to the grass until I was finally in it. Then I was no longer moving and was instead looking up at the sky surrounded by the grass as if I was hiding. That's all I remember from the dream. I woke up the next morning with no memory of the dream or the meditation the night before. My mother was rushing me to get ready for school since she went to work right after she dropped me off. As I picked up my homework binder off the ground to put it in my backpack, something fell out from inside. It was the skull of a mouse. I knew what it was because my class had dissected owl droppings a couple years prior to that and I had seen what a mouse skull looked like. Even now when I google pics of a mouse skull, it is unmistakable that that's what it was. Like I said, I had no memory of the night before and was confused as to how it got there. I showed my mother who thought it was weird and told me to throw it away. So I did. Later that afternoon at school I was thinking back to the skull and suddenly remembered everything about the night before. I got home and searched my trash can for it, but someone had already taken out the trash.
My first interpretation at the time was that my Spirit Animal was some kind of bird since I was flying for a while in my dream and because some birds eat mice. However, as the years have passed I've begun to realize that it's much more likely that I was the mouse. My spirit was flying as it was going into a field mouse. That's why I was among the grass and surrounded by it. The qualities and characteristics of a mouse fit me much more accurately then another animal at the time. I never continued my exploration of Spirit Animals as I was a bit shook up by the whole thing. I never told anyone about this since it's personal and I don't want people to think I'm weird, but to this day I think back on this experience and wonder about it.
Sorry if the post is long, but I'm curious to hear anyone's thoughts or similar experiences.
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2023.03.22 06:35 Aaronumba Nervous about diagnosis

Hello! I've been questioning whether or not I have autism for a very long time(I've had an ADHD diagnosis already). I've made entire list of how many symptoms I have and the things I deal with on a day to day basis. I know that there's symptoms that don't inherently make you autistic but with how many that I have and how many experiences I share with other autistic people it's made me want to go out and get a diagnosis.
I've told my mother about it and told her about everything that I've experienced and she agreed that she thinks that I'm on the spectrum and she told me a few things that I didn't even know I did when I was younger that was a huge sign of autism that went unnoticed due to my father being ashamed of it.
The biggest issue that I have is I think my diagnosis would have to be in person and I have this thing to not really do that well when I talk about my feelings in person rather than over the phone or a zoom meeting where I don't show my face. It kind of sounds weird since it is important to see me in person to be able to give me a correct diagnosis but it gives me so much so much anxiety that I think I might postpone getting a diagnosis for a very long time until I have someone to go with me as a support system would it be weird to suggest a therapy animal to be there? is that even a thing? I am in no way asking for people to diagnose me. I've just felt very weird about saying that I'm on the spectrum without having a full diagnosis.
Thank you so much for reading this subreddit has made me feel very valid:)
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2023.03.22 06:30 TwoShakes Switching from Console to PC

What will you be doing with this PC? Be as specific as possible, and include specific games or programs you will be using.
What is your maximum budget before rebates/shipping/taxes?
When do you plan on building/buying the PC? Note: beyond a week or two from today means any build you receive will be out of date when you want to buy.
What, exactly, do you need included in the budget? (ToweOS/monitokeyboard/mouse/etc)
Which country (and state/province) will you be purchasing the parts in? If you're in US, do you have access to a Microcenter location?
If reusing any parts (including monitor(s)/keyboard/mouse/etc), what parts will you be reusing? Brands and models are appreciated.
Will you be overclocking? If yes, are you interested in overclocking right away, or down the line? CPU and/or GPU?
Are there any specific features or items you want/need in the build? (ex: SSD, large amount of storage or a RAID setup, CUDA or OpenCL support, etc)
What type of network connectivity do you need? (Wired and/or WiFi) If WiFi is needed and you would like to find the fastest match for your wireless router, please list any specifics.
Do you have any specific case preferences (Size like ITX/microATX/mid-towefull-tower, styles, colors, window or not, LED lighting, etc), or a particular color theme preference for the components?
Do you need a copy of Windows included in the budget? If you do need one included, do you have a preference?
Thanks everyone! I recognize that I'm coming into with pretty minimal knowledge so any direction y'all can point me in is fantastic
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2023.03.22 06:28 KirkHammettJigsaw Firestorm 113!

Holy shit y’all I thought it was Monday night, so this shit is late as fuck. My apologies. Blurbs are gonna be short to account for this.

