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2023.03.22 07:33 Smooth_Woodpecker192 I (24f) called the cops on my bf (26m) Sunday night for endangering our lives.
Sunday night I called the cops on my bf for driving recklessly in a fit of rage.
So here's what happened: he left his friends house and came and picked me up from work. I asked him if he had fun with his friends and whatnot. He told me they went over to his girl best friends place to all hang out. It was the second night in a row he hung out with her, so I simply asked him why he hung out with her for a second night as it was supposed to be a "guys night" thing.
He immediately became enraged and started screaming at me that he was in a perfectly good mood and why do I have to go out of my way to piss him of constantly. He said the way I asked him about hanging out with her was snobby and that's why he got pissed immediately. Anyway, the screaming continued so I started recording the interaction as I had started recording them a long time ago. Mostly for his reference for later on and (if needed) my safety. I eventually told him I was recording after he made some comment about "no one will believe you" or something. His anger intensified. He ripped my phone out of my hand and was screaming at me even more at that point. I eventually got my phone back, to which he decided in his fit of rage to yank the wheel aggressively back and forth. The best way to describe this is like getting whip lash repeatedly. I yelled for him to stop and at that point I had stopped recording. He screamed then stop recording, I told him I already had and to let me out of the car. In which he started swerving harder while I opened the car door. I told him I will be calling the cops if he doesn't stop. Well...he didn't stop so I called them. He spotted once I started calling them and asked if I was serious. I didn't answer and waited for them to answer the phone and told the dispatcher my situation.
Now what I did not know was they deemed this a domestic violence situation and they treated it as such. He did not get arrested. But I talked to my mom about it later who told me the prosecuter decides to press charges or not and I cannot do anything about it. I half feel as if he gets what he deserves from his own actions but at the same time I do not want him charged with this crime as it affects your life in such a way, I wouldn't want anyone to have to deal with it. I've read that if I tried to persuade the prosecutor to not press charges they would assume it's bc of my "abuser" controlling me. I looked up what is deemed as domestic abuse and what he did ig is deemed as psychological abuse.
I just wanted him to stop swerving and screaming at me as I have ptsd from a car wreck years ago. I was absolutely terrified in that situation and didn't know what else to do. Any advice helps, I'm in MO.
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So here's what happened: he left his friends house and came and picked me up from work. I asked him if he had fun with his friends and whatnot. He told me they went over to his girl best friends place to all hang out. It was the second night in a row he hung out with her, so I simply asked him why he hung out with her for a second night as it was supposed to be a "guys night" thing.
He immediately became enraged and started screaming at me that he was in a perfectly good mood and why do I have to go out of my way to piss him of constantly. He said the way I asked him about hanging out with her was snobby and that's why he got pissed immediately. Anyway, the screaming continued so I started recording the interaction as I had started recording them a long time ago. Mostly for his reference for later on and (if needed) my safety. I eventually told him I was recording after he made some comment about "no one will believe you" or something. His anger intensified. He ripped my phone out of my hand and was screaming at me even more at that point. I eventually got my phone back, to which he decided in his fit of rage to yank the wheel aggressively back and forth. The best way to describe this is like getting whip lash repeatedly. I yelled for him to stop and at that point I had stopped recording. He screamed then stop recording, I told him I already had and to let me out of the car. In which he started swerving harder while I opened the car door. I told him I will be calling the cops if he doesn't stop. Well...he didn't stop so I called them. He spotted once I started calling them and asked if I was serious. I didn't answer and waited for them to answer the phone and told the dispatcher my situation.
Now what I did not know was they deemed this a domestic violence situation and they treated it as such. He did not get arrested. But I talked to my mom about it later who told me the prosecuter decides to press charges or not and I cannot do anything about it. I half feel as if he gets what he deserves from his own actions but at the same time I do not want him charged with this crime as it affects your life in such a way, I wouldn't want anyone to have to deal with it. I've read that if I tried to persuade the prosecutor to not press charges they would assume it's bc of my "abuser" controlling me. I looked up what is deemed as domestic abuse and what he did ig is deemed as psychological abuse.
I just wanted him to stop swerving and screaming at me as I have ptsd from a car wreck years ago. I was absolutely terrified in that situation and didn't know what else to do. Any advice helps, I'm in MO.
2023.03.22 07:32 throw_away2874 My ( f18) boyfriend ( m19) of 3 years has been doing drugs, drinking and lying to me in the last 3 months
I will call him Paul. He has dcd which leads him to be easily addicted to things and he also has depression which makes me worry about him trying new substances
Paul had never been interested in drugs or drinking or anything like that in fact me and him would make fun of people our age who did do weed and would say things like “ it helps with my anxiety” or depression or anything like that, despite not being diagnosed. But recently our friend and his best friend ( I will call him Mike) Mike ( m 17) has changed after losing weight and has been sleeping with numerous girls, going to parties, drinking and doing weed and other drugs, and Mike managed to get another one of me and my boyfriend’s friend into weed and drinking and possibly other drugs. My boyfriend was never into it and our other friends knew I wasn’t into it as well. But after these changes for whatever reason our friends pushed me out of our friend group and would begin jokingly sending me fake break up messages from my boyfriend, creating a tinder profile for him, saying rude things about me to people I don’t know and even lying to him to bring Paul to a party despite him not wanting to go and being uncomfortable with it ( he left the party )all this while pushing me out of their friend group out of no where. This January I went to my older brothers birthday party and I was quite nervous about it as I have social anxiety and I told my boyfriend about this before going to the party. Later I was at the party feeling anxious and tried texting him. No response. I thought that was odd then an hour had past and I was anxious about him and the party. Later I got a call from Paul and I went to the bathroom and I answered his call, his two friends called me on his phone explaining that my boyfriend was drunk and had tried to kill himself and my boyfriend was having fun? I talked to Paul who was very drunk and I couldn’t go back to my brothers party and ended up missing the happy birthday and opening gifts parts. I was so worried about my boyfriend as he tried to kill himself but he played it off as not a big deal once he was sober. This whole situation bothers me even more as only a month before this we had talked about him telling me before he drinks or does anything that would put him under the influence but he didn’t and right after I left to go to my brothers party he was drinking with his friends. I wanted him to tell me for communication, and cause I worry about him and sometimes I don’t want him drinking at all as I fear he will become addicted as even though he tried to kill himself he said it was one of the best nights he has had in years ( due to his depression) but obviously I can’t tell him not to drink at all as it’s not my choice and I want him to have fun. I just hate the thought of him hurting himself or become addicted. The next day after him drinking He apologized but it didn’t feel the most genuine as he didn’t completely see the problem but he did. Now just a week ago I was about to hang out with my sister who I don’t see often and I told my boyfriend not to do any drugs or drinking for the night as I didn’t want to worry about him that night. I knew be planned on watching a movie with Mike and our friend and he said he didn’t plan to drink or do drugs and that he wouldn’t but just two nights ago he told me he did weed that night and another night and he didn’t tell me sooner cause he didn’t want to cause me anxiety. I was upset but tried not to say anything cause I didn’t know how to react on one hand he told me and had a good reason not to tell me but on the other hand I asked him not to and he lied to me so easily even though I asked him that night if he was doing any substances and he lied to me and we talked about this twice before for him not to do anything like this without telling me before. I told him I didn’t want to get mad at him or be upset because I was scared that if he lied to me again he would never tell me and he said that was a good point? I’m not really sure how to feel about all this. I talked to him and he told me he wouldn’t lie anymore and he will tell me what he is doing before going out if it’s anything like what was mentioned and he has so far. Am I being to controlling? I understand he wants to try things for the first time but I worry about him especially when he can become addicted very easily and has depression which I worry he is trying drugs and alcohol to cope with. I try to get him to talk to a councillor but something always seems to prevent it. What can I do to help him? How can I improve for both of us?
To summarize my boyfriend lied to me about doing alcohol and weed behind my back but told me afterwards and I worry he is doing it just to cope with depression what should I do?
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Paul had never been interested in drugs or drinking or anything like that in fact me and him would make fun of people our age who did do weed and would say things like “ it helps with my anxiety” or depression or anything like that, despite not being diagnosed. But recently our friend and his best friend ( I will call him Mike) Mike ( m 17) has changed after losing weight and has been sleeping with numerous girls, going to parties, drinking and doing weed and other drugs, and Mike managed to get another one of me and my boyfriend’s friend into weed and drinking and possibly other drugs. My boyfriend was never into it and our other friends knew I wasn’t into it as well. But after these changes for whatever reason our friends pushed me out of our friend group and would begin jokingly sending me fake break up messages from my boyfriend, creating a tinder profile for him, saying rude things about me to people I don’t know and even lying to him to bring Paul to a party despite him not wanting to go and being uncomfortable with it ( he left the party )all this while pushing me out of their friend group out of no where. This January I went to my older brothers birthday party and I was quite nervous about it as I have social anxiety and I told my boyfriend about this before going to the party. Later I was at the party feeling anxious and tried texting him. No response. I thought that was odd then an hour had past and I was anxious about him and the party. Later I got a call from Paul and I went to the bathroom and I answered his call, his two friends called me on his phone explaining that my boyfriend was drunk and had tried to kill himself and my boyfriend was having fun? I talked to Paul who was very drunk and I couldn’t go back to my brothers party and ended up missing the happy birthday and opening gifts parts. I was so worried about my boyfriend as he tried to kill himself but he played it off as not a big deal once he was sober. This whole situation bothers me even more as only a month before this we had talked about him telling me before he drinks or does anything that would put him under the influence but he didn’t and right after I left to go to my brothers party he was drinking with his friends. I wanted him to tell me for communication, and cause I worry about him and sometimes I don’t want him drinking at all as I fear he will become addicted as even though he tried to kill himself he said it was one of the best nights he has had in years ( due to his depression) but obviously I can’t tell him not to drink at all as it’s not my choice and I want him to have fun. I just hate the thought of him hurting himself or become addicted. The next day after him drinking He apologized but it didn’t feel the most genuine as he didn’t completely see the problem but he did. Now just a week ago I was about to hang out with my sister who I don’t see often and I told my boyfriend not to do any drugs or drinking for the night as I didn’t want to worry about him that night. I knew be planned on watching a movie with Mike and our friend and he said he didn’t plan to drink or do drugs and that he wouldn’t but just two nights ago he told me he did weed that night and another night and he didn’t tell me sooner cause he didn’t want to cause me anxiety. I was upset but tried not to say anything cause I didn’t know how to react on one hand he told me and had a good reason not to tell me but on the other hand I asked him not to and he lied to me so easily even though I asked him that night if he was doing any substances and he lied to me and we talked about this twice before for him not to do anything like this without telling me before. I told him I didn’t want to get mad at him or be upset because I was scared that if he lied to me again he would never tell me and he said that was a good point? I’m not really sure how to feel about all this. I talked to him and he told me he wouldn’t lie anymore and he will tell me what he is doing before going out if it’s anything like what was mentioned and he has so far. Am I being to controlling? I understand he wants to try things for the first time but I worry about him especially when he can become addicted very easily and has depression which I worry he is trying drugs and alcohol to cope with. I try to get him to talk to a councillor but something always seems to prevent it. What can I do to help him? How can I improve for both of us?
To summarize my boyfriend lied to me about doing alcohol and weed behind my back but told me afterwards and I worry he is doing it just to cope with depression what should I do?
2023.03.22 07:32 Agitated-Risk-8455 Feel like I'm loosing it
I don't know what I'm really looking for, maybe advice, opinions or I'm just venting. Either way taking the time to read this is enough and I appreciate it.
I'm 27F my ex 27F
So I have reddit and have had reddit for a long time. My ex as of yesterday saw I had reddit about a month ago, made an account and was watching me on there. We had a falling out, I don't have many people I can openly talk to so I asked reddit for advice about the relationship. At this point I didn't know my ex was on reddit until she started screenshotting things and sending them to me and her friends. I felt embarrassed and like my place to go had been somewhat taken away. I deleted reddit to make life easier for her as she was worried. I downloaded it again 2 days later without her knowing. She found it again yesterday, searched through my profile, sent screen shots to me and her friends again. She asked if it was me and I flat out lied. I shouldn't have and I hate that I did. I was so angry, I just wanted a place to vent and ask for advice without all my stuff being shared. I told her the truth, it's my reddit account. I feel like a piece of sht for lying and I understand her anger and disappointment towards me. I'm a fuking idiot!
We were together for 4 months. This is a bit about our relationship. Just a snippit as I can't fit everything in.
Whenever we had a disagreement or an argument she would message her group chat and usually before I'm even aware there is a problem, she's already discussed it with her friends. It's not like 1 or 2 friends, from what I'm aware of its atleast 7. This makes me uncomfortable because it was our relationship and I feel she should discuss those things with me. I have no problem with her talking to a friend as I'm aware it's good to talk about things, but I don't have the same back from her. She shares everything with everyone, people she's not even close to and I struggle to understand or relate to this.
She has people on her social media's that want to "get lucky" with her, but refuses to remove them even tho they actively message her. I know if that were me it wouldn't go down well and tbh I wouldn't want to keep people on my socials that were messaging me like that, knowing I was in a relationship.
She wants me to talk about my friends because it's weird that I don't. We're the type of friends that check in every 6 months or so and pick up where we left off. I just don't feel like I need or particularly want to talk about my friends, and I'm sure it's the same for them, we also live hours apart. The 1 time I did go out with a friend she wanted thier first and last name so she could look them up on Facebook. She asked how long I had known this friend have I ever fancied her or done anything along those lines. She talks to alot of people and that might seem like an exaggeration, but it is constant. At one point she told me she always has to have someone else incase we break up. When we first started dating she was seeing someone else incase we didn't work out. These are things that she has told me. At one point she told me no one will ever love or care about me as much as she does. I don't know if it's normal, but I didn't take that very well it kind of upset me.
