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I'm cleaning up our master estimate and I'm curious how those of you using HCSS HeavyBid set up your equipment, specifically the heavy civil sector. Some questions I'm most interested in: 1) Do you periodically update bare rental rates from local equipment rental companies, and how often? 2) Do you use hourly or other time periods as your default? 3) Do you see higher EOE for things like light duty trucks? 4) How do you differentiate within equipment groups? For example - excavators are broken down between mini/small/med/large or 10k lb, 20k lb, 30k lb, etc). 5) Do you have internal and external rental rates for some/most/all equipment? 6) What's your go-to method of balancing the total equipment costs when wrapping up an estimate?
Thanks!

I self harmed on my thigh for about a couple weeks after being almost a month clean and they've all healed because they were considered "cat scratches" but they left these small scare like things in my thigh, there faded but there a still there even though there healed. I noticed these and I didn't think my sister would notice but we share a room and in the morning we get changed for school in the same room and removing my shorts they can be visible but I catch her looking down at them and I worry she'll find out about what I was doing because I have sh for 3 years now and I told them I quite at the beginning of last year and secretly throughout the year I've been sh'ing and they have never found out. I'm just scared she sees them and knows what's going on because if she does then I'll be in trouble with my parents even though they've told me flat out they don't care if I cut myself because I don't use a razor.. it hurts but it hurts more when it's my own sister seeing it. I don't know how to cover them because I thought they weren't as visible but seeing now it is. I don't usually sleep with pants on just a longer shirt to cover up so this morning I wouldn't get out of bed but I was sitting up and my sister got mad at me and tore me sheets off of me to try and get me to get up and I noticed her looking down at them because my shirt rolled up. I still played not ecknowledge them to mabey make her stop looking but It wasn't working I asked as if they weren't even there and got up and put my skirt on (uniform school) but I just don't know what to do about it. I'm not scared of her telling I'm scared to look like a struggling sister when I try to be the strong confident sister for her, I don't want to damage how I Appel to her as a sister.. she means a lot to me and her seeing me so low makes me scared she'll worry for me. like I said early my parents don't care for me or my problems, I just want her to be happy. we both share trauma from are childhood and seeing her sad or worried ruins me because of how much I cling to her, she's basically my only friend at school now because my friend group dumped me and I don't have anywhere else to go but her, I struggle a lot but my parents just turn there heads it makes it worse even when there trying to "help". they invalidate all my problems. back when I first cut and told them they said "I get worse scratches at work, I will only care when it becomes serious." I still hate how long those words stay in my head. they don't care for there own daughter? I just want to sleep forever.

I (TF, 23) have two friends. Let's call them T and E, respectively (both TF 22). It is worth mentioning that both are polyamorous and in other ENM relationships - as far as I know, no cheating has taken place by anyone.
To make a long story short, both T and E confessed to having crushes on me in quick succession. When T did so, I felt a swell of attraction, both sexual and romantic. But when E did so... nothing, zip, nada.
Objectively and physically speaking, they are roughly equally attractive, but I've known T much longer and T is more of a domme and E is a switch and there is an evident disparity in confidence between them. To make matters more complicated, E is pre-trsnsition, while T has been transitioning for a while, so I kind of feel weird about being with E, even though I'm not usually picky about gender, because I know E doesn't yet feel like herself really, so any attraction I have or don't have feels almost misplaced somehow. I do not know if any of these are the relevant factor(s) that explains the difference or not.
E wants to keep hanging out after I let her down as gently as I could when she confessed to said crush, but idk I feel like she's not over me, and I don't want to lead her on accidentally and lose her as a friend.im going to message her to make sure she understands this, but it did get me thinking: if I'm demi, and there's a chance I could become attracted to E if we start spending more time together. This would be objectively a good thing, but the problem is, I have no idea of the exact reason I found T attractive and not E, and spending time with E feels risky because I don't understand how my attraction works and I both don't want to 1) tell her I'm not interested, and then accidentally catch feelings later nor 2) tell her there's a chance I might be interested in the future but have no control over it and give her what might turn out to be a false hope.
I will be talking with E soon, but idk how to approach it because although I know I'm demi, I have little understanding of when attraction happens for me.
All advice welcome.