Punish and Crush Round One: The Shamrock and Scot Connection vs. Death Is The Diagnosis
Our opener is a very fun one, as we kick off the 2023 Punish and Crush tourney! On one side, we have Death is the Diagnosis, made up of two representatives from The Ark, Kaze Tanaka and Dr. Logan Wright! They have the talent, they have the accolades, they have the chemistry, but their opponents have a sick-ass logo! Paddy Murphy and Michael Kalamity are not friends, but they’ll have to work together in this tourney. Will DITD extinguish their upstart opponents, or will the Sham-Rock ‘n Scot Connection’s hatred for the English bring them to victory?
Prompt: Book a stable of your choice disbanding, as well as the aftermath (Max 1 part per person)

Punish and Crush Round One: Tequila Inc vs. Murder Airlines
Tequila and murder, name a more iconic duo.
Prompt: Book a 1980’s wrestler of your choosing if they debuted today (Max 1 part per person)

Punish and Crush Round One: C.A.N. T.H.E.Y. C.O.E.X.I.S.T. vs. The Underground Hometown
Look man I’m in a fuckin rush, this should be a good match
Prompt: Book the scrapped MJF/Punk feud that was teased after All Out 2022 (Max 1 part per person)

FBE Intercontinental Championship Eliminator: Joshua Epps vs. JOHN
Introducing, for the first time ever…THE RISE VS. DTJ!
Prompt: Book LA Knight after WrestleMania 39 (Max 2 parts)

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2023.03.22 06:27 fig_art thank you all for your unique perspectives on my position that it is morally evil to have a planned child

i went on here a couple of times posting the same argument based on my opinion but updating my opinion & argument based on (thoughtful, intelligent) feedback. i also talked about this with my best friend. i realized i'm wrong and that my own views fundamentally conflict eachother. what i said and what i believed until now is antinatalism for the fact that every life is equally important in the world and some lives are nothing but pain and misery until painful death whether natural or self inflicted.
my core view that this conflicts with, and why i've been soul searching for a while (check my post history if you care) is that the world is perfect as it is and cannot be improved. this belief is derived from the tao te ching. i couldn't let go of this cognitive dissonance so i kept asking people about it. my best friend told me that this is how evolution works. i said no it isn't, it's adaptation because each generation learns behavior and derives a different way of parenting and choices of having kids or not. he said no, that is evolution.
he's right. that is how evolution works, our brains keep becoming better at pattern recognition over generations due to the way of the world. some of the people that engaged in earnest discussion with me have helped sway my view in that it's not an absolute good or bad right or wrong to create a life just because of the chances of it being a life of pain, suffering, then death. the chance for life being beautiful is greater and weighs more because the more individuality there is between us, the more beautiful life is, and beauty creates a propensity for there to be more beauty. my life was a tragedy up until i could take control of it from my abuser. but where would my fiancee be if i hadn't survived? she would have nowhere to be right now. or not, i don't know, because no one can know the way of the world. i was being arrogant to provoke discussion but it yielded results that humbled me by proving i am wrong as life has forever and always will until i die.
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2023.03.22 06:26 garou213 27 M [relationship] WA, United States, Anywhere - Hopeless romantic looking to find the one! (Pics of me on profile)