She's now joined the groups I am in on reddit and has started posting in them, so once again I've lost something that I enjoy and I find helps me. I will have to remove my account, I have blocked her so I can't see her stuff and she can't see mine, but in all honesty I don't trust her to just make another to find me. She didn't want to share her reddit username with me, I only know what it is because she has posted. She hates reddit doesn't understand it, her words, but now she's using it. I guess I just don't understand.
I have let things slide, and stuck by her. I've always chosen her and done what she's asked of me, even things I don't necessarily agree with.
Before this relationship I was with someone who was abusive, so much so I attempted suicide and have had years of therapy for. I was open with my now ex about this and I thought she was understanding, however the last thing she said to me was my previous relationship was my fault. I feel like she's attacking things that are personal to me. I feel like she has dismissed the things I went through in order to hurt me. I let it get to me I went numb and I self harmed and I'm full of regret and guilt.
I'm by no means perfect, and I make mistakes.
I just want to make clear that I had no intentions of cheating, entertaining anything or anyone along those lines. I was happy with her. I use reddit to ask and offer advice, aswel as finding gaming friends and sometimes I'll make a funny comment here and there.
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I'm 27F my ex 27F
So I have reddit and have had reddit for a long time. My ex as of yesterday saw I had reddit about a month ago, made an account and was watching me on there. We had a falling out, I don't have many people I can openly talk to so I asked reddit for advice about the relationship. At this point I didn't know my ex was on reddit until she started screenshotting things and sending them to me and her friends. I felt embarrassed and like my place to go had been somewhat taken away. I deleted reddit to make life easier for her as she was worried. I downloaded it again 2 days later without her knowing. She found it again yesterday, searched through my profile, sent screen shots to me and her friends again. She asked if it was me and I flat out lied. I shouldn't have and I hate that I did. I was so angry, I just wanted a place to vent and ask for advice without all my stuff being shared. I told her the truth, it's my reddit account. I feel like a piece of sht for lying and I understand her anger and disappointment towards me. I'm a fuking idiot!
We were together for 4 months. This is a bit about our relationship. Just a snippit as I can't fit everything in.
Whenever we had a disagreement or an argument she would message her group chat and usually before I'm even aware there is a problem, she's already discussed it with her friends. It's not like 1 or 2 friends, from what I'm aware of its atleast 7. This makes me uncomfortable because it was our relationship and I feel she should discuss those things with me. I have no problem with her talking to a friend as I'm aware it's good to talk about things, but I don't have the same back from her. She shares everything with everyone, people she's not even close to and I struggle to understand or relate to this.
She has people on her social media's that want to "get lucky" with her, but refuses to remove them even tho they actively message her. I know if that were me it wouldn't go down well and tbh I wouldn't want to keep people on my socials that were messaging me like that, knowing I was in a relationship.
She wants me to talk about my friends because it's weird that I don't. We're the type of friends that check in every 6 months or so and pick up where we left off. I just don't feel like I need or particularly want to talk about my friends, and I'm sure it's the same for them, we also live hours apart. The 1 time I did go out with a friend she wanted thier first and last name so she could look them up on Facebook. She asked how long I had known this friend have I ever fancied her or done anything along those lines. She talks to alot of people and that might seem like an exaggeration, but it is constant. At one point she told me she always has to have someone else incase we break up. When we first started dating she was seeing someone else incase we didn't work out. These are things that she has told me. At one point she told me no one will ever love or care about me as much as she does. I don't know if it's normal, but I didn't take that very well it kind of upset me.
She's now joined the groups I am in on reddit and has started posting in them, so once again I've lost something that I enjoy and I find helps me. I will have to remove my account, I have blocked her so I can't see her stuff and she can't see mine, but in all honesty I don't trust her to just make another to find me. She didn't want to share her reddit username with me, I only know what it is because she has posted. She hates reddit doesn't understand it, her words, but now she's using it. I guess I just don't understand.
I have let things slide, and stuck by her. I've always chosen her and done what she's asked of me, even things I don't necessarily agree with.
Before this relationship I was with someone who was abusive, so much so I attempted suicide and have had years of therapy for. I was open with my now ex about this and I thought she was understanding, however the last thing she said to me was my previous relationship was my fault. I feel like she's attacking things that are personal to me. I feel like she has dismissed the things I went through in order to hurt me. I let it get to me I went numb and I self harmed and I'm full of regret and guilt.
I'm by no means perfect, and I make mistakes.
I just want to make clear that I had no intentions of cheating, entertaining anything or anyone along those lines. I was happy with her. I use reddit to ask and offer advice, aswel as finding gaming friends and sometimes I'll make a funny comment here and there.
2023.03.22 07:32 SuperTiredDuck Tired of my husband relying on me for help instead of him helping himself
I (38f) have been married (39m) for almost 15 years. Both of us grew up in abusive homes, so had a lot to heal from. We’ve been there for each other in many ways.
He recently realized he probably has autism after our son’s diagnosis. This honestly helps explain many things that have been endlessly frustrating for me. (Missing things, not remembering things, me having to repeat things a lot, misunderstanding social situations) I don’t however feel that it should be an excuse to continue in hurtful behavior. It feels like he’s stopped really trying to grow and is using being neurodivergent as an excuse.
The last few weeks in our relationship have been terrible. We’ve had 4 different times where he’s been (imo) incredibly hurtful or thoughtless or defensive. This used to happen all the time but the last few years it’s only been maybe a few times a year if that, so this is a lot for me. I feel that I am the one that carries our family emotionally and have to guide him through what to do to function and be healthy or he just spins his tires and talks in circles. I’ve been through many years of therapy to face my pain and heal. He’s tried a couple times but stopped. I have told him countless times to please try again, and he says he will, but it hasn’t happened yet. It’s been a lot of “I’m so stupid, how could you be with me?” and me reassuring him that he is loved and worthy of love. And I absolutely genuinely mean that. But last night I finally just cracked.
During dinner he casually mentioned that this would be his last year volunteering at a camp we’ve been volunteering at together for over a decade where he has a prominent role. It’s a camp for abused and neglected kids, so if anyone deserves our kindness, it’s them. Plus they come from similar upbringings to my husband and myself. He had mentioned a few times in the months prior that he hadn’t wanted to do it this year, but I thought he was just stressed from our recent move and encouraged him to give himself time to process things. He hadn’t mentioned trying to work through his feelings about it at all since then, so I was very surprised and disappointed. I didn’t say anything for awhile and then said that I didn’t appreciate him dropping abandonment bombs on me like that, especially in front of our kids (6&8) so I couldn’t talk about it. I was honestly very grumpy the rest of dinner and then apologized to my kids. It was very hurtful to me that he no longer wanted to volunteer with me or help these kids. When I asked further, he said it was too difficult and he wanted to take a break indefinitely. I stated that if he’d gone to therapy like I’ve been suggesting that he might be able to face his own pain and not be triggered at camp. He said that he would go to therapy and would sign up that evening. (He did not sign up.) Said that it’s his life and he can do what he wants. Then shifted from that to say that maybe he needs the break to heal. If he actually put in significant effort there I might believe him, but I haven’t seen that. I’ve seen him withdraw and play video games. He hits a struggle in life and flounders until I gently guide him on what to do. And I really, really don’t like doing it because he often doesn’t seem to learn for next time. I’m happy to help, but not when it feels like voluntary helplessness. I want to be his friend, not his mom. I constantly tell him he can learn and process these things in therapy. I’ve been patient, but the constant repetition for over a decade I guess has worn me down. I want him to be happy and healthy and confident within himself, and not need my constant validation.
So I feel like suddenly dropping out without even discussing it is a poor reflection on his character and it just broke me. I’ve been holding us together for a long time and dealt with him being very unkind to me for over a decade of our relationship before he made some changes. He has made an effort since then. I’ve been consistent, caring, and helpful throughout. I get frustrated sometimes, but it’s minimal.
But I yelled last night. I told him how hurtful this was, to just make a big decision like this without discussing it with me and during a time where he’s in a big transition mentally with the possible neurodivergence. It felt like nothing I said mattered. I got so frustrated that I finally just broke, and said it wasn’t fair to me to be trapped in a relationship with someone who wasn’t trying. (Divorce is not an option for me bc I will literally die without his health insurance.) He then told me that he’d looked it up and I would get his life insurance even if he took his own life, so is that what I wanted? As I am someone who struggled with severe s. ideation for many years but did not give in to it, that felt like a slap in the face. Not only to me, but to our children.
He tried talking to me more after that but I kind of just shut down. He apologized and I thought we might make some progress, but then he went back to being defensive and talking in circles. I went to take a shower and when I got out he was pretending to sleep.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I love him and I think he loves me but it’s not the same. He doesn’t love himself so that can only extend so far. I’m so angry bc I’ve been there for him through so many difficult times, even when he’s been awful to me. I’ve given him many chances and room to grow. I shouldn’t have yelled and I own that. But I’m just so defeated. What am I supposed to do if he won’t help himself? He isn’t a bad guy overall. Has made mistakes but I think he has tried to do better. I would honestly say he’s significantly better than your average guy. I just… I need a partner. I’m so tired.
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He recently realized he probably has autism after our son’s diagnosis. This honestly helps explain many things that have been endlessly frustrating for me. (Missing things, not remembering things, me having to repeat things a lot, misunderstanding social situations) I don’t however feel that it should be an excuse to continue in hurtful behavior. It feels like he’s stopped really trying to grow and is using being neurodivergent as an excuse.
The last few weeks in our relationship have been terrible. We’ve had 4 different times where he’s been (imo) incredibly hurtful or thoughtless or defensive. This used to happen all the time but the last few years it’s only been maybe a few times a year if that, so this is a lot for me. I feel that I am the one that carries our family emotionally and have to guide him through what to do to function and be healthy or he just spins his tires and talks in circles. I’ve been through many years of therapy to face my pain and heal. He’s tried a couple times but stopped. I have told him countless times to please try again, and he says he will, but it hasn’t happened yet. It’s been a lot of “I’m so stupid, how could you be with me?” and me reassuring him that he is loved and worthy of love. And I absolutely genuinely mean that. But last night I finally just cracked.
During dinner he casually mentioned that this would be his last year volunteering at a camp we’ve been volunteering at together for over a decade where he has a prominent role. It’s a camp for abused and neglected kids, so if anyone deserves our kindness, it’s them. Plus they come from similar upbringings to my husband and myself. He had mentioned a few times in the months prior that he hadn’t wanted to do it this year, but I thought he was just stressed from our recent move and encouraged him to give himself time to process things. He hadn’t mentioned trying to work through his feelings about it at all since then, so I was very surprised and disappointed. I didn’t say anything for awhile and then said that I didn’t appreciate him dropping abandonment bombs on me like that, especially in front of our kids (6&8) so I couldn’t talk about it. I was honestly very grumpy the rest of dinner and then apologized to my kids. It was very hurtful to me that he no longer wanted to volunteer with me or help these kids. When I asked further, he said it was too difficult and he wanted to take a break indefinitely. I stated that if he’d gone to therapy like I’ve been suggesting that he might be able to face his own pain and not be triggered at camp. He said that he would go to therapy and would sign up that evening. (He did not sign up.) Said that it’s his life and he can do what he wants. Then shifted from that to say that maybe he needs the break to heal. If he actually put in significant effort there I might believe him, but I haven’t seen that. I’ve seen him withdraw and play video games. He hits a struggle in life and flounders until I gently guide him on what to do. And I really, really don’t like doing it because he often doesn’t seem to learn for next time. I’m happy to help, but not when it feels like voluntary helplessness. I want to be his friend, not his mom. I constantly tell him he can learn and process these things in therapy. I’ve been patient, but the constant repetition for over a decade I guess has worn me down. I want him to be happy and healthy and confident within himself, and not need my constant validation.
So I feel like suddenly dropping out without even discussing it is a poor reflection on his character and it just broke me. I’ve been holding us together for a long time and dealt with him being very unkind to me for over a decade of our relationship before he made some changes. He has made an effort since then. I’ve been consistent, caring, and helpful throughout. I get frustrated sometimes, but it’s minimal.
But I yelled last night. I told him how hurtful this was, to just make a big decision like this without discussing it with me and during a time where he’s in a big transition mentally with the possible neurodivergence. It felt like nothing I said mattered. I got so frustrated that I finally just broke, and said it wasn’t fair to me to be trapped in a relationship with someone who wasn’t trying. (Divorce is not an option for me bc I will literally die without his health insurance.) He then told me that he’d looked it up and I would get his life insurance even if he took his own life, so is that what I wanted? As I am someone who struggled with severe s. ideation for many years but did not give in to it, that felt like a slap in the face. Not only to me, but to our children.
He tried talking to me more after that but I kind of just shut down. He apologized and I thought we might make some progress, but then he went back to being defensive and talking in circles. I went to take a shower and when I got out he was pretending to sleep.
I don’t know what to do anymore. I love him and I think he loves me but it’s not the same. He doesn’t love himself so that can only extend so far. I’m so angry bc I’ve been there for him through so many difficult times, even when he’s been awful to me. I’ve given him many chances and room to grow. I shouldn’t have yelled and I own that. But I’m just so defeated. What am I supposed to do if he won’t help himself? He isn’t a bad guy overall. Has made mistakes but I think he has tried to do better. I would honestly say he’s significantly better than your average guy. I just… I need a partner. I’m so tired.