I remained the RA of my dorm for the rest of my undergrad career. Then, after I graduated, there were some problems lining up a job. Apparently Stewart Newman's father was a biochemist, and little Stewart was destined to fend off extradimensional invaders (and yes, I know there is one reader who is now furiously typing up a letter explaining that the Chchshiuuni are NOT from another dimension, but I've read the Wikipedia article three times and I don't understand the distinction. You're reading my memoir, not my scientific explanation of extranormal invaders). His father, Victor Newman, was killed when the laboratory he worked at was hit by a meteorite, which, according to the investigative report, passed through 6 cylinders of various compressed gasses, ricocheted off a 7th, broke through a water line, shattered 9 containers of various other chemicals, then cracked the isolation unit on some kind of algae they were breeding for research on biofuels. This happened at 4:41 AM. Apparently this created something of a perfect storm as the chemicals reacted with the water and a very specific molecule produced by the algae acted as a catalyst which worked together to form pentanitroethyltoluenic acid, which is, according to the laws of chemistry, a chemical which desperately does not want to exist. For those not versed in chemistry, this stuff makes TNT look like HBO. That was supposed to say "H2O" but the I actually like it better this way. Anyway, the molecule was being synthesized in the laboratory for over four hours, until Victor arrived at a little before 9:00. His foot crossed the threshold and the laboratory detonated.
Prior to this event the company that ran the lab had just spent a bundle on a new security system with off site recording. This was the only evidence that could be used to put together the events, as according to the official report it "was as if God pressed the delete key".
So now that that story is floating around on Google there weren't a lot of labs that wanted to hire me. So I said fuck it. My ride is being paid for, let's go for a master's degree. Not like I had anything better to do. So I stayed in my dorm, working on my masters, and continued to be the RA.
A lot of the other RAs had horror stories about their dorms. About the nightmares they put up with. For me, for the most part, it was a breeze. If you want to become an RA and have an easy time with it, I have a few simple steps to insure you have it good.
Step 1: inherit the position from someone who's widely respected (thank you Helga)
Step 2: that person who is highly respected should make it known that you're carrying on their torch. (Thank you Helga)
Step 3: have really great women in your dorm. (Thank you Mr Pols)
Step 4: do your very best to fill the size 19 clogs that have been left for you to fill (wait, are clogs German? Oh who cares, I just said the Chchshiuuni were from another dimension)
That's not to say it was easy. I just didn't get the horror stories that others got. I never had to deal with Shane the Showerless or the Roach Incident. What I did have, however, were a lot of young women to look out for. And a lot of young women who came to me with their problems.
By the 2nd week I'd learned everyone's names, knew their majors, had a general idea about their schedules, home lives, and study habits. I knew who was a hard worker, who could keep a secret, who could hotwire a car, who could safely and reliably distill liquor and extract THC (It was me for those last 2 things. Hooray for biochemistry!) Not that I admit to having done any of those things, at least until the statute of limitations has passed. I also knew who needed help in their classes, who was too naive to go to a party alone, and who I could send them with to be sure they had a good time and made it home safe and sound.
In my third week as RA I called Helga because I missed her (I LOVE YOU HELGA) and we talked for like four hours and I gave her the rundown on everyone there and my assessments of such. Helga is many things, but a braggart is not one of them. It came as a surprise when Helga gloated for a full ten minutes about how she was right in her assessment of me. And yes, I guess it was pretty clever of me to "throw together five Amy's and a Rachel for frat party safety patrol." Rachel and Amy 3 were eye candy to serve as a diversion, Amy 2 and Amy 5 were recon to search for overly intoxicated girls, and Amy 1 and Amy 4 could either extract said girls like a SEAL team or steal booze like a… uh… SEAL team, as the situation dictated. By the end of the year they all had radios they used to stay in communication. I don't know where they got them, but they said they didn't buy them and were really evasive when asked about their origins.
Having taken over for Helga, I also grew something of a reputation. I kept her open door policy, any time, any problem, come talk to Shannon. You didn't need to be in my dorm. You didn't even need to be a woman. Hell, you didn't even need to be a student at our school. If you had a problem, I was available.
No one has problems at 2:00 on a sleepy afternoon when you've got a lot of energy and not enough to do. So this policy did make things a fair bit harder for me. Don't get me wrong, I've never regretted my policy, but problems did happen at almost comically inconvenient times.
For example, when I was having a really, really bad period and throwing up every six seconds, Amy (which Amy? I'll never tell. Just kidding, it was Amy 4) came to me because she'd just found out her childhood dog had died. What did I do? Chug half a bottle of pepto and force down half a pint of butter pecan. I kept it down, too, until she was back in her room asleep.
Little innocent Hannah got invited to a party the day of her last midterm, and really wanted to go. I had 4 mid terms left, and AMY team 6 was out or commission studying along with all my other go tos. So I went with her.
I don't think I'll ever forget that night. Hannah, sweet little innocent Hannah. Gorgeous, doe eyed Hannah. Naive, sheltered, quiet Hannah. Hannah is stunningly beautiful, and anyone who has met Hannah will know she has a very sharp wit and a way with words. What I didn't know is that she had a tongue sharp enough to kill a man at five paces. Hannah got rip roaring drunk (she did five shots in the 30 seconds it took me to pee) and then proceeded to massacre the entire fraternity.
Gary Fogelbaum was a senior, and a total dude bro. He was alright in a crisis and I do appreciate what he did when Pepper broke her leg, but at this point his respect for women left a bit to be desired. He could talk shit with the best of them, and he could take it better than he could dish it out. Five words. Five fucking words, and she left Gary Fogelbaum crying. He earned it. To be clear, she hadn't met Gary before. He sauntered up to her and hit on her, right in front of me. After her second no, he grabbed her hand and put it on his stomach and said "how can you say no to those abs."
Before I could knock his teeth out, Hannah, kind, caring, compassionate, saintly, Hannah disemboweled him. Right there in front of everybody. "Abs won't make daddy proud."
After that it was like something out of a Tarantino movie as I tried to steer her towards the door. Guys got in her way to try to avenge Gary and were verbally slaughtered without mercy. Heads were rolling, viscera was flying, blood was gushing. Nearly to the front door, someone grabbed her wrist.
Hannah spun with a gaze that could vaporize lead and her eyes landed on a short, skinny guy with glasses, who said "you almost forgot your purse" before handing it to her. She snatched her purse, shoved him against a wall and kissed him so hard I think his soul briefly left his body. And then we left. He's engaged to Hannah now, and I've got to say I'm a little jealous.

I need help 😭
I believe I’m experiencing some type of broken skin barrier after taking a break from my topical ointment. My skin has red spot , feels tights, super itchy, and stings when I put anything on my skin :/ I can’t sleep because of the discomfort! So my routine previously for about 3 months was:
AM Routine : Cleanser : innisfree Green Tea Hydrating Amino Acid Cleaning foam
Topical Ointment: Clindoxyl ADV Gel (Clindamycin 1% Benzoyl Peroxide 3%)
Moisturizer: Laneige -Water Bank Blue Hyaluronic Cream
SPF: Biore UV Watery Gel SPF 50+
PM Routine:
Makeup removal: Softymo Speedy cleansing oil
Cleanser : innisfree Green Tea Hydrating Amino Acid Cleaning foam
Topical Ointment: Clindoxyl ADV Gel (Clindamycin 1% Benzoyl Peroxide 3%)
Moisturizer: Laneige -Water Bank Blue Hyaluronic Cream
SPF: Biore UV Watery Gel SPF 50+
However I stop using my topical gel for about 2 weeks when I notice a change in my skin, hence the super itchy, dry, red spots!
I ordered the Kiehl’s Ultra Facial Advancement repair barrier cream hoping that would work.
Any better suggestions? I do have acne also but not a major concern rn. I just wonder how it happened?