Please read the whole post.
Hopeless romantic here looking to hopefully find the one! Looking to find the one. I'm hoping to find someone I can stay at home with and go out to the beach, go out to places with, learn to ballroom dance, have a picnic date, stay in during a rainy night and watch movies/ tv shows together. Looking for the cliche moments from rom-coms but also more 😊. I'm also willing to chat/ hangout to be friends before we start a relationship. We can watch a movie, tv show, anime together online if you don't live near by.
Looking for someone who is open minded. 18-35 (might be open to anyone older if we vibe). Someone who is willing to meet up later in the future. I'm fine with someone who smokes Marijuana but no other drugs or cigarettes. Can be from anywhere.
A little about me:
My name is Felipe. I'm Hispanic, male, age 27, 5'9". I have photos on my profile. I'm chubby. I'm introverted at first but the longer you get to know me then I become more extroverted. I love fall/autumn weather. Currently studying architecture design. I hope to construct buildings for families in need of a home in the future. I have big ambitious goal for my career. I speak Spanish.
I'm into the arts: I love to draw, paint and create all sorts of art.
I love to play video games: All time favorite game is Skyrim, but I like to play games like BF2042, Minecraft, Smash Bros, Zelda, etc.
I also, really love to watch movies, anime, tv shows, etc: some of my favorite movies are Trick r Treat, The Dark Night, Interstellar, The Exorcist, 5 year engagement, Forgetting Sarah Marshall, Harry Potter series, lord of the rings series, 10 things I hate about you, the office, the Addams family, Wednesday and many more.
My favorite type of music is all genres of rock and electronic music, classical, movie music, game music, culture based music, anime music. I rarely hear rap, hip-hop, and country. Some artist I listen to is Avenged Sevenfold, Apashe, Mozart, El tri, Queen, Hans Zimmer.
My favorite holiday is Halloween. 🎃
I live in the Washington, United States. I dont smoke cigarettes. I smoke cannabis only socially (maybe like 3 or 4 times a year). I'm fine if you smoke but occasionally like me. I casually drink socially but I'm not dependent on it to have a fun time. I actually prefer having fun without the need of drinks. I love all animals 🙂. I'm vaccinated. PLEASE add "ghost" in your response so I know that you read my whole post. Also please show me that you're a real person looking for a relationship and not someone looking to scam.
This is a little bit about myself but the more we talk then the more you'll get to know me. Send me a chat if interested! I'm usually respond quickly if I'm not doing anything at that time.
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2023.03.22 06:19 Legitimate-Ad5486 [TOMT][SHOW][2020] Subverted kids show?

I watched this show around 2020 on what I think would have been their official website and I remember the show wasn’t in english. The show was shot almost like a kids show where there was an Asian girl talking to the camera on a colorful set. I remember that the girl was making a craft and talking to the viewer and then looks behind her at a mascot that comes to life and they begin to sing, I remember this section of the show being very strange and shocking which makes me think it wasn’t a kids show. Or maybe I just misunderstood it since I only watched a couple minutes of this show. Also, it was hosted on a website where there were other shows to watch not just that one show.
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2023.03.22 06:13 tranquiloish The crew aboard the Shy Maid were incredibly endearing (Spoilers Extended)

After reading ADWD, an aspect I lament not being in the show is the entire (f)aegon storyline, but specifically the shenanigans Tyrion gets up to on the Shy Maid. The scene with Duck and Young Griff training together, knocking Duck into the water, and Tyrion getting thrown over, just felt very fun and oddly enough, wholesome. I would have loved to see it in the show, but especially all of the crew themselves, they were all so well characterized, and lightly mysterious. Between the Halfmaester, Septa Lemore, Duck, and the Griffs, to see their travels up the river Rhoyne woulda been fun to see adapted, though I understand why it would have been difficult with mainstream audiences. What other aspects or scenes would you have loved to see in the show?
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2023.03.22 06:10 SenseEnough Driving to Training

I leaving for training for AA soon and currently live in LA!!! I know for a fact that LAX or PHX bases are not available and I will have to relocate to wherever I end up. Because of that, I decided to drive to training from LA to Dallas. It's cheaper than eventually shipping my cat to the other side of the country, as I don't want to commute. I was just wondering if anyone here did that and how the process was in regards of parking, the actual drive, and all that fun stuff. Any info is so helpful, thanks in advance!
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2023.03.22 06:06 NaradaTheAlexG [Online][5thEd][Campaign][All Time Zones][Weekdays][$15] The Wild Beyond the Witchlight

Hello and welcome!
It's a pleasure to meet you, and I hope to make your acquaintance! The name is Alex, and I would love to run a game for you. I bring the knowledge, wisdom, and fun when it comes to my games, and with variety of music, backgrounds, maps and more, you'll find a rather enjoyable experience when you're at my table. I run both homebrew and adventure modules, and today, I bring you thus;
The Wild Beyond the Witchlight
"Once every eight years, the fantastic Witchlight Carnival touches down on your world, bringing joy to one settlement after the next. Its owners, Mister Witch and Mister Light, know how to put on a good show. But there’s more to this magical extravaganza than meets the eye!
The carnival is a gateway to a fantastic Feywild domain unlike anything found on the Material Plane. Time has not been kind to this realm, however, and dark days lie ahead unless someone can thwart the dastardly schemes of the Hourglass Coven."
Things to know:
Please be over 18 years of age. Please be prepared to play 3-4 hours a week, potentially more. Please have a decent and working mic/internet. Have both a Roll20 and Discord account. This game will require payment to the Game Master at a rate of $15 per Session via Paypal.
If you have any sort of questions or concerns, please feel free to contact me on Roll20 (TheAlexG), or in this thread. I will be looking for 6 players total to play, however the game will start with less if need be (I usually like to start games once we have 3 players, but I do not mind starting with just 2, or even 1 if someone is OK with solo play). Times are also flexible, and aren't necessarily limited to what is listed. Additionally, I do run my own homebrew world, as well as take on other suggests, so if there is something outside the scope of what is listed, please let me know if you're interested.
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2023.03.22 06:05 Puzzleheaded_Bus_151 When can you hit your child in Islam?