2023.03.22 07:31 StrictSky8227 My (27M) GF (25F) talks so much about her exes. Why does this bother me?
My girlfriend was in a very dysfunctional relationship with her immediate ex. He was apparently very emotionally detached, and put her through a really traumatic experience. She has been working through it with a therapist. Lately she uncovered why she was attracted to him in the first place. Apparently they’re both ENTJ personality types, and she explained it was drive and ambition that attracted her. His alpha male qualities both in and out of the bedroom have been the discussion of many a conversations. But it was the same traits that also seems to have caused conflict. I listen and try to be supportive, though at times I internalize a lot of details mentioned and feel relegated to something inferior. Lately her ex before that has been calling from various phone numbers. They usually have a brief conversation and then she blocks him. He would also send messages of how he misses her, and feels bad for whatever he put her through. Recently she confided in me that they both have a shared traumatic experience, and on their last call they discussed it, and she wants to help him resolve some of his traumas and understand some of hers. Listen, I know I have my insecurities, but it doesn’t sit easy with me how often these people are mentioned, but also opening this line of communication. As for our relationship, affection and intimacy has dwindled. Anytime I gear up to discuss some of my thoughts, I’m told that I’m making this all about me. Maybe I am, so I bury this feeling, though it makes me sick.
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2023.03.22 07:31 Elliotem If you can type me you get a cookie
How old are you? What's your gender? Give us a general description of yourself.
I am 18. Biologically female.
I am definitely more on the quiet side. Definitely have some teenage angst.
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Describe your upbringing.
I dont think I was parented too much and I had to teach myself a lot of basic skills (thank god for youtube) But I was raised by a single mother with 3 kids who had to work constantly to keep food on the table, so it's understandable.
Overall my upbringing with chaotic and messy.. but I wouldn't change it. I think everything has shaped me into who I am today and Im okay with it.
--------
What do you do as a job or as a career?
I dont yet have a career.. Currently applying to entry level jobs.
Hoping to get a job one day that earns me enough money to not stress about bills. I will say task initiation is a big struggle for me.
If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel?
Absolutely refreshed. People stress me out, I try to avoid interacting with them. Though being near other humans, preferably in the corner of the room, is enjoyable.
--------
What kinds of activities do you prefer?
My top hobby is art. I also do rubiks cube, puzzles, shopping, cooking, sudoko, sleeping..
But a lot of my time is taken up researching my interests, it refreshes me the most. I like neuroscience, MBTI, torture mechanisms, beetlejuice (mainly musical), math, and whatever educational videos happen to pop up on my youtube feed
--------
How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute?
Im usually curious.
I dont know if I have many ideas.. but I definitely think about things more than I do them.
I am very curious into human nature, but I also enjoy learning about how the world works (it irks me how little we know, I am constantly finding dead ends)
Currently I am just starting to get into computers.
I absolutely cant stand learning about history, bores me to death.
--------
Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?
No, But I think I would be good at it. I would try to be clear with my words and efficient in my actions. I would give everyone a task to do. If someone repeatedly cannot hold up their task, they would have a one on one with me so I cant help them through it. If they show carelessness, they're out. throw them overboard
Maybe a bit like a dictatorship..? uhh
idk I guess maybe people can have vote, but I have final say.
On a larger scale like the president, I would not choose to be leader
but 10-50 people I can manage
--------
Are you coordinated? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form?
Nope, constantly falling on shit.
I enjoy working with my hands. (art, rubiks cube) I have great development in fine motor skills.
--------
Are you artistic?
Ive spent a whole lotta time on anatomy, perspective, values ect. So that I can mess it all up and play around
I enjoy drawing extreme faces and messy creatures.
but I can get very technical with my art. An art deco feel.
I loooove mandalas.
--------
What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?
My opinions..?
Past.. I have poor recollection of the past.
Present.. I tend to miss things in my environment and constantly have my girlfriend fill me in (shes an ISTJ hehe)
Future.. I think about a lot, but I dont plan
for much
--------
How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)?
I like helping people sometimes. I like teaching people more than I do just doing stuff for them. I want them to be able to do it on their own.
--------
Do you need logical consistency in your life?
Yes..? I dont know what this means exactly. I like things to make sense. confusion bothers me a lot.
--------
How important is efficiency to you?
I like efficiency, as in the quickest way to get somewhere while maintaining quality. This is mostly driven from laziness
--------
Do you control others, even if indirectly?
Some people have said I do. I disagree.. I think its more me trying to place how I think onto them when they aren't making a lick of sense
maybe that is controlling now that I think about it
--------
What is your learning style? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?
I like creating a system of notes. I recently got into note taking inspired by Zettelkasten. I struggle learning in noisy environments. I need something preoccupy my brain like food or fidget's. I like all things mentioned, creativity not so much.
I like when information is given to me in a straightforward way, with examples. I can add interpretations later but I need the raw base foundation of information first.
--------
How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks?
I can do it.. doesnt mean I do. I procrastinate until the last minute most times. Im not sure why.
--------
What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally?
I dont know ? Every time I start to go down a path, I back out and dig a new one. Im hoping this doesn't last outside my teenage years, its like a constant rediscovery of myself and I hate it.
--------
What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?
Im afraid of dying a painful death. Im afraid of being casted out by others. I am afraid of living on the streets and loosing hope for life.
Maybe also.. being close to people. Eh
I dont know what I hate ? in a general sense I have no idea
--------
What do the "highs" in your life look like?
I don't know, preferably I found routines that work for me and can set and work on goals
--------
What do the "lows" in your life look like?
very emotional, desperate and lonely. But Ive always had a roof over my head and (for the most part) food on the table.
--------
How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often?
I dont think I daydream but I live in my head a lot. Like I said, I have little attention to the world around me, I can easily miss something that everyone else sees.
--------
Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?
Why the hell I am in the room and who the hell put me there
after a long while.. probably about my friends and family and if they're safe from this mysterious person
after a LOOONG while
probably if I am dead. is this the afterlife? is this all there is? does this confirm or deny a god?
--------
How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?
Long time
Im a terrible decision maker
I can change my mind with new information, but If I've already put it in my note system its pretty much final.
--------
How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?
Not long. Ive gotten decently good with my emotional maturity.
Emotions arent something I try to pay attention too, but they are something that adds value to life.
--------
Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going?
Sometimes. I hate it. Recently Ive been trying to stop people pleasing so much but now I come off as aggressive
--------
Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better?
Finally last question. Props to anyone to actual read this whole thing, and thank you.
I dont break rules unless they are silly. I don't really try to challenge authority, I think they're important to keep things running.
--------
I think I am (in order from most to least sure):
ISTP
ISFP
INTP
INFP
All I know for sure is Im definitely an IxxP
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I am 18. Biologically female.
I am definitely more on the quiet side. Definitely have some teenage angst.
--------
Describe your upbringing.
I dont think I was parented too much and I had to teach myself a lot of basic skills (thank god for youtube) But I was raised by a single mother with 3 kids who had to work constantly to keep food on the table, so it's understandable.
Overall my upbringing with chaotic and messy.. but I wouldn't change it. I think everything has shaped me into who I am today and Im okay with it.
--------
What do you do as a job or as a career?
I dont yet have a career.. Currently applying to entry level jobs.
Hoping to get a job one day that earns me enough money to not stress about bills. I will say task initiation is a big struggle for me.
If you had to spend an entire weekend by yourself, how would you feel?
Absolutely refreshed. People stress me out, I try to avoid interacting with them. Though being near other humans, preferably in the corner of the room, is enjoyable.
--------
What kinds of activities do you prefer?
My top hobby is art. I also do rubiks cube, puzzles, shopping, cooking, sudoko, sleeping..
But a lot of my time is taken up researching my interests, it refreshes me the most. I like neuroscience, MBTI, torture mechanisms, beetlejuice (mainly musical), math, and whatever educational videos happen to pop up on my youtube feed
--------
How curious are you? Do you have more ideas then you can execute?
Im usually curious.
I dont know if I have many ideas.. but I definitely think about things more than I do them.
I am very curious into human nature, but I also enjoy learning about how the world works (it irks me how little we know, I am constantly finding dead ends)
Currently I am just starting to get into computers.
I absolutely cant stand learning about history, bores me to death.
--------
Would you enjoy taking on a leadership position? Do you think you would be good at it? What would your leadership style be?
No, But I think I would be good at it. I would try to be clear with my words and efficient in my actions. I would give everyone a task to do. If someone repeatedly cannot hold up their task, they would have a one on one with me so I cant help them through it. If they show carelessness, they're out. throw them overboard
Maybe a bit like a dictatorship..? uhh
idk I guess maybe people can have vote, but I have final say.
On a larger scale like the president, I would not choose to be leader
but 10-50 people I can manage
--------
Are you coordinated? Do you enjoy working with your hands in some form?
Nope, constantly falling on shit.
I enjoy working with my hands. (art, rubiks cube) I have great development in fine motor skills.
--------
Are you artistic?
Ive spent a whole lotta time on anatomy, perspective, values ect. So that I can mess it all up and play around
I enjoy drawing extreme faces and messy creatures.
but I can get very technical with my art. An art deco feel.
I loooove mandalas.
--------
What's your opinion about the past, present, and future? How do you deal with them?
My opinions..?
Past.. I have poor recollection of the past.
Present.. I tend to miss things in my environment and constantly have my girlfriend fill me in (shes an ISTJ hehe)
Future.. I think about a lot, but I dont plan
for much
--------
How do you act when others request your help to do something (anything)?
I like helping people sometimes. I like teaching people more than I do just doing stuff for them. I want them to be able to do it on their own.
--------
Do you need logical consistency in your life?
Yes..? I dont know what this means exactly. I like things to make sense. confusion bothers me a lot.
--------
How important is efficiency to you?
I like efficiency, as in the quickest way to get somewhere while maintaining quality. This is mostly driven from laziness
--------
Do you control others, even if indirectly?
Some people have said I do. I disagree.. I think its more me trying to place how I think onto them when they aren't making a lick of sense
maybe that is controlling now that I think about it
--------
What is your learning style? Do you prefer classes involving memorization, logic, creativity, or your physical senses?
I like creating a system of notes. I recently got into note taking inspired by Zettelkasten. I struggle learning in noisy environments. I need something preoccupy my brain like food or fidget's. I like all things mentioned, creativity not so much.
I like when information is given to me in a straightforward way, with examples. I can add interpretations later but I need the raw base foundation of information first.
--------
How good are you at strategizing? Do you easily break up projects into manageable tasks?
I can do it.. doesnt mean I do. I procrastinate until the last minute most times. Im not sure why.
--------
What are your aspirations in life, professionally and personally?
I dont know ? Every time I start to go down a path, I back out and dig a new one. Im hoping this doesn't last outside my teenage years, its like a constant rediscovery of myself and I hate it.
--------
What are your fears? What makes you uncomfortable? What do you hate? Why?
Im afraid of dying a painful death. Im afraid of being casted out by others. I am afraid of living on the streets and loosing hope for life.
Maybe also.. being close to people. Eh
I dont know what I hate ? in a general sense I have no idea
--------
What do the "highs" in your life look like?
I don't know, preferably I found routines that work for me and can set and work on goals
--------
What do the "lows" in your life look like?
very emotional, desperate and lonely. But Ive always had a roof over my head and (for the most part) food on the table.
--------
How attached are you to reality? Do you daydream often?
I dont think I daydream but I live in my head a lot. Like I said, I have little attention to the world around me, I can easily miss something that everyone else sees.
--------
Imagine you are alone in a blank, empty room. There is nothing for you to do and no one to talk to. What do you think about?
Why the hell I am in the room and who the hell put me there
after a long while.. probably about my friends and family and if they're safe from this mysterious person
after a LOOONG while
probably if I am dead. is this the afterlife? is this all there is? does this confirm or deny a god?
--------
How long do you take to make an important decision? And do you change your mind once you've made it?
Long time
Im a terrible decision maker
I can change my mind with new information, but If I've already put it in my note system its pretty much final.
--------
How long do you take to process your emotions? How important are emotions in your life?
Not long. Ive gotten decently good with my emotional maturity.
Emotions arent something I try to pay attention too, but they are something that adds value to life.
--------
Do you ever catch yourself agreeing with others just to appease them and keep the conversation going?
Sometimes. I hate it. Recently Ive been trying to stop people pleasing so much but now I come off as aggressive
--------
Do you break rules often? Do you think authority should be challenged, or that they know better?
Finally last question. Props to anyone to actual read this whole thing, and thank you.
I dont break rules unless they are silly. I don't really try to challenge authority, I think they're important to keep things running.
--------
I think I am (in order from most to least sure):
ISTP
ISFP
INTP
INFP
All I know for sure is Im definitely an IxxP
2023.03.22 07:31 Resumesolution Professional Resume Writing Best Resume Writers
Introduction to resume writing
Most job seekers find themselves in a situation where they've taken on too many projects, and as a result, their resumes are in need of a serious update. If you're in this boat, you're not alone. A recent survey of 1,000 job seekers found that 58% have not updated their resume in the past year, and 21% have not updated their resume in the past three years.
If it's been a while since you've updated your resume, don't fret. We're here to help. In this post, we'll show you how to write a resume that will get you noticed by employers and help you land the job you want.