Hi! We’re currently working on our wedding registry and I’m getting a bit caught up in how many things I need on it. We are inviting 185 people, expecting 150-165 to attend. How many gifts do you think I should have on it? Also, if you have any things you had on yours and loved let me know please :)

I graduated my BSc in August last year with an average GPA, no internship due to the 3-year research university programme. I’ve started my job search in November and had around 5 interviews so far but didn’t get any offers. Unfortunately since I’m an international student, I have to head back to my home country soon and that means I’ll have to adapt to a whole new job market and working culture, and I feel quite pessimistic finding a job in my home country because of that. So I also had a back up plan to do a Masters in ChemE this fall as well.
But before that what can I do to enrich my knowledge and experience as a chemical engineer? or basically something that can help me boost my CV for future internships? I’m currently learning a new language, taking online courses and learn to code. I’m also planning to take some GMP training once I’m back in my home country since its much more affordable there.
Taking a gap year makes me so guilty. It stresses me out seeing all my peers achieving things, getting jobs and opportunities. I feel like my life is stagnant at the moment and I don’t know how make myself feel better about this.

Been thinking about making a project that's sort of like a portfolio builder website. So, users can come to the site, register for an account, and showcase different projects they've been working on.
At first, to keep things simple, I'd start with only being able to have a profile picture, write an about section, upload some photos of their work, and showcase a link or two. Very similar to a LinkedIn profile or even a Notion page with some restrictions on what/where they can create.
Ideally, in the future, it would be much more customizable and almost be drag and drop. But, I'm not sure I'll ever get there (or want to get there).
I'm not a developer at all. I've developed a few WordPress sites using Oxygen. I have a little knowledge of CSS, HTML, PHP, and JavaScript. (About enough knowledge to know how to ask Google a question and find the answer after a few hours of fiddling with things.)
I'm 99% I could make an MVP with WordPress and Oxygen. But, I've been dancing around learning how to do web development for a long time and was wondering if anyone had suggestions about what to use and what different language(s) I should learn first to do this.
If anyone has any resources or ideas for this idea, please shoot em my way! Thank you!

I'm one of 4 co-defendants in England who have been pursued for a sum of money by a previous commercial landlord. The court sent us the claim on Feb 28th, and we initially wanted to defend the claim, so our solicitor sent the acknowledgement form on March 9th saying so.
Now we have changed our minds and intend to pay in full inc legal costs to avoid a long, costlier battle that we could potentially lose. Our solicitor is trying to talk us into fighting it but we can't take that kind of financial risk. We only had until 28th March to file a defence, but is it possible at this stage to change our minds and just offer to pay up? And would we avoid CCJs by doing so?
Also, if we do nothing now and a judgment is entered against us, how would that work out? Would the court split it out 4 ways and make each of us pay a quarter?
(From a personal point of view, this is my first time as a defendant of any kind, and I feel that I have been conned and backed into a corner by people who could afford a much better legal team than us).

I’d just like to start off by saying yes I know I need to move on and I’m working on it, but I just can’t understand this
My ex and I had a very great relationship, until she started acting very avoidant bc she was “going through stuff.” I won’t get too into it but she said she was miserable bc she was working to much, health problems, always tired, and TW
past SA trauma was apperently coming back so she felt uncomfortable around me. She said I never did anything wrong and it was just in her head but she said there were times we had sex she was uncomfortable (never told me and said she was “good at hiding it”) and that she had had a dream of me assaulting her. We had an amazing sex life, she even said very frequently she never enjoyed sex before me and that I was the best sex she’s ever had.
I tried so hard for weeks to make it work and really try but she was treating me terribly and honestly just disrespecting me/mistreating me. She would say she didn’t want to break up with me but that “it was unfair to be in a relationship with her”. When I was forced to walk away for my own mental health she did not seem to care at all but was filling me with hope saying “I’ll work on myself and we’ll talk again” things like that.
I was technically the “forced” dumper but I really feel like the dumpee. I recently reached out and she blatantly ignored me, I sent another message that was more personal (I know, stupid) and she also ignored that.
I’m just confused. We broke up on good terms and she said we’d talk again and that I didn’t do anything wrong. I know that was all bs but why does she have to ignore me? I’m just finding that hard to deal with considering how much I did for her. I know she doesn’t owe me but I need suggestions with how to cope with her ignoring me and moving on.

Hi, I've been reading tons of these threads and you guys have been super helpful when thinking about what breeds would be right for us. We are probably about 6 months to a year away from seriously looking at the available dogs in the area, so I've been doing breed research - figured I would post my exact answers to confirm or deny the breeds I had in mind. SO and I are in our mid-20s and will be in apartments for the forseeable future (thanks housing markets!). Here are my answers to the questionnaire:
Introduction

1) Will this be your first dog? If not, what experience do you have owning/training dogs?

I have had dogs growing up, and am generally pretty good with handling them and understanding their cues - but my SO has not, so I am mostly considering breeds that are better for first-time owners.

2) Do you have a preference for rescuing a dog vs. going through a reputable breeder?

I am somewhat mixed on this. Both have unique challenges. I like the idea of a rescue, but will need to keep reading about this.

3) Describe your ideal dog.

Good companion dog, medium energy, super friendly, basically the temperament Goldens have, but maybe in a medium sized dog. Emotionally supportive would be great especially, as my SO is a very emotional person. Something with soft fur would be great for the same reason!

4) What breeds or types of dogs are you interested in and why?