You should know that your child is a gift and a blessing, so you should do what god told you to do with this blessing, so you should know :
1) islam forbids you from hitting or treating your servants badly: عن أنس ابن مالك : خَدَمْتُ النبيَّ صلى الله عليه وسلم ، عشرَ سنين بالمدينةِ ، وأنا غلامٌ ، ليس كلُّ أمري كما يشتهي صاحبي أن أكونَ عليه ، ما قال لي فيها : أفٍّ قطُّ . وما قال لي : لِمَ فعلتَ هذا ؟ أو أَلَا فعلتَ هذا. Anas ibn Malek said : I served the prophet PBUH for ten years, not everything about me (Everything I do) is like what my friend wants, he has never said to me in those ten years "Offf" ("Offf" is a noise used to describe annoyance), and he never said "Why did you do this, or why didn't you do this".
2) You can hit a kid, but it has rules :
1- They have to be sane.
2- they have to be ten years or older, the prophet PBUH said : مُروا أولادَكم بالصلاةِ لسبعٍ، واضربوهم عليها لعشرٍ، وفرِّقوا بينهم في المضاجعِ Command (softly and nicely) your kids to pray after they're seven, and hit them for it (if they don't pray) after they're ten, and space between them (after they hit ten) in beds (meaning you don't let them sleep on the same bed, or you at least put something in between them).
And that's for praying, and many muslim scholars consider the person who doesn't pray as not even a muslim, so making trivial mistakes or even some big ones wouldn't allow you to hit them untill they're ten.
3- You can't take it as the first option, it has to be the last option, and only do it if you think it would be beneficial (making the kid not do the mistake again).
4- You can't insult and humiliate them while you hit them, and you can't hit them infront of others (Even their family, relatives and siblings).
5- The hitting has to be light, so it wouldn't : cause a wound, cause swelling, cause the skin to turn red or any other color, leave a mark or cut their skin.
6- You can't hit them in the face, the prophet PBUH said : إذا قاتَلَ أحَدُكُمْ أخاهُ فَلْيَجْتَنِبِ الوَجْهَ. If one of you fights his brother, then he should stay away from his face (not hit him in the face).
7- And if you can't hit their face, then sensetive body-parts are already out of the question.
8- The hitting has to be equal to the mistake, Imam Ahmad (one of the four imams) said: Equal (The hitting) to their mistake if they reached ten years.
9- You have to let them rest between hits.
10- You can't hit them when you're angry.
11- You have to stop hitting them if they cry, show remorse, run away or ask you by god to stop hitting them.
12- You can't hit them more than ten times, the prophet PBUH said : لَا يُجْلَدُ فَوْقَ عَشْرِ جَلَدَاتٍ إِلَّا في حَدٍّ مِن حُدُودِ اللَّهِ. Let there be no whipping more than ten times, except when a limit set by allah is violated/trespassed. (Limits such as : adultrey or drinking alcohol. and they are one of the biggest crimes and sins a human can commit in islam, so obviously when a kid makes a trivial mistake that wouldn't allow for even 1/10th of that).
3) Sick people are sick, they won't care about what is allowed and what is forbidden, that's why there are people in jails. You can't take a mistake someone made as what islam says.
Islam is the true religion and is the religion of peace.
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2023.03.22 06:05 General_Budget_4538 I’ve been depressed for 4 years