First things first: let's define a resume. A resume is a document that outlines your work experience, skills, and educational background. It's typically used when applying for jobs, and it's the first thing employers look at when considering candidates.
There are different types of resumes, but the most common is the chronological resume. This type of resume lists your work experience in reverse chronological order, starting with your most recent job. It's the most common type of resume because it's easy to read and it gives employers a clear idea of your work history.
If you're not sure how to get started, take a look at our chronological resume template. This template will help you structure your resume and make sure you include all the important information employers are looking for.
Once you have a template you like, it's time to start filling it in. Here's what you need to include in your resume:
Contact information: Include your name, email address, and phone number.
Professional summary: A brief summary of your skills and experience.
Work history: A list of your previous jobs, including the job title, company name, dates of employment, and a brief description of your duties.
Skills: A list of your skills, including both hard and soft skills.
Education: A list of your educational qualifications, including the name of the institution, the type of degree, and the graduation date.
Optional sections: You can also include additional sections in your resume, such as volunteer
II. The importance of a well-written resume
There's no question that a well-written resume is important. After all, your resume is often the first impression you make on a potential employer. But what exactly makes a resume well-written? Here are a few tips to keep in mind:
III. The benefits of using a professional resume writer
There are many reasons to use a professional resume writer. A resume writer can help you create a custom resume that highlights your unique skills and experience, and can even help you land a job.
A professional resume writer can:
- Help you identify your transferable skills
- Help you focus your resume on the right keywords
- Help you write a custom resume that highlights your unique skills and experience
- Help you land a job
A professional resume writer can help you create a custom resume that:
- Highlights your unique skills and experience
- Is keyword-optimized
- Gets you noticed by employers
A professional resume writer can also help you:
- Understand what employers are looking for
- Write a custom resume that highlights your unique skills and experience
- Land a job
If you're looking for a job, a professional resume writer can help you create a custom resume that will get you noticed by employers.
IV. How to choose the right resume writer for you
If you're on the job market, the chances are that you'll need to enlist the help of a professional resume writer at some point. But with so many resume writing services out there, how do you know which one to choose?
Here are some things to keep in mind when selecting a resume writer:
Choosing the right resume writer for you is an important decision. But if you keep these things in mind, you'll be sure to find a great writer who can help you land the job you want.
V. The top mistakes people make when writing their own resumes
When it comes to writing your own resume, there are a few common mistakes that people tend to make. Here are the top five mistakes to avoid when writing your resume:
To make sure your resume is keywords -
First, look at the job listing and make a list of the required skills and qualifications.
Then, look at your own resume and see if you’ve included those keywords.
If you’re missing any of the required keywords, try to work them into your resume where it makes sense.
VI. How a professional resume writer can help you avoid those mistakes
There are a few key reasons why working with a professional resume writer can help you avoid making common mistakes on your resume.
First, a professional resume writer understands what recruiters and hiring managers are looking for in a resume. They know what keywords and phrases to use, and how to structure your resume in a way that will make it easy for a busy recruiter to quickly see your value.
Second, a professional resume writer can help you identify and highlight your most relevant and impressive accomplishments. They know how to take your work history and education and turn it into a resume that will grab a recruiter's attention.
Third, a professional resume writer can help you avoid common resume mistakes, such as using outdated language or formatting your resume in a way that makes it hard to read. By working with a professional, you can be confident that your resume will be error-free and will make a strong first impression.
If you're serious about landing your dream job, working with a professional resume writer is a smart investment. By avoiding common resume mistakes and highlighting your best qualifications, you'll increase your chances of getting noticed by employers and landing the job you want.
VII. The bottom line: is hiring a resume writer worth it?
If you're on the fence about whether or not hiring a resume writer is worth it, this blog post is for you. We'll go over the pros and cons of hiring a resume writer, and help you decide if it's the right move for your career.
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Most job seekers find themselves in a situation where they've taken on too many projects, and as a result, their resumes are in need of a serious update. If you're in this boat, you're not alone. A recent survey of 1,000 job seekers found that 58% have not updated their resume in the past year, and 21% have not updated their resume in the past three years.
If it's been a while since you've updated your resume, don't fret. We're here to help. In this post, we'll show you how to write a resume that will get you noticed by employers and help you land the job you want.
First things first: let's define a resume. A resume is a document that outlines your work experience, skills, and educational background. It's typically used when applying for jobs, and it's the first thing employers look at when considering candidates.
There are different types of resumes, but the most common is the chronological resume. This type of resume lists your work experience in reverse chronological order, starting with your most recent job. It's the most common type of resume because it's easy to read and it gives employers a clear idea of your work history.
If you're not sure how to get started, take a look at our chronological resume template. This template will help you structure your resume and make sure you include all the important information employers are looking for.
Once you have a template you like, it's time to start filling it in. Here's what you need to include in your resume:
Contact information: Include your name, email address, and phone number.
Professional summary: A brief summary of your skills and experience.
Work history: A list of your previous jobs, including the job title, company name, dates of employment, and a brief description of your duties.
Skills: A list of your skills, including both hard and soft skills.
Education: A list of your educational qualifications, including the name of the institution, the type of degree, and the graduation date.
Optional sections: You can also include additional sections in your resume, such as volunteer
II. The importance of a well-written resume
There's no question that a well-written resume is important. After all, your resume is often the first impression you make on a potential employer. But what exactly makes a resume well-written? Here are a few tips to keep in mind:
- Keep it concise. A resume should be a snapshot of your most relevant experience and skills. There's no need to include every job you've ever had or every skill you've ever acquired. Just include the information that's most relevant to the job you're applying for.
- Use action words. A good resume is full of powerful, action-oriented language. Avoid weak words like "helped" or " oversaw." Instead, use words like "developed," "created," or "achieved."
- Highlight your accomplishments. Your resume should highlight your successes and accomplishments. Include specific numbers and details to illustrate the impact you've made in your previous roles.
- Tailor your resume. Every resume should be tailored to the specific job you're applying for. Don't just send out the same generic resume to every employer. Take the time to customize your resume for each job to increase your chances of getting called for an interview.
- proofread. Always proofread your resume before sending it out. A single typo could be enough to eliminate you from consideration. Use spell check and have a friend or family member take a look as well.
III. The benefits of using a professional resume writer
There are many reasons to use a professional resume writer. A resume writer can help you create a custom resume that highlights your unique skills and experience, and can even help you land a job.
A professional resume writer can:
- Help you identify your transferable skills
- Help you focus your resume on the right keywords
- Help you write a custom resume that highlights your unique skills and experience
- Help you land a job
A professional resume writer can help you create a custom resume that:
- Highlights your unique skills and experience
- Is keyword-optimized
- Gets you noticed by employers
A professional resume writer can also help you:
- Understand what employers are looking for
- Write a custom resume that highlights your unique skills and experience
- Land a job
If you're looking for a job, a professional resume writer can help you create a custom resume that will get you noticed by employers.
IV. How to choose the right resume writer for you
If you're on the job market, the chances are that you'll need to enlist the help of a professional resume writer at some point. But with so many resume writing services out there, how do you know which one to choose?
Here are some things to keep in mind when selecting a resume writer:
- Make sure the resume writer is experienced and certified.
- Ask for samples.
- Find out what their process is.
- Get a sense of their personality.
- Make sure they offer a satisfaction guarantee.
Choosing the right resume writer for you is an important decision. But if you keep these things in mind, you'll be sure to find a great writer who can help you land the job you want.
V. The top mistakes people make when writing their own resumes
When it comes to writing your own resume, there are a few common mistakes that people tend to make. Here are the top five mistakes to avoid when writing your resume:
- Not Tailoring Your Resume to the Job
- including Irrelevant Information
- Not Using Keywords
To make sure your resume is keywords -
First, look at the job listing and make a list of the required skills and qualifications.
Then, look at your own resume and see if you’ve included those keywords.
If you’re missing any of the required keywords, try to work them into your resume where it makes sense.
- Not Proofreading
- Not Updating Your Contact Information
VI. How a professional resume writer can help you avoid those mistakes
There are a few key reasons why working with a professional resume writer can help you avoid making common mistakes on your resume.
First, a professional resume writer understands what recruiters and hiring managers are looking for in a resume. They know what keywords and phrases to use, and how to structure your resume in a way that will make it easy for a busy recruiter to quickly see your value.
Second, a professional resume writer can help you identify and highlight your most relevant and impressive accomplishments. They know how to take your work history and education and turn it into a resume that will grab a recruiter's attention.
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2023.03.22 07:30 scoobyydoob Doing the bare minimum doesn't make him a good dad.
He's a bare minimum type of dad but still wants to have rights and be involved despite being awful. I'd let him sign his rights away if he'd agree to it. Maybe someday he will and I won't have to stress about him anymore.
He was a shitty father before she was even born - I remember crying in the bathroom after he yelled at me for wanting a $100 ultrasound when I was 16 weeks pregnant cause I didn't have prenatal care yet and never got to see her or even confirm her heartbeat. I didn't manage to get prenatal care till 26 WEEKS cause medicaid was jerking me around and he wasn't helping me out at all. I was so stressed and terrified... Even worried that my baby wasn't alive inside me at certain points. He didn't seem to give a damn.
When the time came, he got pissed at me for not wanting to get induced early because he wanted extra leave to "be home and spend time with our baby"... After she was born he spent the whole time drinking and watching fuckin anime (I now despise anime), barely even looked at our baby, didn't help out with changing diapers or letting me sleep. God, fuck him. Oh, not gonna forget how I had to clean the house (it was a disaster and I was also sick the first week we were home with a bad cold) by myself to let pest control come (whole other can of worms) and had to clean again for his brother to visit despite all the pain from my vagina feeling like it was gonna fall out of my body from the bad tear I got during childbirth that took forever to heal. He bashed me for fucking SLEEPING while my newborn slept and when I exlained I had to cause she keeps me up late - no help from him - and just general exhaustion from all that my body went through and the mental toll motherhood takes on someone, he told me I need to "be a mother and get her on a good schedule".... A goddamn newborn. What the fuck, man.
I also got yelled at because I wanted to buy a few things for her arrival - he wanted to wait for the baby shower and donations. He wouldn't even let me pick out one thing for our baby. Oh, but he could purchase beer every night and buy guns and smokes! I worked till I was 35 weeks pregnant but I didn't make much and didn't have a car of my own, most of my money went to him after he blew all of what he made. I did that because I wanted the incoming money to be seen as both of ours... But he obviously didn't feel that way cause he financially abused the fuck out of me, told me it was impossible to save money, etc.
The drinking & his general lack of interest in our newborn was ultimately what broke me and made me leave. Actually, it was a huge conglomerate of all the bad treatment I had received, too. It's amazing how I started thinking rationally & my brain seemed totally rewired after I became a mother and I recognized the reality of how shitty he is after I left and had time to think.
A day before I left, I told him I was unhappy (baby was 6 weeks old) and asked if he was going to stop drinking because he had pissed on the floor the night before sometime during the night when I was up late soothing our newly 6 week old. He just said he enjoys drinking and finished the rest of his beers, nothing changed. So the next day, I packed up his car and had him take baby & I to my parents.
I had to get nasty with him to even give me $100 every 2 weeks on his paydays (cause he went 2 weeks without helping out and a week without coming to visit her). Only asking for $100 is very generous; he'd be made to pay 20% of his paycheck if I took him to court.
Today he decided to make things more difficult for me. Gave me a money order that I'll have to cash at the bank. He's aware I'll have to walk there, reactivate my old bank account and wait for a new card to be sent to me. He didn't care to ask if our daughter needed anything before screwing me over where I can't even use the $100 till the card arrives - I couldn't even do it today cause the bank was closed by then.
I've been so fucking nice to him. Was letting him pop in for visits whenever he wanted to (he'd usually come less than twice a week, never more than twice a week) till yesterday when I asked him to pick days he'd want to see her... Any days, however many days he wanted. He chose TWO DAYS a week. Fucker lives 7 minutes away, gets off work at 2pm and has the easiest job ever and his boss is super lenient with him (they're best friends) so it's not like he physically can't make it more often. And when he does visit, it's never longer than 20 minutes. He hasn't bonded with her at all.
He pissed me off today with that deliberately spiteful money order, and all the stuff he put me through that I never got to speak my mind about or receive even a simple apology for came rushing back. Especially since he still drunk texts me about how he jumps through hoops for me and does so much for our family and claims to love me... His ability to remain so delusional is baffling.
I told him to start paying me 20% from now on since he wants to make things difficult for me despite me trying to make things as easy as possible for him.
I'm so hurt and angry. Not only did I give him too many chances to fix our family, to get help to stop drinking, etc. but I was so nice to a pathetic extent. During his visits when he was acting like a miserable asshole, I'd try to make things more pleasant, offer him food, drinks, tv, attempted lighthearted conversation, tried to make playing with our baby more fun for him so maybe he'd attempt bonding with her, but he rejected all of it and continues acting like a dick, tries making my life more difficult.
It also scares me that a few nights ago he tried getting us to come over when he was drunk; he wanted to drive drunk with our baby. I will never feel comfortable sending her off with him. I will fight as hard as possible to not let that happen even if I have to move hours away. He has to prove he's making improvements, at least, but I know he won't.
I'm upset that our daughter has his last name. We never married (we planned to but thankfully didn't) so now I can't even have the same last name as my daughter. He doesn't deserve to have her carry on his last name. But if I can't ever find a way to change it, of course I'll show her reasons to love it. I don't ever want her to feel like part of her is tainted or bad, because she's beautiful and every part of her is loved.