Personally, I just love the look of Spitz breeds. Samoyeds, Shibas, Schipperkes, Keeshonds - just adorable dogs. But I understand that there are various reasons certain spitzes are either not great for new owners or are fairly rare dogs to come across that would require traveling or going through a breeder with a waitlist. Hence my research has shown me a lot of dogs that are more accessible and suited for first time owners, namely goldens, labs, and greyhounds.

5) What sorts of things would you like to train your dog to do?

Nothing showy, just enough to behave on walks/at the park.

6) Do you want to compete with your dog in a sport (e.g. agility, obedience, rally) or use your dog for a form of work (e.g. hunting, herding, livestock guarding)? If so, how much experience do you have with this work/sport?

No, just a companion dog.
Care Commitments

7) How long do you want to devote to training, playing with, or otherwise interacting with your dog each day?

We both work full time, thankfully I am remote so I can pretty much hang out with the dog all day.

8) How long can you exercise your dog each day, on average? What sorts of exercise are you planning to give your dog regularly and does that include using a dog park?

I am remote and flexible, so I can do a 30m-1h walk in the morning and another after work or even during the day. I have heard that dog parks can mess with a dog's socialization so I'll need to keep reading about this. I understand that high energy working dogs, while adorable, are not suitable for new owners so I've been ruling out Aussies, Huskies, and Border Collies.

9) How much regular brushing are you willing to do? Are you open to trimming hair, cleaning ears, or doing other grooming at home? If not, would you be willing to pay a professional to do it regularly?

I don't mind regularly brushing a dog to control shedding. I would prefer to do trimming at home, but I'm not fully against paying for a groomer if the breed is better in the hands of a professional.
Personal Preferences

10) What size dog are you looking for?

So, I have only had large dogs and am looking at something more on the medium-smaller size. I've never had a small dog, so I can't rule them out, but to me a dog around the size of an Aussie is good. My SO is pretty light, so a dog that couldn't drag them but is large enough for them to walk alone and feel safe would be perfect.

11) How much shedding, barking, and slobber can you handle?

I don't mind regularly brushing a dog to control shedding. Excessive barking in the breed would be a problem since we are in apartments, so we'd need to train this away if it's an issue. Same with slobber, "reasonable" is fine.
12) How important is being able to let your dog off-leash in an unfenced area?
Not important. If I'm on a hike I'd rather keep a dog on a leash to be considerate of other hikers.
Dog Personality and Behavior

13) Do you want a snuggly dog or one that prefers some personal space?

Snuggly dog! Velcro OK. Part of the reason a medium-sized dog would be great would be to allow it to sit on our laps when we watch movies. A teddy bear dog.

14) Would you prefer a dog that wants to do its own thing or one that’s more eager-to-please?

Leaning eager to please?

15) How would you prefer your dog to respond to someone knocking on the door or entering your yard? How would you prefer your dog to greet strangers or visitors?

We are new to our city and live in apartments for the foreseeable future and plan to meet new people here. Ideally the dog would be friendly to strangers, but "guarded" is okay - just not outright aggressive or nonstop barking around strangers.

16) Are you willing to manage a dog that is aggressive to other dogs?

Willing to try and train this away and finally keep it away from other dogs if need be, yes.
17) Are there any other behaviors you can’t deal with or want to avoid?
Really just aggressive behavior that can't be trained away. This accounts for some hesitancy when we look at rescues.
Lifestyle

18) How often and how long will the dog be left alone?

While SO and I are remote at the moment, that could obviously change. I would prefer a breed that could be left alone during the workday without tearing up the apartment, if needed.

19) What are the dog-related preferences of other people in the house and what will be their involvement in caring for the dog?

SO is new to dogs, but they will be involved. It's just the two of us.

20) Do you have other pets or are you planning on having other pets? What breed or type of animal are they?

No other pets. I suppose years down the line when we're in more suitable housing we'd want a second dog.

21) Will the dog be interacting with children regularly?

Nope.

22) Do you rent or plan to rent in the future? If applicable, what breed or weight restrictions are on your current lease?

Yes, we rent. Apartments here have various rules against pits, dobermans, rotties, GSDs, Malinois. My last dog was a lovely pit/GSD mix that never bit anybody but I'm fully conscious of why apartments often don't allow them. I'm unaware of weight restrictions but am mostly looking at medium breeds anyway.

23) What city or country do you live in and are you aware of any laws banning certain breeds?

Seattle, Washington. Not aware of laws, but will hold to the above apartment banned breeds.

24) What is the average temperature of a typical summer and winter day where you live?

It rains a lot here and spans 35-80 degrees throughout the year with a week or two of snow in the winter. A dog that doesn't mind the rain would be ideal. I understand that short-coat breeds would need winter gear.
Additional Information and Questions

25) Please provide any additional information you feel may be relevant.

Thanks for reading!

26) Feel free to ask any questions below.

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My 10mo Boston Terrier has been with me for 3 weeks now. He’s very sweet and has made a lot of progress adjusting to his new home but can still be a little shy at times. We enrolled in beginner obedience classes a couple of weeks ago (he was previously being trained for show, so I thought it would be a great experience for him) and I quickly learned that he’s not very food motivated and it makes training difficult. Either that or adolescence is in full swing.
Anyways… back to the real issue. The breeder mentioned he was good in the car until he was 6mo when he got carsick on a 40 min drive. I thought “okay, no big deal, we can work on that!” but I had no idea he was actually terrified of the car? Once we get within 8-10ft of a car he immediately puts the brakes on. At first he was taking treats near the car but stopped and now he won’t even eat those specific treats in my apartment. Switched the treats, same deal. He’s only 13lb so I can pick him up and put him in the car and he will sit good in his booster seat with a harness seatbelt attachment. He’s a little shaky at first but once we start driving he will stop and just sits up with squinty eyes the whole time. We can go for 10-15 min drives to my parents house to play with their dogs and to obedience class without any signs of carsickness. I drive very carefully and talk calmly to him the whole time but I don’t offer treats as he won’t take them 99% of the time (I’m also worried that it would exacerbate the carsickness). Am I doing more damage by picking him up and putting him in the car before making him approach the car on his own first? How do I work on this if he’s not interested in treats (even high value ones)? Is he afraid of the car because he associated it with being carsick?
I’m a little heartbroken as I LOVE traveling with my dog and want him to experience things outside of the 5-10 mile radius of where we live :(