Hello, I’m 14F. This will probably be a long post, so I apologize. When I was 10 my family were going through a lot of issues. My parents were threatening divorce with each other like always.
We went camping 2019 summer like usual and my mom was a SAHM at the time so my dad was still working while we stayed camping. Now my brother has ADHD, severe ODD, and anger management problems. Some doctors have also suspected he might be on the autism spectrum. He was being very disrespectful to my mother which I struggled with handling because my father was abusive and did not take kindly to my brother acting that way.
I felt a lot of rage and I actually thought about hurting him which scared me because I was 10. So I left our trailer for a bike ride. All I could think about was killing myself so I couldn’t hurt my brother. I called one of my friends at the lodge and she ended up telling her mom who told mine.
My mom kind of glossed over it and we never spoke about it again. Then my parents divorce, a pandemic hits, schools shut down, can’t see my friends, my parents start dating, I start at a new school, get roped in with bad people and become majorly depressed.
I tried to kill myself 4 times in the span of about 8 months. Obviously I never succeeded but I tried. All attempts were me trying to overdose on acetaminophen. I also self harmed a lot. Like my arm was covered in scars and cuts. Nobody noticed or cared enough to ask if I was okay. I missed a total of 121 classes in my Grade 7 year and even though I passed with honours they wanted to hold me back for missing so much school.
My mom would threaten to drive us into a brick wall on the way to school which led to me being pretty upset when I would get there. I struggled with sleep and would fall asleep in class. None of my friends cared because, 1 they weren’t great people and 2 they were all depressed too. It was like an epidemic. I finally told my mom what was going on after I had a mental break down right before exam week at school.
This resulted in her finding a therapist. But before I got to see a therapist she took me out into a park with my father on 2021 father’s day and they tried to force me to talk about what was wrong when I explicitly told them I didn’t want to tell them.
It’s been almost 2 years since than and I’m still depressed. I’ve tried therapy and it never helped. I felt like I couldn’t trust my therapist because she was technically a counsellor and through legal loopholes she doesn’t legally have to keep what I tell her a secret. I’ve been struggling lately and I’m just so exhausted. I can never tell my mom what’s wrong because then she freaks out and assumes I’m gonna kill myself.
Since my breakdown I switched to online school, 2 of my grandparents have died, I gained 3 step siblings, 2 sibling in laws, a nephew and my dad moved across the country. I’m so sick and tired of the world. I have had to be the perfect daughter who does well in school and is always okay and I’m just so done with pretending to be fine. I’m sobbing in my room at night and struggling to make myself lunch without crying during the day. My family jokes about mental illness and I’m barely hanging on.
Vent over for now
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2023.03.22 06:03 shoesfullofwater [WA State] Landlord in violation of state law, unsure of how to proceed

I’ve recently reviewed my state’s landlord tenant laws and found that my landlord is in violation of them. Here are some examples:
1) Last year, our electric stove was smoking to the point of it being unusable, despite all my attempts to remedy this. The plates were due for replacement after normal wear and tear. We asked that the landlord replace them as they are required to make sure we have a way to cook food. They refused so we replaced them ourselves and sent them a bill (~$250). They wouldn’t cover the full amount of the bill, which I understand to be in violation of our tenant rights to full reimbursement.
2) Our dishwasher broke over a year ago. We asked for a repair man and never received a response. We asked for a replacement and were denied. The dishwasher now has standing water in it that is causing mold and mildew. I believe this violates our right to have appliances repaired within 10 days and our right to live in a mold-free environment.
3) I honestly don’t know who’s responsible for this, but they’ve never hired a professional or had our maintenance man come and clean our our dryer vents. My husband has lived in the unit since 2018, which means about 5 years. I know you’re supposed to have those cleaned once a year since it’s a fire hazard. I do know any fire hazard maintenance is the landlords responsibility, but I’m not sure about this specific detail.
4) Our toilet handle broke. Our request for repair were ignored several times over the course of several months. I would have gotten to it sooner myself but I was 8 months pregnant when it broke and was then dealing with birth and a newborn, so it fell to the wayside. I repaired it myself when they continued to ignore our requests. I know maintaining plumbing is a landlords responsibility.
5) We have concerns about foundation and/or floor rot on our whole first floor (it’s not a big apartment so it’s not a lot of space). We’ve texted and verbally told our maintenance guy and landlord about this multiple times. It’s getting to the point where the floors are bowing under our weight. It’s dangerous for my baby since it causes all of the furniture to sway (we will be anchoring the large furniture before he learns to crawl). We’ve requested that either and inspector or our maintenance man come and look at it and we have been ignored. I don’t know where this falls under landlord liability and/or unlivable conditions.
The main issue is that this is employee housing from my husband’s job. He’s a good worker and has been employed there for over 10 years. We also live in a small town and he has a good relationship with our landlord and his boss.
Does anyone have any advice on how to approach this situation without souring my husband’s relationship with his boss? I plan to write up and sign a document with our requests and submit it to them by the end of the week. Is there anything else to do? I’m not the most confrontational person so this is a bit new to me. Any advice is welcome.
Edit: I should note that we live on an island, so not only is housing very physically limited, but we are financially limited. Any available housing outside of our current living situation is unaffordable to my husband and I. Our only option if we leave this unit is to move in with my parents, who have limited space with my younger sister still living at home.
Also, we are on a month to month lease.
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2023.03.22 05:58 thekaelieshowsnark I understand her rights as a trans women but if she is not even attempting to pass as a women & goes in full beard showing as a man - I would not be comfortable if my kid was in that bathroom.