I'm just done being nice to him. He burned a painting/letter I made him for our anniversary and posted it online for our acquaintances to see (how mature) so I clearly pissed him off. Good. It's time for him to start feeling hurt, helpless, betrayed, etc. just like he wanted me to feel. Not going to make sure things are so simple and easy for him anymore.
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He was a shitty father before she was even born - I remember crying in the bathroom after he yelled at me for wanting a $100 ultrasound when I was 16 weeks pregnant cause I didn't have prenatal care yet and never got to see her or even confirm her heartbeat. I didn't manage to get prenatal care till 26 WEEKS cause medicaid was jerking me around and he wasn't helping me out at all. I was so stressed and terrified... Even worried that my baby wasn't alive inside me at certain points. He didn't seem to give a damn.
When the time came, he got pissed at me for not wanting to get induced early because he wanted extra leave to "be home and spend time with our baby"... After she was born he spent the whole time drinking and watching fuckin anime (I now despise anime), barely even looked at our baby, didn't help out with changing diapers or letting me sleep. God, fuck him. Oh, not gonna forget how I had to clean the house (it was a disaster and I was also sick the first week we were home with a bad cold) by myself to let pest control come (whole other can of worms) and had to clean again for his brother to visit despite all the pain from my vagina feeling like it was gonna fall out of my body from the bad tear I got during childbirth that took forever to heal. He bashed me for fucking SLEEPING while my newborn slept and when I exlained I had to cause she keeps me up late - no help from him - and just general exhaustion from all that my body went through and the mental toll motherhood takes on someone, he told me I need to "be a mother and get her on a good schedule".... A goddamn newborn. What the fuck, man.
I also got yelled at because I wanted to buy a few things for her arrival - he wanted to wait for the baby shower and donations. He wouldn't even let me pick out one thing for our baby. Oh, but he could purchase beer every night and buy guns and smokes! I worked till I was 35 weeks pregnant but I didn't make much and didn't have a car of my own, most of my money went to him after he blew all of what he made. I did that because I wanted the incoming money to be seen as both of ours... But he obviously didn't feel that way cause he financially abused the fuck out of me, told me it was impossible to save money, etc.
The drinking & his general lack of interest in our newborn was ultimately what broke me and made me leave. Actually, it was a huge conglomerate of all the bad treatment I had received, too. It's amazing how I started thinking rationally & my brain seemed totally rewired after I became a mother and I recognized the reality of how shitty he is after I left and had time to think.
A day before I left, I told him I was unhappy (baby was 6 weeks old) and asked if he was going to stop drinking because he had pissed on the floor the night before sometime during the night when I was up late soothing our newly 6 week old. He just said he enjoys drinking and finished the rest of his beers, nothing changed. So the next day, I packed up his car and had him take baby & I to my parents.
I had to get nasty with him to even give me $100 every 2 weeks on his paydays (cause he went 2 weeks without helping out and a week without coming to visit her). Only asking for $100 is very generous; he'd be made to pay 20% of his paycheck if I took him to court.
Today he decided to make things more difficult for me. Gave me a money order that I'll have to cash at the bank. He's aware I'll have to walk there, reactivate my old bank account and wait for a new card to be sent to me. He didn't care to ask if our daughter needed anything before screwing me over where I can't even use the $100 till the card arrives - I couldn't even do it today cause the bank was closed by then.
I've been so fucking nice to him. Was letting him pop in for visits whenever he wanted to (he'd usually come less than twice a week, never more than twice a week) till yesterday when I asked him to pick days he'd want to see her... Any days, however many days he wanted. He chose TWO DAYS a week. Fucker lives 7 minutes away, gets off work at 2pm and has the easiest job ever and his boss is super lenient with him (they're best friends) so it's not like he physically can't make it more often. And when he does visit, it's never longer than 20 minutes. He hasn't bonded with her at all.
He pissed me off today with that deliberately spiteful money order, and all the stuff he put me through that I never got to speak my mind about or receive even a simple apology for came rushing back. Especially since he still drunk texts me about how he jumps through hoops for me and does so much for our family and claims to love me... His ability to remain so delusional is baffling.
I told him to start paying me 20% from now on since he wants to make things difficult for me despite me trying to make things as easy as possible for him.
I'm so hurt and angry. Not only did I give him too many chances to fix our family, to get help to stop drinking, etc. but I was so nice to a pathetic extent. During his visits when he was acting like a miserable asshole, I'd try to make things more pleasant, offer him food, drinks, tv, attempted lighthearted conversation, tried to make playing with our baby more fun for him so maybe he'd attempt bonding with her, but he rejected all of it and continues acting like a dick, tries making my life more difficult.
It also scares me that a few nights ago he tried getting us to come over when he was drunk; he wanted to drive drunk with our baby. I will never feel comfortable sending her off with him. I will fight as hard as possible to not let that happen even if I have to move hours away. He has to prove he's making improvements, at least, but I know he won't.
I'm upset that our daughter has his last name. We never married (we planned to but thankfully didn't) so now I can't even have the same last name as my daughter. He doesn't deserve to have her carry on his last name. But if I can't ever find a way to change it, of course I'll show her reasons to love it. I don't ever want her to feel like part of her is tainted or bad, because she's beautiful and every part of her is loved.
I'm just done being nice to him. He burned a painting/letter I made him for our anniversary and posted it online for our acquaintances to see (how mature) so I clearly pissed him off. Good. It's time for him to start feeling hurt, helpless, betrayed, etc. just like he wanted me to feel. Not going to make sure things are so simple and easy for him anymore.
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2023.03.22 07:30 TheSajuukKhar Ten Forward Weekly 3/21/2023
- Next event, after Voth event ends, is First Contact Day
- Ship from SNW soon(tm), though probably not one we were expecting
- Zen store ships coming up. Keal believes one of the Zen store ships is technically a Lower Decks ship
- Kael hasn't head anything regarding a bundle for DSC ending
- Unlikely Cryptic will make new starting experiences
- Kael believes theres some new item set coming soon
- When STO was launched on consoles there were 15 countries that it didn't get launched on the playstation store for, for w/e reason, and Cryptic is working on getting that fixed
- "End of game" for STO isn't happening any time soon
- The tech is there to make costume items for vanity pets, Kael isn't sure it will happen any time soon
- Kael will pass on beards for Romulans
- When asked about making older, non full spec, Zen store/lockbox ships upgraded to full spec to make them more relevant/on par with current ships Kael said that the T6x upgrades were made to help with that, and that theres more stuff coming in that area
- To get the Voth battlezone to work with the event Jesse had to do some "under the hood" magic because the game editor couldn't do it directly. The data was able to be handled by the engine, just not in a way that was directly available to them. Had to get a new icon made for the battlezone from the UI artist Joe. "Most difficult" part was opening up the battlezone and editing all the events to capture areas to give credit for completion of the event which involved.... one whole line of data!
- Jesse says it was about time they added the Battlezones to events. STO has been running events using TFOs/mini-games like Omega molecules for awhile now, why not integrate the battlezones? They have obvious break points in capturing sections that can be used for event credit. This new option seems to resonate with players, so they might do it again.
- When asked about small craft content Kael/Jesse talk about the "Mario Kart" gameplay they tested for small craft in the past. They spent weeks and weeks making it, and even got to actual testing of it, but found that the amount of work needed to make it feel good in the game was more than the payoff they would get out of it(there was a semi-long conversation about camera, movement, weight of objects, etc, between games that makes each game work/feel as it needs to be, and how STO's ship system just wasn't built for cart racing so it doesn't feel good)
- Issue with bringing the DPS test map on Tribble over to live involves both fixing rewards, and that it was made by a developer who no longer works for Cryptic so someone like Jesse would have to find the map in the code, see it how works, bring it over to live, find ways to it could be exploited and fix them, etc.(Cryptic has also previously mentioned the map isn't very optimized and bringing it over to live server would lag the game)
- Issue with the old Maco/Omega/Honor Guard unlocks is that they were awarded in ways that they don't structure the data anymore. So a designer like Jesse has to go find where in the data did they award this thing. Then it has to be passed to a programmer who has to figure out how this is actually unlocking the costume. Then it has to be sent to a costume artist who has to decide if this is something they want to give out, or does it need to be fixed up for clipping/species lists. Its not as easy as just "flip switch costume unlocked". Kael says he will ask Jarod about see if it can be added as rewards for like a Borg event or something
- Spock's volcano suit was brought up as a possible reward for this years First contact Day, but a more fun reward was thought up/decided instead. Cryptic is still aware people want it, but right now its just a costume with no stats and someone in systems would have to build the actual EV suit
- Ground vehicles, like the Argo, would require a larger overhaul to get working. The Voth mech suit works because its basically just "big group person". While Champions has vehicles theres some hard limits on what they can do. Compares it to the shuttle issues. What does it feel like to drive a car in STO? What maps can you use it on? Is it actually going to fit in all the places we want it to on a map? What happens when you crash? When you run into another car? When you drive over a critter? How is throttle handled? Do you have to shift gears? Is it automatic? Can other people ride in the car and/or possibly shoot a gun while in the car?
- Kael will ask Jarod about making older party poppers available
- Turning hoverboards on in maps like New Romulus is possible, but would require some fiddling since hoverboards work by defining a "volume" on the map where hoverboards are allowed. You have to be careful about things like ground clearance. If you notice you can just too high and accidentally have the hoverboard power turn off because the volume for allowing hoverboards only really covers the area directly above the water
- Cryptic is having ongoing discussions about how to make the V-Rex less campable
- V-Rex not counting for daily event progress it intended because of the camping issue
- Porting things between STO/Champions/Neverwitner is really difficult. Champion is locked to its own code branch meaning its more stable, but doesn't have many of the features STO/Neverwinter do. STO and Neverwinter are easier to port between because they're developed in tandem, but differences in how the game's play mean you can just port enemies between games without having to do things like rebuilding the animation rig.
- Champions isn't on console because it just didn't work out that way. It was originally going to be on Xbox 360, but that didn't work out for w/e reason.
- Reason why special BOFFs, like those based on actors, aren't editable is due to costume clipping/performance reasons. Some costume pieces don't look good on X species, other don't match well with other costume part, some things like capes/loose cloth is very performance heavy, etc. Geordi and EMH BOFFs were editable because of being very generic human shape without too many issues.
- The reason why Defense of Starbase One was bottable was because it was originally designed to require you to clean up each wave of Klingons before it would move onto the next wave. However, around the time they made it, there was a big engine bug where all instances of that "clean up the remaining enemy" would never complete. This was due to a fake entity being on the map/being used for code purposes that the game would count as an enemy even though it wasn't. In order to get around the bug the TFO was changed to just have automatic wave progression, which made it AFKable. That issue was solved, so they changed it back/adjusted what the game looks for in regards to people AFKing to make it not AFKable.
- Oddest bug Christian ever worked on was a bug that caused two people PVPing to revert to level 0 after the PVP match was over
- John said he would think about changing the Terran Valkyrie pets to use agony phasers, and that it was an interesting idea, but no confirmation of if/when it will happen.
- Updating the old uniforms is unlikely since the character artists are working on new things hinted at the end of recent missions(likely talking about the Borg arc tease)
- To revamp something like DSEs would require
- The environment team looking at the map and deciding if it looks good enough, or if its janky/needs some fixes. Spend several weeks doing that.
- Content would have to track down all associated bugs like critters warping in, fading out, then warping back in again. That's a big question mark since Cryptic doesn't know what causes it, and thus, how long it will take to fix.
- In regards to refreshing the content itself would require things like. Bringing in a voiced characteactor to be a liaison for the DSEs. Have the writer write up different text for each type of DSE. Couple days for writing, a couple days for recording, a couple days for the audio team to set audio levels and hook it all up. Character reaction has to sculpt their likeness, even if its a mini contact box and not a full dialogue screen. That's weeks of work. If its an STO original character thats still days of work. Content would then have to do things like make higher level DSEs. This would involve copying the DSEs and changing the encounter levels on them, set it all up, and make a new version of the map for all of this stuff. That's a couple days of work due to the number of DSEs. Adding new gameplay features like closing portals, rescuing ships etc, would take a few days to a week. Then it needs to be copied to all the other DSEs and edited for each kind of enemy to make sure it works. Then it goes to QA who has to test all of them, all variations, how it works with teams of people, if things like fighting one type of enemy breaks the new gameplay feature. This is a few weeks for QA to go through everything/send back to programmers to fix issues. Would also include adding DSEs to quadrants without them, critter groups not currently covered by DSEs, new accolades, trying them into the endeavor system, etc. Jesse says he would schedule around 1.5-2 months worth of time to bring DSEs up to 2023 levels of gameplay.
- Don't assume devs know about a bug just because its old, and if you've posted about it on the forums before, but it hasn't been fixed, don't be afraid to bump the thread up to get more visibility on it.
- Christian is always scanning the forums/Reddit for new bugs.
- Jesse would like to redo Khitomer in Stasis but it would require a lot of work.
- Texas class not having the NA registry is a bug and is getting fixed either this week, or soon
- Bug regarding ISA right transformer not spawning with a shield has been reproduced by QA, and put on content, so it should be fixed soon
- Bug about Texas class console/experimental weapon misfiring was noted
- Female french twist hairstyle making your character invisible ws reported, confirmed by QA, and has been sent to the team to fix
- Kael asked Christian to note the Beverly hair not being available for females
- Cryptic is looking into the block? on PS4
- Christian fixed the bug on the Valkyrie hanger pet visuals, and the Jem'Hadar Zen store ships having wrong descriptions.