I’d just like to start off by saying yes I know I need to move on and I’m working on it, but I just can’t understand this
My ex and I had a very great relationship, until she started acting very avoidant bc she was “going through stuff.” I won’t get too into it but she said she was miserable bc she was working to much, health problems, always tired, and TW
past SA trauma was apperently coming back so she felt uncomfortable around me. She said I never did anything wrong and it was just in her head but she said there were times we had sex she was uncomfortable (never told me and said she was “good at hiding it”) and that she had had a dream of me assaulting her. We had an amazing sex life, she even said very frequently she never enjoyed sex before me and that I was the best sex she’s ever had.
I tried so hard for weeks to make it work and really try but she was treating me terribly and honestly just disrespecting me/mistreating me. She would say she didn’t want to break up with me but that “it was unfair to be in a relationship with her”. When I was forced to walk away for my own mental health she did not seem to care at all but was filling me with hope saying “I’ll work on myself and we’ll talk again” things like that.
I was technically the “forced” dumper but I really feel like the dumpee. I recently reached out and she blatantly ignored me, I sent another message that was more personal (I know, stupid) and she also ignored that.
I’m just confused. We broke up on good terms and she said we’d talk again and that I didn’t do anything wrong. I know that was all bs but why does she have to ignore me? I’m just finding that hard to deal with considering how much I did for her. I know she doesn’t owe me but I need suggestions with how to cope with her ignoring me and moving on.

Hi. I'm going crazy trying to organize my code in a functioning way. I'll explain my problem in detail, hoping someone can help me.
I'm developing a Restaurant management system using JavaFX. I want it to work through a centered switching content, so i used a BorderPane. The left node must contain buttons, that when pressed load into the center of the borderpane other nodes. For example, when i click the 'Create Menu' button, it loads the CreateMenu node inside the center of the borderpane.
Since i'm using an MVC pattern, my code is structured in this way:
- The 'View' is the FXML file + the 'FXML Controller'. I have to do this because the FXML Controller IS NOT the MVC Controller. The FXML controller is actually part of the view.
- The Controller is a class i use to deal with business logic.
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Now, passing on how i structured my code:
I have a HomepageView that gets loaded in the Main. The HomepageView also contains a reference to its controller, called HomepageController. I do want to use Dependency Injection, so i did not instantiate it in the declaration of variables: i simply declared it.
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public class HomepageView { @FXML private BorderPane borderPane; @FXML private Label labelUsername; private Stage stage; private Scene scene; private Parent root; private HomepageController homepageController; // Note that this controller is not istantiated with 'new'. I have to use the // 'set' method somewhere else. // ********************* public HomepageView(){}; @FXML public void initialize(){ labelUsername.setText(Utente.getUsername()); } public void setHomepageController(HomepageController homepageController) { this.homepageController = homepageController; } public void updateCenterView(Node node){ borderPane.getChildren().remove(borderPane.getCenter()); borderPane.setCenter(node); } //************************ // Action event public void clickButtonCreateMenu(){ homepageController.onCreateMenuButtonClicked(); // I do this because that's how my professor wants me to organize my code. // The actual event gets handled in the controller. } } 

Now, since i do not open and close different windows, but instead 'load different nodes inside the borderpane of the homepage', i need the HomepageController to be connected to all the different views, so that it can use their 'loadNode' method and pass it to the borderpane.
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This is my Homepage controller:
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public class HomepageController { HomepageView homepageView; CreateMenuView menuView; //... here are other views that i do not list for the sake of brevity //************************** // Constructor HomepageController(){}; //************************** // On Action Event public void onCreateMenuButtonClicked() { try { homepage.updateCenterView(menuView.loadNode()); } catch (IOException e) { throw new RuntimeException(e); } } // Setters public void setHomepageView(HomepageView homepage) { this.homepage = homepage; } public void setCreateMenuView(CreateMenuView createMenu) { this.menuView = createMenu; } 

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Now comes the tricky part: from what i understood, when you load a FXML file, its controller gets instantiated, just like when you do 'A a = new A()'.
But my homepageController must be connected to every view (in this case, to 'CreateMenuView', and 'HomepageView', since he has to access their methods and update the view), but i do not know how to make this works outside the Main class.
Since my Main class loads the Homepage, i did this and it works:
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public class Main extends Application { public static void main(String[] args) { launch(args); } @Override public void start(Stage stage) throws IOException { FXMLLoader fxmlLoader = new FXMLLoader(HomepageView.class.getResource("/homepage/homepage.fxml")); Scene scene = new Scene(fxmlLoader.load()); stage.setTitle("Homepage"); stage.setScene(scene); stage.show(); // i create the controller, so that i can pass it to the view using DI, // since i did not instantiate it right in the view using 'new' HomepageController homeController = new HomepageController(); // I get a reference to the homeView, so that i can set the HomepageController in it HomepageView homeView = fxmlLoader.getController(); // I set them to each other. Now, homecontroller can not give me a NullPointerException when it uses homeview, and vice versa homeView.setHomepageController(homeController); homeController.setHomepageView(homeView); } } 

Now, going back to CreateMenu: in homepageController, when i click on createMenu button, it calls a 'loadNode' method in CreateMenuView, which simply loads the node and returns it, so it can be added to the BorderPane.
Here comes the problem: i'm going crazy making things work, because homepageController NEEDS an instance of CreateMenuView, and when it gets to this line i get the error:

 homepage.updateCenterView(menuView.loadNode()); The error is that 'this.menuView' is actually null. 