I understand her rights as a trans women but if she is not even attempting to pass as a women & goes in full beard showing as a man - I would not be comfortable if my kid was in that bathroom. submitted by thekaelieshowsnark to TheKaelieShowSnark [link] [comments]

2023.03.22 05:46 RichDAiLLesT1 Keep getting interviews for a company I'm not excited for

A recruiter I worked with before reached out to me about an opportunity. I said sure I'll interview for it just for practice at least. I've now made it through 3 interviews in the past 2 weeks and have a 4th coming up. I told the recruiter my pros and cons for this job but obviously he still encouraging me to take it if I get an offer.
Current job is 4 days WFH, 1 day in office about 30 miles away.
New job comes with a 15% raise and WFH 1 day a week and 4 days in office(40 miles away)....then have been told in office will tapper off to 3 days and 2 days from home (after some trust is built) It's a start up with more opportunity to grow. IDK what to do the 15% is really not enough for me to jump ship, heck even 20% I'd still be on the fence. I love WFH and it seems like most jobs I've seen are all done sort of hybrid.
What would you do? Looking for advice.
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2023.03.22 05:35 Sun_At_Meridian OCD flair ups

My OCD kicks into a higher gear when I’m stressed or overwhelmed, like most people here I’m sure. But also seems to get worse around the anniversary of my father’s death (I was witness to the whole thing, quite a traumatic experience), and when I’m put in a situation I’m not familiar with.
What makes (or has made) your OCD “flair up” or relapse/lapse?
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2023.03.22 05:26 JMiracle2019 Picking up your cross

I was asked recently, "What does picking up your cross and denying yourself to follow Jesus actually look like?"
My answer was this:
It means to deny your urge to sin, so sacrificing your pleasure recieved in sin and to focus on your relationship with Jesus instead. A true Christian is someone who talks to Him often each day, about everything. The true Christian will love Jesus more than they love anyone else, even their spouse and kids. They will love Him more than they love to sin, making them stop actively sinning because they want to please the one they love. Just like any significant relationship, you avoid doing things the other person in the relationship doesn't like, so as to not offend them or make them unhappy. Instead, you do things they do like because you want to show them your love for them, and make them happy.
It's the same thing with Jesus. It's not about working for your Salvation, it's just a result of loving Him.
For clarification, this post is meant to reference what the fruits of salvation look like, not what it takes to be saved.
No amount of works, no matter how good or consistent, can save someone. Only acknowledging that you're a sinner in need of saving and faith in Jesus Christ and what He did with the cross and His resurrection can save you.
This post was meant to help people to know what it looks like when a person truly loves Jesus after getting saved and walks with Him every day.
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2023.03.22 05:22 Inner-Membership-175 My itchy baby

Okay he’s turning 4 next month but still my baby!
TLDR: I’ve had severe eczema all my life and it’s now being maintained by injections. My 4 year old is finally showing signs of eczema and my heart is aching.
So my son has a rash on his cheeks. I didn’t think it would be eczema. I just refused to believe it was eczema, and when the doctor confirmed my fears, I couldn’t help but cry my eyeballs out. I’ve been crying for days.
I’ve had severe eczema all my life. It never really stopped. I’ve been bullied for it, been depressed because it prevented me from having a social life, couldn’t do sports as a kid, and I wanted to unalive myself throughout different flare ups because they were just so damn bad. YES, I’ve removed all fragrances, common allergies, YES I’ve been allergy tested, YES no fragrances in my home, etc etc. YES I’ve changed my diet. The only thing that really ever helped was my traveling to another country and of course I’m not going to do that right now.
I’m just so devastated that my son is most likely going to have to struggle in the same ways that I have and I can’t help but feel so sad about it. I would have preferred HFM again or some other viral infection that would most likely go away but this never leaves. He could have a worse illness or something but I’ll at least have a lot of knowledge going into this, but ugh. My feelings are just all over the place and I can’t help but feel like I failed my own kid.
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2023.03.22 05:16 VerseKong Bloodline Trait ability — Corpse Disintegration.