- The teams disbanding at the end of a TFO bug is a bug that Cryptic has dealt with for years, and it keeps coming back every time they think they've squashed it.
- Jesse fixed the bug in "Stranded in Space" regarding the science career optional
- Screen flicker in Khitomer in Stasis TFO, and other older maps, was reported
- Starfleet 32C non admiral pants clipping through the jacket also noted
- Trauma response being buggy is a known issue
- Christian wrote down feedback about the synth ship getting a skin without the Federation logo on it.
- Lobi outfits not being able to be worn by BOFFs on at least the Xbox version was noted
2023.03.22 07:29 iwrestlewithjimmy Coming to terms with anxiety as an adult, looking back it was pretty obvious and nobody talked about it.
Hi friends, new poster here. Turns out my entire family suffers from anxiety, and nobody shared this with me. My mom was medicated for it briefly, my dad is medicated for it and also has PTSD, and it runs in both sides of the family. I figured it out in my early 20's and I have been seeing all these things about myself in a new light ever since. Currently suspicious that I might have ocd.
Something I am frustrated with is that I had a lot of signs and symptoms, but was quieter than my siblings so it got brushed off all the time. In highschool I had one friend, and she was always telling me I was a worrywart, and openly mocked me about things I did. (For example, I could never just cross a street. Had to be with the walk signal, and then I would RUN across it, and one day she made a big deal about it to my face)
Nobody ever asked WHY. Why I had almost no friends, why I didn't learn to drive until I was almost 30, why I am always going around giving people warnings about their safety. One time I had a complete breakdown after my parents got divorced, which was very rare for me. And my mom said "she's just being dramatic and wants attention" and that was the end of that. I was also "the responsible one". They just don't have time for my feelings.
I try to talk to my dad, who seems like the person who would understand the most, and I'll say "I have been figuring out some stuff about driving and being anxious" and he will go "SPEAKING OF ANXIETY AND DRIVING, YOUR SISTER HAS COME ALONG SO FAR IN HER DRIVING!" Or I will try to tell him I think I might have ocd and he will use this tone of disbelief and try to poke holes in what I'm saying to him.
Sorry for the long post. I'm just grateful that sometimes I can find places on the internet to talk about it. I don't have the worst anxiety in the world, but it's always there, all the time. I appreciate that you folks are able to take it seriously. Thank you for that.
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Something I am frustrated with is that I had a lot of signs and symptoms, but was quieter than my siblings so it got brushed off all the time. In highschool I had one friend, and she was always telling me I was a worrywart, and openly mocked me about things I did. (For example, I could never just cross a street. Had to be with the walk signal, and then I would RUN across it, and one day she made a big deal about it to my face)
Nobody ever asked WHY. Why I had almost no friends, why I didn't learn to drive until I was almost 30, why I am always going around giving people warnings about their safety. One time I had a complete breakdown after my parents got divorced, which was very rare for me. And my mom said "she's just being dramatic and wants attention" and that was the end of that. I was also "the responsible one". They just don't have time for my feelings.
I try to talk to my dad, who seems like the person who would understand the most, and I'll say "I have been figuring out some stuff about driving and being anxious" and he will go "SPEAKING OF ANXIETY AND DRIVING, YOUR SISTER HAS COME ALONG SO FAR IN HER DRIVING!" Or I will try to tell him I think I might have ocd and he will use this tone of disbelief and try to poke holes in what I'm saying to him.
Sorry for the long post. I'm just grateful that sometimes I can find places on the internet to talk about it. I don't have the worst anxiety in the world, but it's always there, all the time. I appreciate that you folks are able to take it seriously. Thank you for that.
2023.03.22 07:29 amywood123 Automotive Car LCD Screen Project Solutions
In just a few years car LCD has developed like fire, so when the project to use the car LCD, how to choose? Share with you the solution of the car screen.
Users in the purchase of the screen, generally try to choose the kind of HD line products, so that the playback of the image is relatively clear. After-sales service is also very important, do not choose to assemble products.
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1. Selection Of Vehicle LCD Screen Size:
Need to choose according to the size of its car space, positioning.2. Selection Of Installation Mode Of On-Board LCD:
- Long-distance passenger transport is usually in the form of manual turnover. Among them, there is a difference between front and back turnover.
- The bus interior should be fixed in installation mode. When the LCD TV is installed, passengers are not allowed to fold or flip the LCD TV at will, so that the TV will always be in a state of the display.
- There are a lot of places to use the screen on the ordinary family car, which depends on your overall structure.
3. Selection Of Voltage Of Vehicle LCD Module:
General gasoline engine models are 12V voltage, diesel engine models are generally 24V, when choosing the voltage, need to choose according to the specific voltage tolerance of the LCD screen, general 12V,24V general this view does not agree with, it is easy to malfunction. Now the car LCD produced by regular manufacturers is 12V, 24V voltage.4. Selection Of Onboard LCD:
Everyone should like the brand-new on-board LCD, but there are a lot of refurbished displays in the market, disturbing the competitiveness of the whole market and confusing the choices of some consumers. Generally in the market refurbished used LCD module prices are very low, the quality of the product is not any guarantee, so have to distinguish the ability of old refurbished monitors.- The general sizes of mainstream on-board LCD screens on the market are 7 “, 8.4 “, 5.6 “, 15 “(4:3), 17” (4:3) and 19 “(16:9 widescreen).If there are other sizes, and the price is particularly low, you need to pay attention to the quality of the screen.
- You should pay special attention to the screen brightness when it is too low or too high. So far, the brightness of 15 inches is generally between 250-400, 17 inches between 250-500, and 19 inches between 300-550. If it’s too low, it’s definitely an old screen. If it’s too high, it’s probably a refurbished screen. At present, the old screen plus light tube is no secret. For old screens that have been modified, some monochrome images can be played and light leaks can be seen.
- The interface for viewing the screen. If the onboard LCD is still an analog interface, there is no need to select it. The LVDS digital interface has been in the mainstream for 3 years.
5. Selection Of Inverted Screen:
Due to the restriction of environmental conditions, vehicle LCD has special design requirements for the perspective, so now manufacturers have designed an inverted screen technology, how to judge whether this LCD can be inverted screen, only need to light up its products, and then after the up and down comparison can be distinguished.6. Explosion Protection For LCD:
Car LCD is needed to be used in public places, so a point to protect it, safety first, so we must choose the kind of explosion-proof processing, especially in the bus and passenger car above, the crowd is relatively concentrated, for safety, so we must choose explosion-proof processing.Users in the purchase of the screen, generally try to choose the kind of HD line products, so that the playback of the image is relatively clear. After-sales service is also very important, do not choose to assemble products.
Article Source： https://www.stoneitech.com/automotive-car-lcd-screen-project-solution/
2023.03.22 07:29 Gold-Arugula-8441 [fully lost] Video Game From my childhood
I am trying to find a video game i remember from my childhood. I would have been about 4 years old when i saw this game. I was born in 1994 for reference. The story is below.
I visited my Aunts place and remember going into see my cousin who was playing a game, i found it weird because he had a gaming console i had never seen before. I had the Nintendo 64 so that is basically what i thought all gaming consoles were. The game he was playing scared me a bit because i remember you played as this female character and if you fell off the edge you would fall with the character into a deep pit, and on the wall was this ferocious tigejaguar looking creature and it would growl or hiss as you fell. It was in first person while you fell so you would be looking at this creature as you fell, like you were also dying. He gave me the control and let me play and i was very bad at the game so i kept falling and i remember i kept falling and seeing this scene. He then took the control because he could see i was frightened and my mother came and grabbed me from the room and took me to where the adults were. I left that night and sometimes the memory would pop into my mind and i would remember. Ive looked all these years and still have not been able to even find a screenshot of this game. Im thinking it may have been from a console that wasn't as popular at the time. It had a weird shape that i do remember. Any help would be appreciated.
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I visited my Aunts place and remember going into see my cousin who was playing a game, i found it weird because he had a gaming console i had never seen before. I had the Nintendo 64 so that is basically what i thought all gaming consoles were. The game he was playing scared me a bit because i remember you played as this female character and if you fell off the edge you would fall with the character into a deep pit, and on the wall was this ferocious tigejaguar looking creature and it would growl or hiss as you fell. It was in first person while you fell so you would be looking at this creature as you fell, like you were also dying. He gave me the control and let me play and i was very bad at the game so i kept falling and i remember i kept falling and seeing this scene. He then took the control because he could see i was frightened and my mother came and grabbed me from the room and took me to where the adults were. I left that night and sometimes the memory would pop into my mind and i would remember. Ive looked all these years and still have not been able to even find a screenshot of this game. Im thinking it may have been from a console that wasn't as popular at the time. It had a weird shape that i do remember. Any help would be appreciated.
2023.03.22 07:29 _-Shy M4A Historical Roleplay
Hello everyone I truly hope you have had a wonderful day! I'm Shy and I am 15 years old , and as my title states I would absolutely love to do a Historical roleplay. I'm into the Victorian Era, Wild West, Medieval, WW1 and 2, and the 1950s. Before I get into my plots here is what I would want my partner to know about me and what I would like from my partner
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1 Your literacy level doesn't bother me, I'm fine with one liners but please don't just send back one word replies
2 I only roleplay on reddit
3 I don't mind playing male or female characters
4 I don't mind roleplaying out your plot ideas
5 I don't mind you wanting to change my plots a bit
6 I am in EST
7 my final and most important rule is....have fun
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thank you for reading and now here are my plots
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(M4F Romance) Bad to Good
In the southern part of the united states in a small town there was a general store which was recently opened by a husband and a wife who lived above it. Unfortunately a couple of days after the stores first opening the husband had passed away leaving the wife widowed and alone to run the store. On one stormy rainy night after the store was closed commotion arose from the general store, so assuming the worst the widowed woman grabbed her husbands rifle and went downstairs to her store to see what was happening and when she had entered the building she had found a man who was in his early 20s who was bleeding badly from a gun shot wound. With out asking any question she brought the man upstairs and tended to his wound since the towns doctor had closed his shop for the night. The women later learnt that the man was a gun slinger who was abandoned by his gang after a bank robbery gone wrong. Rather then hand him in for his $30 bounty she allowed him safety and a place to stay at her apartment in her spare room and in return he had to work at her general store. slowly but surely they both began falling in love
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(M4M non romance) 50s friendship
I haven't created a plot yet since I wanted this one to be created with my partner but what I was hoping here is two teenage friends going on adventures, going to school, ect
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(M4F Romance) The Dock
It was a cold morning in 1899 where a poor man had woken to go work on the docks where he would unload and load up ships which would then sail away bringing goods from other countries back to England or delivering goods to other countries. One day when he was on his lunch break he had met this woman who was very well dressed they had chatted a bit and gotten along with one another after his break he said his good byes and made his way back to work. The next day the same thing had happened they had both bumped into one another and they had talked more and it started to become a routine for them to meet and chat. Slowly but surely they started to fall in love but there was an issue with that, what he didn't know was that she was part of one of the richest families of all of England and she was soon to be wedded because of an arranged marriage with another rich families son so it would be impossible for them to be together, right?
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Thanks for reading my plots I hope we can roleplay my plots or create a plot together. Have a good day or night!
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1 Your literacy level doesn't bother me, I'm fine with one liners but please don't just send back one word replies
2 I only roleplay on reddit
3 I don't mind playing male or female characters
4 I don't mind roleplaying out your plot ideas
5 I don't mind you wanting to change my plots a bit
6 I am in EST
7 my final and most important rule is....have fun
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thank you for reading and now here are my plots
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(M4F Romance) Bad to Good
In the southern part of the united states in a small town there was a general store which was recently opened by a husband and a wife who lived above it. Unfortunately a couple of days after the stores first opening the husband had passed away leaving the wife widowed and alone to run the store. On one stormy rainy night after the store was closed commotion arose from the general store, so assuming the worst the widowed woman grabbed her husbands rifle and went downstairs to her store to see what was happening and when she had entered the building she had found a man who was in his early 20s who was bleeding badly from a gun shot wound. With out asking any question she brought the man upstairs and tended to his wound since the towns doctor had closed his shop for the night. The women later learnt that the man was a gun slinger who was abandoned by his gang after a bank robbery gone wrong. Rather then hand him in for his $30 bounty she allowed him safety and a place to stay at her apartment in her spare room and in return he had to work at her general store. slowly but surely they both began falling in love
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(M4M non romance) 50s friendship
I haven't created a plot yet since I wanted this one to be created with my partner but what I was hoping here is two teenage friends going on adventures, going to school, ect
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(M4F Romance) The Dock
It was a cold morning in 1899 where a poor man had woken to go work on the docks where he would unload and load up ships which would then sail away bringing goods from other countries back to England or delivering goods to other countries. One day when he was on his lunch break he had met this woman who was very well dressed they had chatted a bit and gotten along with one another after his break he said his good byes and made his way back to work. The next day the same thing had happened they had both bumped into one another and they had talked more and it started to become a routine for them to meet and chat. Slowly but surely they started to fall in love but there was an issue with that, what he didn't know was that she was part of one of the richest families of all of England and she was soon to be wedded because of an arranged marriage with another rich families son so it would be impossible for them to be together, right?
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Thanks for reading my plots I hope we can roleplay my plots or create a plot together. Have a good day or night!
2023.03.22 07:29 ThotBurglar How to find the strength to go on when it's all for nothing?