I know my explanation is pretty convoluted and i'm sorry if it's difficult to understand what i'm trying to say, but i don't know how to deal with this.
What i'm asking is: since i want to use this approach... what's the best way to deal with this problem, respecting the MVC pattern?
I was thinking of maybe loading every node in my HomepageController, so that it can use them when he needs them, but this would mean creating more variables: one for the 'MenuView' class, and one for the 'MenuView' node. I don't know if it's the right approach.
Anyone can help me? I want a nicely organized code, so i think i may be on the right way, but since i'm not too expert i'm getting tangled.

MyQuals: class 10: 94%, class 12 commerce: 96.5%, BA English Honours sem 6: 7.34 gpa so far
Also, got a college prize for good academic performance in first year
College extracurriculars: did some incredible social media marketing work for a major college fest, social media marketing manager of litsoc, did UN Millennium Fellowship, won a paper presentation competition (published in college department journal)
School extracurriculars: scored distinction till grade 3 of classical guitar exam from Trinity College of London, won 2 competitions and got published in a poetry anthology and a collection of essays, won on a city level in a writing competition twice in a row, was the English Literary Head in class 11
(These are probably not that significant but I thought I would add for the sake of it)
Apart from this stuff, I have freelanced on and off. Had some incredible months when I was earning a full time income. Other months were dry because it's very difficult to balance freelancing with college stuff. Overall, it's kind of difficult to prove my freelance work as proper work experience since it has been so erratic.
Maybe I can reach out to one major client from Canada for a testimonial of sorts about the work I did for them but that was a very short stint (like 3 months). Also, not sure how credible a testimonial would be.
(If it helps, I do have a couple of testimonials on my LinkedIn)
I have been scoring 99+ percentile in my CAT mocks though quant section needs some improvement. Preparation going strong.
I was wondering if all this is enough to build a strong profile to get calls from top B-schools (IIM-ABC, FMS, etc)? Or do I need to do more?
Some upcoming stuff I've got planned:

• Have another fest coming up for which I will be doing marketing work as the marketing manager
• Prolly gonna write one more paper since this is my last semester
• Maybe publish some blog content under my name in my domain (B2B SaaS) since all the work I have done so far is ghostwork?
• Pick up an internship so that I have something to make up for the lack of work experience??

This exam means a lot to me and ideally, I wanna get into the best institute possible in my 2023 attempt only (it's my first time).
What do you guys recommend? What can I do to make my profile stronger?
Also, for more context, I'm a girl.
P. S. Sorry for the long post. I'm paranoid about not making it and just wanted to give all info possible upfront.

I’d just like to start off by saying yes I know I need to move on and I’m working on it, but I just can’t understand this
My ex and I had a very great relationship, until she started acting very avoidant bc she was “going through stuff.” I won’t get too into it but she said she was miserable bc she was working to much, health problems, always tired, and TW
past SA trauma was apperently coming back so she felt uncomfortable around me. She said I never did anything wrong and it was just in her head but she said there were times we had sex she was uncomfortable (never told me and said she was “good at hiding it”) and that she had had a dream of me assaulting her. We had an amazing sex life, she even said very frequently she never enjoyed sex before me and that I was the best sex she’s ever had.
I tried so hard for weeks to make it work and really try but she was treating me terribly and honestly just disrespecting me/mistreating me. She would say she didn’t want to break up with me but that “it was unfair to be in a relationship with her”. When I was forced to walk away for my own mental health she did not seem to care at all but was filling me with hope saying “I’ll work on myself and we’ll talk again” things like that.
I was technically the “forced” dumper but I really feel like the dumpee. I recently reached out and she blatantly ignored me, I sent another message that was more personal (I know, stupid) and she also ignored that.
I’m just confused. We broke up on good terms and she said we’d talk again and that I didn’t do anything wrong. I know that was all bs but why does she have to ignore me? I’m just finding that hard to deal with considering how much I did for her. I know she doesn’t owe me but I need suggestions with how to cope with her ignoring me and moving on.

Howdy, y'all'ses'd've. Just wanted to get some thoughts on how one describes themselves when they're more than just a web dev, designer, or whatever. On stuff like LinkedIn or forms, I usually just put "Web Developer" or something similar but for my own personal branding, I'm not too sure what the right label would be since I do more than just web dev or web design; I've basically set my goal to be more or less a one-man digital agency, just more of the branding, dev, design, and copy aspects and not social media or traditional advertising activities.
What the hell do you even call someone who does all of those things? At one time I used "Digital Architect" but it sound a bit pretentious and vague. I'm very aware of the general wisdom about trying to be everything to everybody and about having too much on the menu, but I genuinely enjoy doing the things I listed and know I'm at least decent enough at them that my clients usually want my services. As I'm working on pinning down a coherent and concrete brand, I'm just not coming up with a solid descriptor that is clear and not too fuzzy. Any place where there's content I can expand and explain my positioning via copy but for something like an email signature, I need to have something that's concise and intelligible.
Do any of you provide/do more than just strictly web development when doing client work? How do you navigate this issue as a multi-potentialite or Renaissance man/woman of the digital era?