This post will be a short essay on the bloodline ability Corpse Disintegration in the world that I’ve created. But first let’s go over some of the context.

What is a Bloodline?

The word bloodline refer to an individual's lineage or ancestry. In my world, bloodlines often determine an individual's innate abilities, powers, or traits, which are passed down through their family line, they are basically unique genetic abilities that few have, so know that this ability is rare.

Why is this ability a bloodline trait?

In my world, the ability to channel mana into weapons and attack the flow of mana in an opponents is a genetic ability or a bloodline trait, like I said this means the average person isn’t able to do this. To be able to disintegrate corpses is an advanced trait of this bloodline, It requires an even greater degree of control and precision, as well as a deep understanding of the properties and behavior of mana. It requires you to both channel mana into your weapon, and attack the residual mana in a corpse to fully make it disintegrate.

Ability Explained

Corpse Disintegration — By channeling mana into their weapon, the character gains the ability to disintegrate corpses at an alarming rate, making them disappear entirely. This ability is useful for quickly disposing of evidence of bodies, especially in situations that require stealth such as sabotages, assassinations or espionage.
Build up time — 10 seconds, this is you channeling enough mana into your weapon to perform the ability, the time depends on how much mastery you have over your mana, it can be shorter. You cannot burn bodies instantly.
Effect:You the channel mana into the weapon, place the tip of the weapon on the body. As the user channels their mana into the weapon and targets the residual mana inside the corpse, the weapon could shine with a bright blue light, indicating the transfer of mana.
After the last of the mana inside the corpse is consumed and disintegrated, the weapon could flash even brighter before returning to its normal state. This could be a sign that the process is complete and the weapon has fully absorbed and destroyed the mana, leaving nothing behind that could be harnessed or wielded by anyone else.
Time — 30 seconds, the initial stages of the disintegration process can be quite violent, with the body convulsing and twitching, as it begins to break apart, The skin and muscle tissue may blister and bubble as they are rapidly heated by the mana being released. As the disintegration progresses, the body begins to break down into a fine dust or ash, almost as if it were being consumed by an intense flame. The bones, which are among the most durable parts of the body, may take longer to break down, but eventually they too will be reduced to nothing.
How does the ability work?
Disintegration targets the residual mana inside a corpse because this mana is the key to the disintegration process.
When a living being dies, the mana that once sustained it begins to dissipate, leaving behind a small amount of residual mana within the body. This residual mana is what the ability targets, channeling the user's mana through their weapon and into the residual mana of the corpse.
The specific way in which this targeting occurs is through the disruption of the residual mana's structure. The user's mana, when channeled through their weapon and into the residual mana of the corpse, destabilizes the mana structure within the corpse. This destabilization causes the residual mana to begin to break down at an accelerated rate, releasing energy that rapidly disintegrates the corpse.
The reason why this specific method of targeting the residual mana allows the user to disintegrate a corpse is that the residual mana acts as a sort of anchor, holding the physical structure of the corpse together. By destabilizing this anchor, the physical structure of the corpse rapidly breaks down and disintegrates.
In short, it rapidly increases the decomposition process by rapidly increasing destabilising the residual mana inside the mana, and then causing it to violently exit the body.
Effective only against the dead — Corpse Disintegration specifically targets and attacks the residual mana left in a corpse after the life force or soul has departed. This is why the ability is only effective against dead bodies, and not living creatures.
Living creatures have an active life force, which constantly generates and replenishes their mana as well storing it inside the body. As a result, attempting to use Corpse Disintegration on a living creature would be ineffective, as the ability would be unable to overcome the creature's natural mana regeneration, and the mana is not leaving the body. (Soon making ability that attacks the life force, affecting production of mana)
Interestingly this ability works surprisingly well against the undead, as in my world, they are formed from the dark mana of their creator (Necromancer) and the residual mana inside their body. The ability attacks the second part of the mana, doing effectively extra damage against this beings.
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