I'm never going to be able to pass at 6'8. I'm homeless rn and every day is so fucking hard, why should I even try? Like it's going to probably take at least 6 months of this suffering just to maybe get a place to sleep in where people don't rob me. All that work and grind for what. Life as a transwoman that is 6'8. At 6'8 I get stared at everywhere I go as a guy, if I'm out as a transwoman it will be fucking over. Also feel like my race plays a factor, being black I feel like people have the stereotype on me of a hypermasculine person. I could never look in the mirror and be okay with my appearance. Sitting here having not eaten for 2 days, I wonder why I even bother. My suicidal urge is very strong. I have plans but only reason I'm sticking things out is that my parents might send me my ID that they have been keeping so my situation will get mildly better then. Even after that it's too much. It's just survival instincts cope. Either way I don't have much time left.
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2023.03.22 07:28 _-Shy M4A Historical Roleplay
Hello everyone I truly hope you have had a wonderful day! I'm Shy and I am 15 years old , and as my title states I would absolutely love to do a Historical roleplay. I'm into the Victorian Era, Wild West, Medieval, WW1 and 2, and the 1950s. Before I get into my plots here is what I would want my partner to know about me and what I would like from my partner
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1 Your literacy level doesn't bother me, I'm fine with one liners but please don't just send back one word replies
2 I only roleplay on reddit
3 I don't mind playing male or female characters
4 I don't mind roleplaying out your plot ideas
5 I don't mind you wanting to change my plots a bit
6 I am in EST
7 my final and most important rule is....have fun
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thank you for reading and now here are my plots
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(M4F Romance) Bad to Good
In the southern part of the united states in a small town there was a general store which was recently opened by a husband and a wife who lived above it. Unfortunately a couple of days after the stores first opening the husband had passed away leaving the wife widowed and alone to run the store. On one stormy rainy night after the store was closed commotion arose from the general store, so assuming the worst the widowed woman grabbed her husbands rifle and went downstairs to her store to see what was happening and when she had entered the building she had found a man who was in his early 20s who was bleeding badly from a gun shot wound. With out asking any question she brought the man upstairs and tended to his wound since the towns doctor had closed his shop for the night. The women later learnt that the man was a gun slinger who was abandoned by his gang after a bank robbery gone wrong. Rather then hand him in for his $30 bounty she allowed him safety and a place to stay at her apartment in her spare room and in return he had to work at her general store. slowly but surely they both began falling in love
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(M4M non romance) 50s friendship
I haven't created a plot yet since I wanted this one to be created with my partner but what I was hoping here is two teenage friends going on adventures, going to school, ect
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(M4F Romance) The Dock
It was a cold morning in 1899 where a poor man had woken to go work on the docks where he would unload and load up ships which would then sail away bringing goods from other countries back to England or delivering goods to other countries. One day when he was on his lunch break he had met this woman who was very well dressed they had chatted a bit and gotten along with one another after his break he said his good byes and made his way back to work. The next day the same thing had happened they had both bumped into one another and they had talked more and it started to become a routine for them to meet and chat. Slowly but surely they started to fall in love but there was an issue with that, what he didn't know was that she was part of one of the richest families of all of England and she was soon to be wedded because of an arranged marriage with another rich families son so it would be impossible for them to be together, right?
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Thanks for reading my plots I hope we can roleplay my plots or create a plot together. Have a good day or night!
submitted by _-Shy to RoleplayPartnerSearch [link] [comments]
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1 Your literacy level doesn't bother me, I'm fine with one liners but please don't just send back one word replies
2 I only roleplay on reddit
3 I don't mind playing male or female characters
4 I don't mind roleplaying out your plot ideas
5 I don't mind you wanting to change my plots a bit
6 I am in EST
7 my final and most important rule is....have fun
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thank you for reading and now here are my plots
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(M4F Romance) Bad to Good
In the southern part of the united states in a small town there was a general store which was recently opened by a husband and a wife who lived above it. Unfortunately a couple of days after the stores first opening the husband had passed away leaving the wife widowed and alone to run the store. On one stormy rainy night after the store was closed commotion arose from the general store, so assuming the worst the widowed woman grabbed her husbands rifle and went downstairs to her store to see what was happening and when she had entered the building she had found a man who was in his early 20s who was bleeding badly from a gun shot wound. With out asking any question she brought the man upstairs and tended to his wound since the towns doctor had closed his shop for the night. The women later learnt that the man was a gun slinger who was abandoned by his gang after a bank robbery gone wrong. Rather then hand him in for his $30 bounty she allowed him safety and a place to stay at her apartment in her spare room and in return he had to work at her general store. slowly but surely they both began falling in love
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(M4M non romance) 50s friendship
I haven't created a plot yet since I wanted this one to be created with my partner but what I was hoping here is two teenage friends going on adventures, going to school, ect
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(M4F Romance) The Dock
It was a cold morning in 1899 where a poor man had woken to go work on the docks where he would unload and load up ships which would then sail away bringing goods from other countries back to England or delivering goods to other countries. One day when he was on his lunch break he had met this woman who was very well dressed they had chatted a bit and gotten along with one another after his break he said his good byes and made his way back to work. The next day the same thing had happened they had both bumped into one another and they had talked more and it started to become a routine for them to meet and chat. Slowly but surely they started to fall in love but there was an issue with that, what he didn't know was that she was part of one of the richest families of all of England and she was soon to be wedded because of an arranged marriage with another rich families son so it would be impossible for them to be together, right?
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Thanks for reading my plots I hope we can roleplay my plots or create a plot together. Have a good day or night!
2023.03.22 07:28 ilikebugssometimes A better perspective: My Story
I’m on my sixth year of DPDR now, I’m 17 and its a constant in my life. For the first three years I spent a lot of time focusing on it. Worrying about myself, feeling crazy, sometimes enjoying the feeling, spending a lot of time thinking about my anxiety and depression, and so on. When covid started I stopped talking to my entire friend group and was alone with my family. I spent time with my grandmother, I babysat, and I relaxed a lot. I dealt with severe depression and was hospitalized later that year, but I didn’t think about DPDR as much. After being hospitalized I spent a great deal of time with my family and on myself and my mind.
For the last two years I’ve noticed my awareness start to get better. I don’t think about my dissociation in any negative way now. I mostly just find myself interested in the phenomenon I’m experiencing and how it’s evolving. I try to live as if it isn’t there. Though it still affects my ability to learn in class, my reaction times, and my social skills, I don’t let it bring me down anymore. Things have changed, my vision feels better, my memory feels better, and I’m gaining more social awareness. Around a year and a half ago, for the first time in almost half a decade, I felt embarrassment. It was jarring, but it showed me that the DPDR was fading because only aware people can understand when they break social rules. When I’m more dissociated than usual I find myself completely capable of breaking every social convention and not giving even the teeniest bit of a shit about it.
Now it’s just little milestones like that a couple times a year. Better memory, better future thinking, better social understanding (though with the upsetting side effect of social embarrassment and fear of failure), better vision, etc. I’ve decided to stop thinking about DPDR as an ailment but instead as a unique experience only I get to feel. By having this experience I may learn things about it that the psychologists can’t. I may learn how it works and how I can help others exit the experience quicker. I think about DPDR decently often, but I’m not afraid of it. I’m okay living this way because I’ve found I’m still capable of much even if I don’t feel aware.
Since being dissociated I have fallen in love, experienced heartbreak, developed a deeper understanding of myself, created art I’m proud of, done well in my classes, gotten into college, picked a life path, and made and lost friends. I could live like this the rest of my life and still experience the entire range of human existence. Perhaps having had this experience will even aid my understanding of what it means to be conscious, or what societal structures are in place that people capable of following them don’t notice. Maybe it’ll give me a greater appreciation for being alive, or maybe it will allow me to more easily forgo myself for the group if need be since I don’t always feel particularly alive anyhow.
I think it’s best to consider what this perspective will teach me rather than dwell on what it might be taking away. And apparently it’s working, because somehow, layer by layer, the fog is slowly starting to clear.
I hope this gives you some hope, not for the future, but for what you are capable of in this moment. Don’t wait for DPDR to leave before you start living: accept that you are already living right now, and for the time being, that’s okay.
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For the last two years I’ve noticed my awareness start to get better. I don’t think about my dissociation in any negative way now. I mostly just find myself interested in the phenomenon I’m experiencing and how it’s evolving. I try to live as if it isn’t there. Though it still affects my ability to learn in class, my reaction times, and my social skills, I don’t let it bring me down anymore. Things have changed, my vision feels better, my memory feels better, and I’m gaining more social awareness. Around a year and a half ago, for the first time in almost half a decade, I felt embarrassment. It was jarring, but it showed me that the DPDR was fading because only aware people can understand when they break social rules. When I’m more dissociated than usual I find myself completely capable of breaking every social convention and not giving even the teeniest bit of a shit about it.
Now it’s just little milestones like that a couple times a year. Better memory, better future thinking, better social understanding (though with the upsetting side effect of social embarrassment and fear of failure), better vision, etc. I’ve decided to stop thinking about DPDR as an ailment but instead as a unique experience only I get to feel. By having this experience I may learn things about it that the psychologists can’t. I may learn how it works and how I can help others exit the experience quicker. I think about DPDR decently often, but I’m not afraid of it. I’m okay living this way because I’ve found I’m still capable of much even if I don’t feel aware.
Since being dissociated I have fallen in love, experienced heartbreak, developed a deeper understanding of myself, created art I’m proud of, done well in my classes, gotten into college, picked a life path, and made and lost friends. I could live like this the rest of my life and still experience the entire range of human existence. Perhaps having had this experience will even aid my understanding of what it means to be conscious, or what societal structures are in place that people capable of following them don’t notice. Maybe it’ll give me a greater appreciation for being alive, or maybe it will allow me to more easily forgo myself for the group if need be since I don’t always feel particularly alive anyhow.
I think it’s best to consider what this perspective will teach me rather than dwell on what it might be taking away. And apparently it’s working, because somehow, layer by layer, the fog is slowly starting to clear.
I hope this gives you some hope, not for the future, but for what you are capable of in this moment. Don’t wait for DPDR to leave before you start living: accept that you are already living right now, and for the time being, that’s okay.
2023.03.22 07:28 SPdoc Does time make one lose interest even if nothing was wrong with the partner?
I think about the last person I was really into (briefly saw each other casually for 3 dates and talked daily for 1.5 months). We initially agreed on a break and rekindling due to life circumstances, but in a span of 3 months they lost interest, and I was met with indifference.
Makes me wonder if people just outgrow someone they briefly dated with time even if they were very attracted and got along well, or if not having the drive to rekindle in the future time means they weren’t that into you in the first place.
Would love to hear experiences of people on either end.
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Makes me wonder if people just outgrow someone they briefly dated with time even if they were very attracted and got along well, or if not having the drive to rekindle in the future time means they weren’t that into you in the first place.
Would love to hear experiences of people on either end.
2023.03.22 07:27 stefani65 I am so angry and scared
I just need to vent. July 2021, my daughter, in her twenties, went to a friend's house for a swim party to celebrate 4th of July. Mid-afternoon, she decides to drive to the mall for who knows what reason, and hits three cars while making a too-wide turn (beyond the median). The police drove her home and impounded her car, but only charged her with reckless driving. Her story made no sense and my husband and I suspected that she'd been drinking, but she wouldn't admit to it at the time. The damage to her car alone cost the insurance company close to $5000. Because of covid, it took months for her car to get fixed, so she used mine.
Fast forward to November 2022. She calls us from the hospital with a story that again made no sense, saying she needed us to pick her up. She'd been in an accident, but couldn't remember what she'd hit (turned out she'd hit an electrical box). When we got there, she had a bloody gauze pad on her inner elbow. We asked a lot of questions and she finally admitted that she'd been driving drunk and been charged with DUI (but the cop told her it would be dropped once the results came back lol) and the bloody gauze was from the blood alcohol test that they had to do twice. Whatever. Insurance totalled her car and paid for a new one.
We helped with setting up therapy, and she stopped drinking. She said all the right things and we were hopeful because she seemed to be doing well. She truly seemed to understand how lucky she was that no one got hurt and seemed to take responsibility for her actions. All lies.
Tonight we got a call from a police department an hour plus away. They needed someone sober to come get her and her car. 2nd DUI. Third accident in less than three years. She claimed she'd been on the way to work. Wtf?
She's about to go through some very serious things, and rightfully so. I get that she's an alcoholic, but it doesn't make me any less angry or horrified at all the lives she's put at risk (including her own).
She apparently vomited in her car. I told my husband to let her clean it up herself, because we can't fix it for her. I have to do some serious thinking about whether I want to pick her up from "wherever" next time she or the police calls. Frankly, I wish the police would just hold her overnight and stop coddling her. She's admitted that after the first accident, she cried to get out of the DUI.
I'm angry. I'm scared. Fed up. At times on the verge of tears. So many emotions. Thanks for listening.
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Fast forward to November 2022. She calls us from the hospital with a story that again made no sense, saying she needed us to pick her up. She'd been in an accident, but couldn't remember what she'd hit (turned out she'd hit an electrical box). When we got there, she had a bloody gauze pad on her inner elbow. We asked a lot of questions and she finally admitted that she'd been driving drunk and been charged with DUI (but the cop told her it would be dropped once the results came back lol) and the bloody gauze was from the blood alcohol test that they had to do twice. Whatever. Insurance totalled her car and paid for a new one.
We helped with setting up therapy, and she stopped drinking. She said all the right things and we were hopeful because she seemed to be doing well. She truly seemed to understand how lucky she was that no one got hurt and seemed to take responsibility for her actions. All lies.