Subliminals are a manifestation method that comes in audio format. It targets the subconscious mind and the subconscious mind basically contains your beliefs that controls your reality. A Subliminal has affirmations hidden within that audio where you can't hear it consciously but your subconscious hears it and it changes your subconscious beliefs which changes your reality. It's not a type of thing where you get full results from it in 1 listen. It takes repetition to get full results from it. Some get full results within a year, 6 months, etc. It's different for everyone. Subliminals challenges the old subconscious beliefs and they compete which can also start negative emotions during the process of subliminals like feeling not good enough, depressed, etc. You have to keep listening and ignore those negative feelings and emotions. And once you keep doing that, your new beliefs will overpower the old one and then you'll start to see more and more results overtime. Everything is energy. Including you that is also how supernatural subs work. Energy can only be transferred and not destroyed. Your whole body is a whole nuclear explosion of energy itself. Everything is energy including you. Energy can't be destroyed. Only transfered which makes your Physiology transform into a species based on the subliminal or get powers. Flawless proof of this is a corpse can turn into soil. You don't need any method for faster results. Methods were introduced because some people are not dedicated and so this new beliefs of methods came about and thought of and is not needed. When you stop listening to a sub and listen to a new one, because it’s different affs, your your subconscious is listening to a new one. So it’s receiving the new sub affs and forgetting the old one at the same time. You'll get your desired stuff. Also, if you don't know exactly what you want in a sub, your subconscious already in knows so it'll manifest your desired stuff even if you don't know what your desired stuff is consciously. If you listen to desired face subs for example, you don't have to keep looking at your desired face picture because everything that we ever seen, heard, Touch, felt, and tasted are stored in the subconscious mind so you don't have to keep trying to remember consciously. And that's with any sub. A new method by me to get faster results, not the youtube methods. Let go of your current reality which means to forget about it and allow the new reality / subliminal affirmations to come into you and allow it to change your reality without letting the current reality impact you. You can also use that with any law of attraction which is to let go and bring in. It is Law of attraction but not detaching from the subs but detaching from the frequency of the past reality into the new one. When people are telling you to detach from subs, that's backwards. You detach from the past reality and align yourself with the new reality that you're creating. So basically you're also changing your frequency as well that changes your reality. Your reality doesn't have to change your frequency unless you allow it to. That's also the reason why subliminals work better while you sleep because while you are sleeping, your mind is doing exactly that. You are more suggestible to programming and that is called theta. You can also do that while you're awake and I just explained to you how. For how long subliminals takes, It depends on how much your subconscious believes the sub and how much it has been brainwashed into thinking that it's not. The more mental strength you have to keep going with subs, the better you'll be able to handle your journey. Also, for people listening to subs, I had a phase once where I had like 2 or more playlists and wanted multiple lives and didn't know which one I truly wanted so I did meditation on it and figured out my life path subliminals that I wanted truly for my soul. Subs are a lifestyle choice and not just something to try out. The meditation method to figure it out may not work for everyone but it worked for me. I just put my phone down, took off my headphones and meditated on what I truly wanted in life.

I'm just going to start this prefaced with I have literally no idea what I'm doing and where the next 12 months of my life will lead me.
Around 4 and a half years ago I reunited with an ex girlfriend who happened to have fallen pregnant (we split up around a year and a half prior and both had a string of relationships / and a couple of 1 night stands).
We really didn't know what to do at that point as she was pregnant, it wasn't mine but we were getting on really well again. Literally were sat in the bath in a travelodge debating our future.
We decided we'd try and make a go of it but would be clear that I wasn't daddy.
The pregnancy was rough and the lack of physical contact as she didn't like being pregnant at all.
Soon as he was here, everything changed, our closeness from the early pregnancy /our previous relationship had returned and I took to my big lad straight away. That's it, he was my son and no one would ever take that away.
It didn't take long for us to become pregnant with our second. We were scared to have 2 in such a small space of time but excited.
Then the lack of physicality came back and I'll be honest, I was an utter cunt. I began messaging other women from my past, sexual messages and nudes were exchanged both ways. While she was pregnant with my son.
We got past that or so I thought but the damage was done and our close bond was virtually ruined. So I returned to my shitty ways.
Especially as at the time I did night shifts with not a lot to do on shift. 12 hour shift with rarely more than 5 hours work. She worked 3 of the 4 nights I would have off so we had no time, virtually being single parents.
One night when I was working on a traction motor on a train and I dropped a 90kg prop shaft on to my finger. My accident was judged to be my fault and I lost that job.
I then I had to find a new job, where my wage was a third of what I was earning. And we had to figure out a new rotation for caring for our children.
This led to severe financial worries to add to the ruined trust. We lost use of our second car so she became trapped in the house but her stress with that meant that I could never do over time to top up my crappy wages.
Now things have come to a head, we've split, but we live in the same house, somewhere between best friends and mortal enemies.
We need to figure out a plan so not to disturb the children too badly, get her into a new home and figure out how we'll split our responsibilities to the lads.
All this while both battling severe depression. I have no idea what this next year will hold, but I'm not holding my breath for it to be good.

I posted a few weeks ago about how I was coming to New York for the first time since 2019. I packed 4 shows into a weekend and am now infinitely more excited to see how this year's Tonys play out. In the order of which I saw them:
Shucked - A lot of my thoughts are in line with the more lukewarm reviews on here. I had a great time and don't regret seeing it, but there were also a lot of things I didn't love about it. The comedy was definitely the main appeal. There were about a third of the jokes that really weren't my style (all the potty humor), and one that I think really crossed the line in a way that had me wondering why it was even included (the rape joke), but at the end there were just so many jokes that there were plenty that did have me giggling. I think the main issue I had with it was that it was so silly, that when it tried to be sentimental, it completely lost me. When I first saw their marketing I was confused at how none of it actually explained what the show was about, and now that I've seen it I can see why - the plot is not exactly the draw here. There were so many country ballads in the second act that I was just bored - I didn't care enough about these characters to stay invested. I also completely agree with everyone that Alex Newell is seriously underutilized and moreover I think part of the problem is that after a showstopper pretty early in the show, all of their songs are bland ballads where they really don't get to show off their skills. The other thing was that a lot of the jokes were played as self-deprecating jokes about rural people which plays as kind of weird to a New York audience, like even though the characters are laughing at themselves, the play as a whole is punching down. I kind of wonder who those jokes are for. Ticket notes: I got this through Broadway Roulette and was just so happy that I didn't get Bad Cinderella that I was probably in a better mood that night for it. I get seats in the middle of the mezzanine. The view was great but the leg room at the Nederlander is awful and the mezzanine is so steep that I got dizzy a few times.
Leopoldstadt - I came in with some mixed expectations about this one. I am Jewish and I also love Jewish history (I minored in Jewish Studies in college and did another year post-college of Torah study). A good number of my (also Jewish) friends had seen it before me and mostly had mixed reviews. I'm somewhat familiar with Tom Stoppard's other works, mostly Arcadia, which I saw twice and read. I also love a lot of "Jewish plays", but I don't usually love Holocaust fiction of any sort. Having said all that, I was almost surprised by how much I loved this and how 2 hours and 15 minutes flew by. I loved hearing them debate antisemitism, Zionism, Marxism, assmilation, etc. I loved the classic Stoppard technique of using mathematical concepts as a metaphor for the larger story. And though I've heard several people say they wish the Holocaust wasn't included, I think facing some of my own generational trauma was worth it because I loved the last scene. I will say that what contributed to my reaction was that A. my own ancestors were pretty similar to the family in the play (they were German and Italian and not Austrian, and I did have some more who particularly on the Italian side who got out before the Holocaust, but as far as them being completely secular and assimilated, and the German side of my family being almost completely erased, it was accurate) and B. I came in pretty prepared, having read Stoppard's story about his heritage and having been told that you shouldn't get bogged down in the characters or the relations, but rather on the dialogue. That was very good advice. Also, I love Falsettos and it was really good to see Brandon Uranowitz and Anthony Rosenthal together on stage again. Ticket notes: I got these through TDF and they were great seats in the front row of the mezzanine. Perfect for being able to capture the entire stage and all of the actors while also being able to clearly see their faces.
Kimberly Akimbo - My favorite show I saw on this trip! After seeing Shucked, I appreciated even more how well this show balanced humor with honest emotion. The entire cast was at the top of their game, and I don't think there was a single moment that I wasn't completely engaged. I didn't know Bonnie Milligan before this but I hope she shows up in EVERYTHING after hopefully winning the Tony for this.I also love Jeanine Tesori and this seemed like a great example of why. Ticket notes: I won the lottery! It seemed like at my show all the lottery winners were in the front row (the way I'm pretty sure it used to be with all shows). It has been a while since I've sat so close and while my neck didn't love it, it was so cool to be able to see every tiny detail and see the actors right there. Also I really feel like I lucked out by winning the lottery since I wanted to see this no matter what and was planning on rushing or doing TKTS otherwise, but this freed up my morning to do other things :)
Sleep No More - Not a Broadway show but one still theater, technically? This was the first ticket I bought for this trip (and ironically my most expensive one as there are no discounts that I know of) and I knew some going in but tried to keep mostly mostly spoiler-free. I'm very glad I experienced it and loved the world that they created but also I was completely lost on any semblance of plot besides what I know of the Scottish play, which did not really line up with what I actually saw. I didn't really stick with any one character mostly since I wasn't interested in running and especially not running up multiple flights of stairs repeatedly. I'm glad I got to see many different actors' performances, although I do wonder if I did follow just one, especially one of the Macbeth characters (I have now read that there are actually two plotlines happening, one based on Rebecca), I may have gotten a little more out of it. I do understand now why people go so many times since it would be good to see more scenes especially knowing more about how it works, although with the cost of a ticket I'm not really sure how that's feasible for most people. I did feel very lucky to get a one-on-one and it was both very cool and supremely uncomfortable. I am not used to all that prolonged eye contact and touching (consensual, but still surprising) from a stranger, let alone a stranger in character. Other notes: They do tell you to wear good shoes for walking which I did but I did not wear good shoes for standing and that did my feet in by the end of the three hours (plus time spent waiting in line). Also really glad I was warned to wear my contacts! COVID masks are no longer required but I still wear one and I would have seen nothing if I was wearing that plus my glasses under the stage mask. Also I'm really glad I didn't have a drink at the bar before the show because I already feel like I almost fell or stumbled multiple times in the dark and the chaos.
BONUS: The Museum of Broadway - This was gorgeous and very informative but not worth the price of admission. I was kind of shocked at how some of the other guests seemed to not be super invested in Broadway (I overheard someone asking another person what Hairspray is) because I would not have dropped that kind of money if it wasn't for pretty much my favorite topic. It took me about 90 minutes to get through, and that was while reading the panels somewhat thoroughly. I will stay that it was fun talking to the staff! They're mostly college-aged folks who were pretty nerdy for this stuff and it was fun to compare experiences of different musicals with them. Also my favorite of their prop collection is the cod from Come from Away.
Overall a successful trip! Curious to hear your thoughts about any of the above.

Sometimes the right thing happens at the right time, and sometimes it doesn't. I cannot be the only one who thought that had the new Indy movie been put into production a few years later, or Ke Huy Quan won his Oscar a few years earlier, we might have been seeing a true passing of the mantle to him instead of whatever they've got for Dial of Destiny.
True, Dial of Destiny may yet be great, and we don't have to worry about Shia LeBeouf continuing the franchise anymore with all his legal issues, but both spiritually and acting wise, I want to see Short Round take over the hat and whip.
So imagine an Indy 5 taking place around the 1960's. After Temple of Doom, Indy and Short Round go their separate ways or was separated somehow, and they haven't seen each other in 30+ years. Indy gets into some kind of trouble, and somehow a now adult Short Round played by Quan either comes to help his old friend or gets entangled in the adventure somehow. The ending should be a passing of the torch, Indy retiring (or dying!) and Short Round vowing to continue his friend's work.
The movie should also explore a bit of what happened to Short Round after they separated. Was is a mutual separation? Did they get sick of each other? What did Short Round do in the meantime? I saw someone after the Oscars tweet out a "what if?" where Short Round gets into teaching inspired by his old mentor and I can't get that image out of my head. Also if you can figure out how to gracefully get rid of Shia LeBeouf's character from Crystal Skull that would be great, but I'm fine if you just ignore that movie's entire existence.