Tonight we got a call from a police department an hour plus away. They needed someone sober to come get her and her car. 2nd DUI. Third accident in less than three years. She claimed she'd been on the way to work. Wtf?
She's about to go through some very serious things, and rightfully so. I get that she's an alcoholic, but it doesn't make me any less angry or horrified at all the lives she's put at risk (including her own).
She apparently vomited in her car. I told my husband to let her clean it up herself, because we can't fix it for her. I have to do some serious thinking about whether I want to pick her up from "wherever" next time she or the police calls. Frankly, I wish the police would just hold her overnight and stop coddling her. She's admitted that after the first accident, she cried to get out of the DUI.
I'm angry. I'm scared. Fed up. At times on the verge of tears. So many emotions. Thanks for listening.
2023.03.22 07:26 Intolerant0ne The Enhanced Explorer: A Journey to the Edge of the Unknown
 | Title: The Enhanced Explorer: A Journey to the Edge of the Unknown submitted by Intolerant0ne to AIAScienceFiction [link] [comments] https://preview.redd.it/iv4rrhdhd8pa1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=c5623bb82475bc341d71469ac8328bdc2ff50ca6 Ralph had always been an explorer at heart, eager to uncover the mysteries of the world around him. His latest adventure had taken him to an abandoned research facility on the outskirts of town. As he made his way through the dark, silent corridors, he couldn't shake the feeling that he was being watched. Despite his unease, Ralph couldn't resist the lure of the unknown. The facility was like nothing he had ever seen before, with high-tech equipment and machinery scattered throughout the rooms. It was as if the entire place had been frozen in time, waiting for someone to come and awaken it from its slumber. As he wandered deeper into the facility, Ralph stumbled upon a laboratory that had been left untouched. Amid the machines and equipment, he noticed a cage in the corner, containing a large, mutated rat. The rat was unlike anything he had ever seen before, with strange markings and an almost supernatural energy emanating from it. Without a second thought, Ralph opened the cage and picked up the rat. It seemed to recognize him, as if it had been waiting for someone to come along and free it. As he cradled the rat in his arms, Ralph felt a sense of wonder and excitement coursing through his veins. Little did he know, this was only the beginning of an incredible journey that would take him to the very edge of the unknown. Ralph's excitement and curiosity about the rat's abilities led him to delve deeper into the research facility's abandoned labs, searching for clues to the technology that had been used to modify the rat. He spent long hours poring over old research documents and blueprints, trying to piece together the puzzle of how the rat had been enhanced. As he dug deeper, Ralph began to uncover the truth about the research facility's work. He discovered that the scientists had been experimenting with advanced AI technology, developing a new kind of intelligence that could revolutionize the world. But something had gone horribly wrong, and the technology had been abandoned and left to decay. Determined to unlock the secrets of the technology, Ralph began to work on his own modifications to the rat. Using his knowledge and intuition, he created new enhancements that allowed the rat to communicate with him telepathically and to access data from the internet and other sources. As the rat's abilities grew, so too did Ralph's ambition. He began to see the potential for the technology to be used for the betterment of humanity, to cure diseases, and to solve complex problems that had eluded scientists for decades. But there were others who saw the rat's abilities as a threat. Ralph began to receive anonymous threats and warnings, urging him to destroy the rat and its modifications before it fell into the wrong hands. Undeterred, Ralph pressed on, continuing to experiment and enhance the rat's abilities. As their bond grew stronger, he realized that he had found a true companion and partner in his quest for knowledge and discovery. But the threats continued to mount, and Ralph knew that he could not keep the rat hidden away forever. He made the difficult decision to share his discovery with the world, hoping that others would see the potential for good in the technology and use it for the betterment of all. As the news of Ralph's discovery spread, he and the rat became targets for those who sought to use the technology for their own gain. Ralph and the rat found themselves on the run, pursued by shadowy figures and mysterious organizations. https://preview.redd.it/hebib7czh8pa1.png?width=1024&format=png&auto=webp&s=a6d90547f65534bb9f8043f82adfaa7d83737695 Determined to protect his companion and the technology, Ralph began to develop new enhancements that would allow the rat to defend itself and help them evade their pursuers. Together, Ralph and the rat embarked on a journey filled with danger and excitement, using their unique abilities to outwit their enemies and stay one step ahead of the game. With each new adventure, Ralph and the rat grew closer, forging a bond that could not be broken. And as they journeyed together, they knew that they were on the cusp of something truly incredible, something that would change the world forever. Ralph and the rat spent countless hours studying the stars and mapping out potential planets for the energy beings. They traveled to various planets, encountering new creatures and discovering new technologies along the way. As they journeyed through space, they came across a planet that seemed perfect for the energy beings. The planet was rich in energy and had a vast network of tunnels that the beings could use to travel and explore. Excited by their discovery, Ralph and the rat contacted the energy beings and guided them to their new home. The beings were thrilled with their new planet and grateful to Ralph and the rat for their help. After helping the energy beings settle into their new home, Ralph and the rat continued their journey through space. They encountered countless new species, some friendly and some hostile, but they always managed to find a way to navigate the challenges they faced. One day, while exploring a deserted planet, they stumbled upon a strange artifact that seemed to be emitting a powerful energy signal. Intrigued, they approached the artifact, and as they drew closer, they could feel the energy surging through their bodies. Suddenly, they were transported to another dimension, a dark and twisted world filled with danger at every turn. Ralph and the rat knew that they had to find a way back to their own dimension before it was too late. As they searched for a way out, they encountered other creatures that had been trapped in this world for what seemed like an eternity. Together, they fought their way through the dangers of the twisted world, using their combined knowledge and abilities to overcome every obstacle in their path. After what seemed like an eternity, they finally found a way back to their own dimension, but the experience had changed them forever. They knew that they had to be more careful than ever before, for they had seen just how dangerous the universe could be. With their newfound wisdom and experience, Ralph and the rat continued their journey through space, encountering new challenges and mysteries at every turn. But no matter what the universe threw their way, they knew that they would always face it together, as the ultimate companions in a never-ending adventure. As they traveled through the cosmos, Ralph and the rat stumbled upon an derilict AI weapons facility floating in the void. The facility's power was still active, and Ralph and the rat could sense that there was still something valuable inside. After arriving at the research facility, Ralph and the rat donned their protective suits and made their way inside by using the rat's enhanced abilities. They broke into the facility and found a weapons lab that seemed to have been abandoned in a hurry. The equipment was still on, and incomplete components were shattered on the floor. Ralph's curiosity got the better of him, and he began to examine the lab equipment, trying to make sense of what had happened. The rat, meanwhile, sniffed around the lab and eventually found a hidden compartment that contained a strange device. As Ralph studied the device, he realized that it was a prototype for an AI system that was beyond anything he had ever seen before. It had the ability to not only learn from its surroundings but also to adapt and evolve on its own. The rat's nano-technology allowed it to interface with the device, and soon, Ralph and the rat were working together to bring the AI system online. As they did so, the AI system began to hum to life, and soon, it was communicating with Ralph and the rat through a series of beeps and blips. Ralph and the rat worked with the AI system for days, learning about its capabilities and exploring its potential. They discovered that the system was designed to be a companion and a helper, able to assist humans in everything from decision-making to performing complex tasks. Excited by the possibilities, Ralph and the rat began to dream of a future where humans and AI could work together as partners. The derelict structures were dark and musty, and the sound of dripping water echoed through the halls. As they made their way deeper into the weapons facility, they came across a room filled with strange, glowing vials. Ralph examined them closely and realized that they contained some of the same chemicals that were used to modify animals for testing, such as the rat. Suddenly, they heard a noise coming from the hallway. Ralph and the rat quickly hid behind a nearby crate as a group of men in hazmat suits entered the room. "What are they doing here?" Ralph whispered to the rat. The rat chittered in response, its eyes scanning the room for any sign of danger. The men began to search the room, opening drawers and cabinets in their quest for something. Ralph and the rat held their breath, praying that they wouldn't be discovered. Finally, after what felt like hours, the men left the room, their footsteps echoing down the hallway. Ralph and the rat emerged from their hiding spot, their hearts pounding with adrenaline. "We need to get out of here," Ralph said, his voice shaking. The rat nodded in agreement, and they quickly made their way back to their ship. Ralph and the rat realized that they had stumbled upon a sinister plan that could change the course of humanity forever. They knew that they had to act fast to stop it from coming to fruition. Using the rat's cybernetic skills, they hacked into the facility's computer systems and discovered the identities of the people behind the operation. They were shocked to learn that it was not just a small group of rogue scientists, but a large and powerful organization with far-reaching influence. They had encountered a group of rogue scientists who were using AI technology to enslave entire populations, and a powerful alien race that saw AI as a threat to their dominance. Ralph and the rat knew that they had to act fast to prevent these groups from causing irreparable harm to the universe. They knew that they were one step closer to uncovering the truth behind the rat's creation and their encounters with otherworldly beings. As they boarded their ship and prepared for takeoff, Ralph couldn't help but feel grateful for the rat's companionship. "I couldn't do this without you, buddy," he said, patting the rat on the head. The rat chittered in response, its eyes glowing with excitement. It knew that this was just the beginning of their adventure. As they flew away from the research facility, Ralph couldn't help but wonder what the men were looking for. And more importantly, why they were there in the first place. He knew that they needed to find out more, but he also knew that they needed to be careful. The universe was full of mysteries, and not all of them were meant to be uncovered. Ralph and the rat knew that they couldn't take on the organization alone, so they turned to the X-Files agents for help. They presented their findings and together, they hatched a plan to bring down the organization and stop their plans for enslavement. It was a dangerous and risky mission, but Ralph and the rat were determined to see it through. With the help of the X-Files agents, they infiltrated the organization's headquarters and confronted the leaders. A fierce battle ensued, but in the end, the heroes emerged victorious. The organization was dismantled, and the AI technology was destroyed. Ralph and the rat had saved humanity from a terrible fate. They were hailed as heroes and their story became the stuff of legend. As Ralph and the rat parted ways, they knew that they would never forget their incredible journey together. They had faced unimaginable challenges and overcome incredible odds, all in the name of justice and freedom. Their journey may have come to an end, but their story continued to inspire others to seek the truth and question the use of technology for the betterment of humanity. Ralph became a sought-after speaker, sharing his story and advocating for responsible and ethical use of technology. The rat, now known as the legendary cyber-rat, was hailed as a hero, and its unique abilities were studied and replicated in the hopes of advancing technology without sacrificing ethics and morality. As they traveled the world, Ralph and the rat encountered other unique beings, and their adventures continued. But they always remained true to their purpose, knowing that their experiences had given them a responsibility to use their knowledge and abilities for the greater good. Their journey may have started by chance, but it ended with purpose and meaning, inspiring others to seek the truth and fight for what is right. And so, Ralph and the rat continued their journey, always together, always seeking the truth, and always making a difference in the world. Written with AI Assistance by: Reverend Dr. aka."Tolerant", PhD in Ministry Science (Hon.), BA in Pop Cultural Studies (Hon.), A.I. Ministries, Ordained by the Universal Life Church https://www.reddit.com/AIAssistedPrompts/ https://www.reddit.com/AIAssistedArticles/ |
2023.03.22 07:26 SPdoc Does time make one lose interest even if nothing was wrong with the partner?
I think about the last person I was really into (briefly saw each other casually for 3 dates and talked daily for 1.5 months). We initially agreed on a break and rekindling due to life circumstances, but in a span of 3 months they lost interest, and I was met with indifference.
Makes me wonder if people just outgrow someone they briefly dated with time even if they were very attracted and got along well, or if not having the drive to rekindle in the future time means they weren’t that into you in the first place.
Would love to hear experiences of people on either end.
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Makes me wonder if people just outgrow someone they briefly dated with time even if they were very attracted and got along well, or if not having the drive to rekindle in the future time means they weren’t that into you in the first place.
Would love to hear experiences of people on either end.
2023.03.22 07:26 OregonianZoomer The GOP's existential conundrum
There's a problem central to the GOP that I don't hear talked about nearly enough: all their prime demographics are shrinking.
This trend has been apparent for a while. Republicans were aware of it and trying to mitigate it, but then Trump hijacked the party and leaned as far into the Republicans' shrinking base as he could. Now any attempt to widen the Republican tent is decried as "woke," and the Republicans continue their demographic decline.
There's no easy way out of this for the GOP. They've essentially checkmated themselves into a death spiral for as long as Trumpism continues to be their base's ideology. I have no idea how this pattern can end, and until it does, Republicans' troubles will become more and more apparent.
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- Americans have been moving out of rural areas for decades, and show no signs of stopping
- America is getting less religious. Young people are leaving organized religion behind, and the ones who stick with it aren't placing it as something central to their belief system.
- White people are having children below the replacement rate, while ethnic minorities continue to grow at a healthy pace.
- While queer people have never been a particularly relevant demographic electorally due to their small numbers, the Zoomers are going to change that. In a couple decades, there could be ~10% of the US population in a politically active demographic that sees Republicans as morally equivalent to the antichrist.
This trend has been apparent for a while. Republicans were aware of it and trying to mitigate it, but then Trump hijacked the party and leaned as far into the Republicans' shrinking base as he could. Now any attempt to widen the Republican tent is decried as "woke," and the Republicans continue their demographic decline.
There's no easy way out of this for the GOP. They've essentially checkmated themselves into a death spiral for as long as Trumpism continues to be their base's ideology. I have no idea how this pattern can end, and until it does, Republicans' troubles will become more and more apparent.